08/12/2010
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I've signed the contract at our original venue (no deposit required).
Total cost to have ceremony there is $300 for 4 hours, absolutely HAVE to be pulling out of the parking lot at 3pm. We don't get a room to get ready in or any other ammenities. It's called Les Bourgeoius Winery and it's about 45 mins from where 90% of our guests live, then we'd have to drive back here(45 mins) for our reception in an Elks Lodge with blah food and a lodge type reception. Nothing wrong with that, I originally never thought we could afford anything better, so I was completely happy with it. Total cost of both would be about $1,800. The winery was my top choice because it's absolutely beautiful. Here's the link, check out the photo gallery.

http://www.missouriwine.com/Gallery.php

Then, my florist (family) called in a favor to the owner of a local garden that is the ultimate wedding spot! We would have our ceremony AND reception there. It's mostly outdoors with an indoor backup that's equally as gorgeous. Top notch service with amazing food. Overall, this place is WAY more gorgeous! Here's the link check it out.

http://www.alpineparkandgardens.com/

The second venue choice is only going to be a couple hundred more! Only $2,000!!!! He's really cutting us an amazing deal. Here's the kicker...my original date was 9-10-11, really cute date on a Saturday, blah blah perfect! The 2nd venue, we can't get married there on a Sat, he'll only give us that price for a Sunday. The next day would be 9-11-11!!! So my question is....Should I get married on a "bad day" in history just so I can have the amazing venue and everything dreamlike to go with it??? I could always go with another sunday in Sept of 2011, which would be the 4th, 11th, 18th and the 25th. None of those are as cutesy as 9-10-11, but idk.... or is 9-11 not offensive? Someone has already said she thought that would be a Bad Luck Charm!!!! I don't know what to do! Please give me all your thoughts.
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tholmen08's Orange wedding
tholmen08
 |  Broadview, SK, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
I really like the 2nd one, and although you should go with what you would like and not worry about what they say Sept 4th would be the long weekend which is always good for out of town guests!
ladydamm's Pink wedding
ladydamm
 |  Windsor, ON, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
oh it's not a bad luck to get married on that day. it was 10 years ago and it's a shame people think that getting married on that day is bad luck -- people don't say that getting married when WW2 or another huge disaster date happened was bad luck.

if it works for you, then it works. don't get all caught up in specific dates. what it is about is you and your future hubby making a commitment to each other and starting the rest of your lives together.

and yeah, i'd 100% move on over to  alpine park and gardens!
finallytyingtheknot's Pink wedding
finallytyingtheknot
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
I agree with Ladydamm...yes it's an important day in history and very much a vivid memory however you will not be the first or last person to get married on that date and why not make it a special happy day for your family and friends?! But if it bothers you too much then just more to another Sunday! And yes...for $200 DEFINITELY move to a place that will make you happier!

p.s. These days lots of people are getting married on days other than Saturdays so no worries there! (will he give you the same price for a Friday?)
deneanrae's Blue wedding
deneanrae
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
I say go with the second choice.... its so beautiful and will so much easier for your guests. I know it sucks to lose deposits...heck ive lost ton with my decision making before really thinking it over. We had to change our date also to accomodate for our venue switch but in the end its fine and its just a date! Im kinda superstitous so I wouldnt pick Sept 11....I would pick the weekend before as its a long weekend and ppl get the monday off...so its like a saturday in disguise. That or the week after. Its your choice tho!
deneanrae's Blue wedding
deneanrae
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
I pick Sept 4.......... but im biased cuz my wedding is sept 4, 2010 LOL
lynnie11276's Blue wedding
lynnie11276
 |  Pittsburgh, PA, USA  |  08/12/2010  | 
I say go with the 9/11 date.  How can anyone say that date is a omen.  Heck babies are born on that date.  I guess all of them will have bad lives?
twilightfairy's Black wedding
twilightfairy
 |  Winnipeg, MB, Canada  |  08/12/2010  | 
The alpine lodge is so beautiful.  We can find something horrible that has happened any day of the year.  That date just sticks out as a recent tragedy.  For $200 I would definitely go with the venue.  It looks amazing!
6yrs2kidsl8tr's Purple wedding
6yrs2kidsl8tr
 |  Mexico, MO, USA  |  08/13/2010  | 
Oh my gosh ladies, thank you so much! I'll update our decision asap
jessiesky's Purple wedding
jessiesky
 |  Carlisle, PA, USA  |  08/13/2010  | 
The second place seems AWESOME and for only a bit more definitely worth it!!

It's only a date. My friend's baby girl was born 9/11 the year it happened and no one thought of it like "omg she was born on a "bad" day"...I think it's a great chance to have the wedding you want AND take a 'bad day' and give it reasons to be a good one!
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