alybrand's Blue wedding

I just say that we are on  a tight  budget and I don't know who I be able to invite yet (just our families are 120 people) so we have to be very selective when it comes to friends... It might not be too late to send them after graduation but you might feel better if you just let them know you can't invite them all

i had the samething happen i work with about 20 people in my department but i am only inviting 3 at first everyone thought they were going to come but over time people realized i was only going to invite the few i was close with. what i usually say is o my venue only holds " this many" and i knew these people first or something along those lines

I get ya. I feel a little double whammy here since I am in school and I work. There are only 33 people in the nigh JD program, I know all of them. I am close to like 4 so I am only inviting them.

Then there is work, there are about 40 people in our department alone, I work at a huge law firm and know people from other departments too though! My biggest issue is inviting the attorneys I work with. I work with all of them, some in more capacity than others. If I invite some and not others they might feel snubbed and it might affect my working relationship with them. This will be a toughy. I have no idea yet how to deal with this.

Well I am glad I am not the only one having issues with this! Obviously not everyone can come, so people are just going to have to deal with it... thanks girls for giving me your advice so far- it is much appreciated!

What i did is invited people that are close to me then everyone else i sent a reception only invite. That way they are still invited but i dont have to feed them lol..... since that can be very expensive. I have talked to a few of them and they are excited to come and the only thing they said was your having a small wedding right. And of course i said yes(not a lie lol). I havent seemed to make any one mad yet with this idea. Worth a shot

I agree with Carissa. Invite only some to the wedding, then have a larger group for the reception. A cousin of mine recently did that, and it worked out great. This way, nobody feels left out, but not having to feed everyone saves some $$. They were married in a smaller church (the ony they had been going to since birth) so were able to use the excuse "the church doesnt fit everyone".

 And, that "plus one guest" really makes a difference, eh? haha 25% of my guest list seems to be the "plus one guest".

I say invite who you REALLY want to be there. When you look back in 10 years, you want to be satisfied with whoyou invited. Also, not everyone of my guests can bring a guest., Or we would have 300 people. If you are engaged or married, of course 2 people will come but we cant afford to have 300 people there...

I am lucky I only have 8 people in my office and 2 of them are family so of course they are invited automatically plus those 2 are married so really it is only 1 invitation!!

that's what i am going through right now...some of my coworkers are like i better be invited to your wedding chineye and i'm thinking to myself that you aren't invited.  we are paying for our wedding and even though i am cool with some of them i'm not inviting them, i'm only inviting the ones that i'm VERY close to and that is just a small handful.

I totally understand I was going through that as well, but quickly decided that our wedding is strictly for close family and friends...luckily our wedding ceremony and reception is at a wonderful place and they included in our  package a LIVE viewing of our wedding reception so family and friends who can't make it or aren't invited can view it on-line...sweet!!!

i think the reception is what is expensive, not the ceremoney...i say invite all of the to the ceremony( i don't know if you are havingin a church or not). And kindly tell them that the reception if for close friends and family only. they will understand.

I say this because my problem is the reception..wich is really expensive and only can hold a certain number of people, and EVERYBODY wants to come to my wedding and reception. I don't mind people coming to the ceremony, its going to be in a big church...plus at the ceremony we are only paying to feed upto 220 people...can't afford much more.

Just dont give your friends their invitations in front of everyone else, Try to get their emails or something, then you can send them a reminder or save the date invitation and perhaps their mailing addresses.

Ok, so I got some ideas running through my head - this is good. I am glad to hear that some of you are not doing a + 1 guest. I think I can at least leave that one out for my school buds since they all know each other and don't need an extra with them! Ahh, just to get it over with! Thanks!

Who do you think you will be close to in 15 years? Go with that. We ONLY had immediately family and very close friends, friends that have been with us for many years. None of the newbies. Just blame it on budget, that's what we did, and it's the truth. Real friends will understand! :)

hey thanks - that is a good philosophy. And if you put it that way - well maybe there is only a select few. Cool.

I am not liking the plus one either, but when there is a space on the RSVP for them to put number of guests what is stopping people from putting 2 instead of just themselves?

That is so true! And people will totally do that. what's a girl to do!? lol. I'll just have to suck it up.