ashleyw44's Pink wedding


01/24/2008
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Hands Ceremony
Warning: Long post ahead
So... I have been reading about ceremonies and trying to find out about the order of things and what other people include. In my search I found this idea. It's called a Hands Ceremony. Sometimes it's used in lieu of the sand ceremony or unity candle or just as a complimentary part.

Here is an example:
Nancy, please face Joseph, and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.
These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your child for the first time.
These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.
These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief overwhelm you.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Joseph, please hold Nancy's hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life.
These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times
These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.
They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.
Bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for perfection. May Joseph and Nancy see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship - as they threatened all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part that seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.
Inasmuch as you have consented together in this ceremony to live in wedlock and have sealed your vows in the presence of this company and by the giving of these rings, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife.
Congratulations, you may kiss the bride!

Or you can do something like this which has the couple look at eachother's hands at the same time and so it's a little shorter and less repetitive:

As an expression that your hearts are joined together in love - will you please face each other and hold hands, so you may feel the
gift that you are to one another.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you
promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you
like no other.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken
tenderness with just a touch.

What does everyone think about this? I have never seen it done or spoken with anyone who had seen it.. Any thoughts??
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 |  Nashville, TN, United states  |  01/24/2008
wow!! i got chills when i read this! i love this!!! may have to steal it! hah!! i really really like it!
 |  Saco, ME, United states  |  01/24/2008
I've never heard of it or heard of anyone doing it, but I really like the idea.  I think I'd opt for the shorter version, mainly because of the repetitiveness.  I think it's a really good addition to the ceremony!
 |  -, -  |  01/24/2008
oh wow! I love this! Beautiful! So sweet
 |  New york, NY, United states  |  01/24/2008
this is awesome and sooo romantic! I love it!
ashleyw44
 |  -, -  |  01/25/2008
wow, i am so surprised everyone likes it so much.  I got chills too, but I was afraid I would be the only one.  I may just have to use it now!
nana
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  01/25/2008
It brought a tear to my eye....
 |  -, -  |  01/25/2008
Oh, and if anyone decides to use this before May 30th, do you think you could let me know how it goes????  Thanks!!
 |  St. louis, MO, United states  |  02/01/2008
Regarding the Sand Ceremony I found a picture frame like the one in the picture I have from Hooby Looby, I've also seen one at Different craft stores and Garden Ridge. I don't know if you have these stores in your area so let me know.
 |  St. louis, MO, United states  |  02/01/2008
LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT!! Be sue to let us know how this works out!!
 |  -, United states  |  02/07/2008
Love it!  I'm doing something very similar, but we have having our hands tied together with ribbons "handfasting".  It is where the phrase "tying the knot" came from.  Check my blog for it.  My wording in the middle part of it is almost the same as yours!  You can use whatever colored ribbons you want and they all have different meanings.

Red: passion, strength, lust, fertility
Orange: encouragement, attraction, kindness, plenty
Yellow: charm, confidence, joy, balance
Green: finances, fertility, charity, prosperity, health
Blue: tranquility, patience, devotion, sincerity
Purple: Power, piety, sanctity, sentimentality
Black: strength, wisdom, vision, success
White: purity, concentration, meditation, peace
Gray: neutrality, canceling, balance
Pink: unity, honor, truth, romance, happiness
Brown: earth, grounding, talent, telepathy, home
Silver: treasure, values, creativity, inspiration
Gold: energy, wealth, intelligence, longevity

"These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears form your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch."
 |  Belleville, IL, United states  |  02/13/2008
This is beautiful!  There will not be a dry eye to be found!
 |  Concord, ON, Canada  |  02/29/2008
Oh my gosh... that made me cry!!!
 |  Chattanooga, TN, United states  |  05/14/2008
I love this, it is too close to put it in the ceremony, but I think I will use it in the reception, or print it and frame it :)
Thank you for the amazing idea, you rock!
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