amarsh01's Green wedding

I think we will all have our little bits of information that might help one another........ Mine are rather long, bare with me :) Some are serious and some are a little silly, but they all really played a role in our wedding day.

1) It may not go as planned, but don't worry, no one will notice... hopefully a) running out of chairs, after working dilligently to rent the perfect ones, you still have to break out the white plastic ones for extra guests. b) picking a first dance song, 10 min prior to dance :) c) the caterer not providing water... which was supposed to happen.. only tea and alcohol were offered. d) the best man forgot to go back and get his mom (the mother of the groom) for the recessional.

2) The veil... most of us want to wear one... but keep in mind, that all those male relatives that come up to you are going to put their arm around you and put it right on the veil.. therefore making your head stationery until they move it... cause they never seemed to stick their arm under it.

3) Bring a pair of shoes to change into...

4) and if you dance... your dress is going to get dirty, but when are you going to wear it again?

5) Don't worry, after you leave... mom's (or someone) will take charge and gather up gifts, flowers, decor, etc...... they won't mind doing it

6) Gather up your belongings before the ceremony starts and put them in the exit vehicle..... I didn't so after we left, two BM's gathered all my stuff up, including my purse... we had to pick it all up on our way to the airport the next day... I didn't even have a hair brush at home to get ready with the next morning..

7) So have some good BM's and Mom's/someone to help after you leave, hey you can't do it all! Hey, and the BM's help you potty in that oversized dress that you bought! And, the Mom's took care of every flower before the ceremony... even when we needed another boutinerre

8) Mom's and Dad's might embarass you on the dance floor, and might drink a little much... be prepared and don't let it bother you.... hey Dad payed for it so I guess he can do whatever he wants :)

9) The Officiant might studder, Groom might studder, and you might studder during the ceremony... it's okay

10) I don't think we got to tell everyone hello and thank you... but do your best and that's all that matters

11) Don't stress... don't worry about your hair/makeup, don't worry about not starting on time, don't worry about the Dad's already getting into the kegs... hours before the ceremony even starts :), don't worry the groomsmen might look like they are being tortured while taking all those pics, don't worry about anything...... a great, mellow photographer helps... you don't need to feel hurried at all. I didn't stress and I am so proud of myself and the people that I had around me that were so helpful!

12) Eat at the reception! You took time in planning for the food, most importantly you should get to eat it. If possible someone could sneak the bride and groom a plate in right after the ceremony and before the reception

13) Take advantage of the venue's coordinator. I planned everything myself... I really enjoyed it. But, when it came to the rehearsal and day of coordination, Nancy who operates the Fillauer House is more than willing to step in and she does an awesome job.

14) People might show that were not invited... especially if you have beer or wine at the reception. Don't worry, no one will notice

15) Have plenty of Thank You cards and/or money... special ones... to fill out for people who helped... for example; the officiant and the friend who got elected to operate the ceremony music. Give them the cards at some point during wedding if possible, like at the reception

16) If you make a stop at Hobby Lobby for example on the way to the ceremony local with no make-up and rollers in your hair... you will see someone you know and more than likely you will see them later at your wedding :) And they will take a picture of you looking so silly!

17) Don't forget a garter if you are having a garter toss, if you do.... don't worry, an Aunt/or someone will pick one (or two if you want to keep one) up for you :)

That might be it....... I'll let you know if I think of anything else!
That's by far my longest post ever... Sorry