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Old-School Rule: Your wedding dress should be white.
The New Twist: The white or ivory wedding dress will always be in style, but that certainly doesn't mean it's your only option. Mix it up with a blush, nude, or pale blue wedding gown.


Old-School Rule: You have to wear a veil.
The New Twist: Break the standard with a chic headband, a fabulous feather fascinator, or a few sparkly hair clips. Or just leave your hair down with nothing at all (you rebel, you!).

You need to choose two wedding colors.
The New Twist: Your wedding palette can be made up of as many (or as few) colors as you like, though we advise that you exercise some restraint. Some of the prettiest palettes are entirely monochromatic, whether it's a soft yellow or a bold purple

Old-School Rule: Traditional ceremonies can't be personalized.
The New Twist: Consider new ways to do traditional ceremonies. For the unity candle lighting, add a twist by using a new material. We know of two chefs who mixed spices together to represent their union. Or incorporate a lesser-known tradition like the wine box -- you lock a bottle of wine and love letters to each other in a box during the ceremony to be opened on your tenth anniversary.

Old-School Rule: You can only walk down the aisle to Wagner's Wedding March.
The New Twist: Have your DJ play your favorite love song or a Caribbean steel drum melody, or hire a two-piece band to play an instrumental version of a rock or pop song that's special to your relationship.

Old-School Rule: You shouldn't see each other until the ceremony.
The New Twist: Schedule a "first look" photo shoot (you and your groom meet with just the photographer before the ceremony). This saves time after the ceremony, so you can actually enjoy your cocktail hour, and it gives you a few precious moments to spend with your spouse before the wedding day craziness sets in.

Old-School Rule: You should make your exit in a shower of rice.
The New Twist: There are so many more exciting options, from eco-friendly confetti to garland wands or bells. You can even create a "tossing table" -- set out paper cones and bowls of confetti, glitter, even air-popped popcorn (hold the butter) or herbs (like lavender) to shower the newlyweds with.

Old-School Rule: Your bridesmaids should wear matching dresses.
The New Twist: Let your girls' individual personalities shine by letting them pick a dress (perhaps in the same fabric or color) that suits their own taste and shape. Or personalize each look with funky accessories like chunky jewelry, modern boleros, or patterned tights.

Old-School Rule: Your father should walk you down the aisle.
The New Twist: Having your dad escort you can be a great moment for the two of you, but it's by no means the only option. If you have a closer relative, like a brother or even your mom, it's perfectly acceptable to have them walk with you. You can even make the trip solo or with your soon-to-be spouse.

Old-School Rule: Wedding ceremonies take place in church.
The New Twist: If you've grown up in a church and always dreamed of walking down that aisle, skip this. If not, pick a different ceremony venue that's meaningful to the two of you. It can be anywhere from a park or backyard to an old theater or a chic city loft
Old-School Rule: Bridesmaids should carry matching bouquets.
The New Twist: Have each girl carry a bouquet in her own signature color or have your florist create several monobotanic bouquets in the same hue.