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Ok so I am not sure what to do.. I have about 400 people invited to my wedding and everything is going very well and smooth BUT I dont know what to do about the rehearsal dinner. Since there are 8 girls and 8 guys in the wedding that would be 32 then the parents 36 then grandparents 38 flower girl and ring bear 42 plus their parents 47 with additional kids.

Now every where I keep reading you should invite out of town guests is everyone doing that? If I do its going to be like a normal sized wedding ha-ha with just my aunts uncles and cousins it would be 62 and then my FHs mom entire side of her family is from out of town so IF they come I would have to invite them too so like 100 people ..

What would you do?! Or you think I should do?!?!

My list is not nearly as big as yours so my advice to you is to invite only the bridal party and immediate family (not every OOTG), I am inviting the OOT guests but I have a total of 100 people attending altogether. Also, if you decide to invite all of the OOT's then consider making it a appetizers/drink welcome recpetion vs. rehearsal dinner?

Our wedding is not the large, I'm pretty sure just bridal party and immediate family would be fine :) then again I'm not up to par with wedding ettiquete but personally I thing that is fine

I would only invite the guest that are going to be a part of the ceremony...bridal party, parents, etc. All the OOTG is crazy! It would be like a miniature wedding!

I would do a big back yard bbq
Thats ALOT of people to feed :)

Only the wedding party and immediate family are invited to our rehearsal dinner.
Forget about all of the out of town guests...seriously, there are a lot of out-dated traditions that just don't hold up under certain circumstances. This certainly qualifies.

I agree with such a large W party, I would just have them and the parents... the rest is way too much

We invited a few of our out of town guests that were close friends of the family to the rehearsal dinner, but most passed anyway due to travel plans. We have 50 ppl at the rehearsal dinner. Keep it at a manageable number. Don't invite out of towners if it will overwhelm the whole thing.

I would only invite the wedding party and parents. Are you hosting your own rehearsal dinner? If so it's up to you who to invite. If it is either parents or both then it is up to them budget-wise.

It depends on who's hosting the dinner. Traditionally, its your fiance's family who hosts and pays for it. That would make it easy in terms of the guest list by your fiance figuring out what their budget is. If not, it sounds like it would be easiest if you just had your wedding party, parents and grandparents there. In terms of your out of town guests, maybe invite them to an impromptu "meet for drinks" on the night most of them are arriving. 98% of our guests were coming in from out of town, and it would be like having two wedding receptions if we invited everyone to the dinner. ;)

Our wedding will be small(75) compared to yours but we still have the same issue, the rehearsal dinner guest list. We narrowed it down to bridal party, parents, siblings and their family. The total is 19 guests and that's it. I love ssbride's "meet for drinks" idea.

Agree with the girls and limit it to only immediate family and bridal party

I agree with the other ladies. I would do strickly the bridal party and immediate family. Besides some ootg wont arrive in time, if you wanted to maybe give the ootg something to do make up brochures with stuff to do in the area, suggest a movie, or even rent one and put in their baskets.