07/17/2011
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I'm back....with drama!
Time to vent!

Hello beautiful brides to be! I've been gone for a while, but I'm back now. I've just been really busy with work, school, and planning our wedding. The stress comes and goes, and I've learned most of the stress is due to the people around me. Whether its work or planning this wedding, any stress that I've encountered is because of people!

The Drama and Stress

I am dealing with some unreliable people which is why I am just trying to do as much as I can by myself. When I do ask someone for help, they don't hold up their end. I honestly can't wait until this is over. My parents are inviting people who I don't know or haven't seen since I was 8 years old... oh and did I forget to say fh and I are the ones paying for the wedding, not my parents. It's just annoying. I have people who are constantly telling me what I'm doing wrong and how their way is better. It's insane!

More Drama

I've had one bridesmaid to basically say "f-you, I'm not meeting the deadlines" I haven't asked any of my bridesmaids to do anything with the wedding except to purchase their dress and shoes and one can't even do that! We have 4 months left and she hasn't ordered her dress yet. When I called her, she actually gave me attitude. I mean seriously! I have given her a couple more days and if it isn't taken care of, she it OUT! I would have kicked her out before that, but fh convinced me to give her a few more days... but that's it!

Thought it was over....More Drama!

I decided to get my bridesmaids dresses from Davids Bridal. I have several people out of town and this is the only store that was located near where most of my bridesmaids live. I am purchasing my dress from another store. No big deal in my eyes....well apparently it is a problem for some people. My bridesmaid's husband came to me and said "why isn't my wife getting her dress from the same place as you!" I mean seriously!
And he said with an attitude! He acted as if I was trying to give her an ugly, cheap dress and get a nice one for myself. Umm...really? She picked out the dress! I just thought that situation was so ridiculous.

Well, I really had to let that out! Lol! People are driving my crazy. I should be enjoying this wedding planning, but obviously this isn't going to happen.
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osche2be's Green wedding
osche2be
 |  Butler, PA, USA  |  07/17/2011
Don't worry...I understand.  I'm dealing with unreliable bridesmaids.  My MOH apparently thinks it's her wedding..she and another bm ganged up on my sister and made her cry..I mean, people get very two-faced with weddings.  I'm chalking it up to her being jealous because she was supposed to get married twice before and never made it to the altar both times.  All of us at WBC are here to support you and feel free to vent.  I'm sure a lot of us can relate to you!
laurie88's Orange wedding
laurie88
 |  Westminster, MD, USA  |  07/17/2011
Girl.. I FEEL YOUR PAIN! I am 12 days away from my wedding and have 2 of my bridesmaids that STILL haven't had their dress fitted or bought shoes, my bridal party is a joke. They didn't do a damn thing.. I really regret my choice to have a large bridal party. Had I had the chance FH and I would just have 1 BM and 1 MOH. My ex MOH told me 2 weeks ago that she would no longer be in my wedding, REALLY! After gifts are bought and the programs are printed. I was so pissed. Also, my mom is the same way, she invited people that we don't even know or talk to, which is annoying because we are already over the initial guest list count. All these extra costs are adding up 2 weeks before our wedding as well, and I'm just so stressed out. if the maids aren't helping now, I suggest you give them the ultamatium to drop out if they choose too, before you get farther along and feelings are really hurt in the end. I try to think of the positive things like how amazing it will be seeing my FH for our first look, and after 8 years together FINALLY being married, and having those private moments at our sweetheart table (so glad we decided to do this!) I am anxious for it to be over though, so we can move on with our lives.. planning a wedding is stressful. No matter how well prepared you are, I had no idea my bridal party would be this ridiculous! but, I have to put a smile on my face and deal with it for 2 more weeks.. you however have the choice now to fix things!
fabulousbride2011's Blue wedding
fabulousbride2011
 |  Washington, DC, USA  |  07/18/2011
Don't Stress, people true colors come out when its wedding planning time, some people just act inconsiderate. I guess your parents are so happy and just want everyone to watch their daughter get married. I know the feeling because I had to tell my mom, no more people because she would want the world to be there if she could. FH and I are paying for these wedding ourselves, so I understand how you feel when its come down to that. If I could start over, it would be a much smaller wedding and fewer bridesmaids. Girl I understand, but everything will work out
sonomama80's Black wedding
sonomama80
 |  Poughkeepsie, NY, USA  |  07/18/2011
OMG!!!  i totally hear you. my fuckin BFF who i demoted from my MOH to a brides maid also refuses to buy her dress until like 2 months before my wedding. asshole, i already told her if you dont have the dress your OUT! it is very stressful, me and my fh area also paying for our wedding and i told my parents we will invite who we want and quite frankly i dont give a rats ass if anyone gets offended. times are tough and if i only seen you when i was 5 years old, you dont need to come to my wedding anyway. my fh is really awsome about shit like that. he already told his own mother that she is not iviting anyone. lol!! yeah!!  good luck, dont sweat the small stuff, your days as well as all of ours will be amazing!! xoxo
kristah's Green wedding
kristah
 |  Langley, BC, Canada  |  07/18/2011
Ok, I'm sorry, but I'm laughing at the guy who was worked up about the dresses not being from the same spot.
How silly! Anyway, the bridesmaids dresses I was seeing in the boutique shops were anywhere form $300-$600! I sure wouldn't be complaining!

I think you just need to put your foot down about the inviting, I wouldn't even discuss it. Just tell them the list is done, if you have free spots later you might be able to invite the extras. (then you can just forget :P)

The bridesmaid sounds like a cow, sorry, since she must be a friend. But I hope she gets her act together for you!
hismrsb's Purple wedding
hismrsb
 |  Grimsby, ON, Canada  |  07/18/2011
girl, i know exactly what you’re going through!
it’s so hard to find people who truly care and want to share all these happy moments (or what should be happy moments) but they are just so ignorant and it’s frustrating. but i find that as long as i have my fhubby, i'm always able to pick myself back up and move on. its hard i know, but you’re not in this alone.
hismrsb's Purple wedding
hismrsb
 |  Grimsby, ON, Canada  |  07/18/2011
sorry, i pressed send when i wasn't done (hehe!)

i just wanted to say that i hope all works out for your and we are all here when you need to vent! i also don't mean this in the wrong way, but your bm's husband who got upset about the dress and different location situation made me laugh a little. so dramatic lol. anyway, feel better & good luck!

xox
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