Wedding Dress

FH saw my dress tonight, and he hates it.

That's awful! I am so sorry. I actually got struck with that fear the other night (FH is pretty picky about stuff and doesn't really like most of my clothes - especially when I wear leggings heehee) and mentioned it to FH and he asked, "Why, it it weird or something?" I'm just crossing my fingers that he does, because I DO.

Anyway I digress, although it sucks that he looked at the blog (even if it WAS open he should have asked if he could take a look, but luckily he is being understanding and you guys have a plan for a new dress. Maybe find out what he doesn't like about the dress specifically, make him watch a few say yes to the dress episodes and gauge what he DOES like that way you are more confident in your next choice.

And if he complain, just tell him it's his punishment for peaking ;)

I saw your first post and tried to comment but my phone kept kicking me off the Internet.

Honey I am sooo sorry. :( It was a thoughtless comment and he probably feels horrible about it. Sigh.. I can't even imagine how that comment made you feel and I'm sitting here waiting for the right words to come to my mind to calm you down..

If it was anyone else who made that comment, I would tell you to stick to the dress you love. But considering who it came from, I can totally appreciate you want a new one.. You can do it in 6 months but you need to get started quick and this is just kinda unfair. No great words of wisdom coming to me.

Mark is kinda picky with stuff- he has simple taste, so I did show him a general idea of what I was looking for and he told me what he liked and didn't.. maybe that's an idea? Go browsing through some dress mags together?

Again, I am soooo sorry. You shouldn't be going through this, he shouldn't have said it, and even if he tried to take it back, you just probably wouldn't want to look at that dress again. So try and start fresh I guess, that's potentially your only option, but maybe know what kind of styles he would like and then take your own taste and try and find a common ground. I tried that with Mark and it seemed to work great. I started to get him, he started to get me, and he knows what my outfit will look like. It's actually way more blingy than he would normally like, but he began to see that it's about more than him, I HAVE to love it! He got that afterwards. I'm juut sorry you've already bought a dress and now have to go through this.

And FYI, your dress is beautiful. Just because it's not his taste, don't question your judgment!

I just went back to look at your dress and think it is quite stunning, like you said, it needs to be taken in which would change his comment a bit, and I think the position you are standing in may have made it appear less flattering to him, but I think you look gorgeous in it!

Im making him come with me to every dress fitting try on wether he likes it or not. I cant face walking down the aisle and him going eww what the hell is she wearing.
I did like my dress, and it is pretty. but what can you do?
I cant stop crying. but on the upside, its still 6 months to go..... just what style to go for now?

He reckons it made me look shorter than what i am, and wider... and he thinks the beading is pretty but he doesnt like the neckline. And i did say to him i was getting it altered.. i was going to make it a sweet heart neckline and move the flowers up a little so it makes it look like i had a shorter waist.
Im just stuck.. emotionally just stuck. i tried browsing dresses online but i just dont know what looks good?

aww sweetie, I understand totally - My fiance can be critical like that and it drives me BAZERK...
BUT If you do completely decide to get a new dress. you Could always try selling the dress you have - on Kijiji, Or Once Wed Or perweddingdresses.com.. and you could make some money back and put it towards a new dress...
I hope that helps... I am so sorry this happen.. .But maybe it's Fait and you find another dress that will be BEYOND PERFECT for you in Every single way!

Also - I think guys don't value fashion like we do - and no doubt even if you wear a freaking burlap bag down that isle your FH will be Ooogling all over you and be so happy that he has the most beautiful bride... Cheerup Buttercup - It will all work out!!!
BIG HUGS!
Court

OH OH OH PS - I got a great idea for you..
I was watching "Say Yes to the dress" and these brides had there grooms come with them dress shopping...
They would try on dresses and get HIS opinion...
Then he would pick his fav 4 dresses...
AND THEN the bride would secretly choose the dress she wanted with out him knowing the choice... SO IT"S STILL A SURPRISE!!! AND he still has his opinion on your type of dress..

Hope this helps - I thought it was a cute idea (I too don't want my finace to see my dress ) but after I saw this I kind of wish I tought of it before,,,

ANYHOOO Best of luck on the dress hunnies - let us know how it works out!!

So sorry for your hurting. If he would of never seen the dress, you would of been his princess that day regardless. Maybe he had invisioned you in a particular dress than what was seen. Like you said, it wasn't altered yet. Hopefully you will find something else that you like, maybe this dress was not meant to be? Cheer up and keep it movin.  If he say one more crazy thing and any more snooping on your personals, it's Jackie Chan time! LOL

Oh I'm sorry.  You must be pretty upset right now.  I know I would be.  I saw your dress and I thought that it was very pretty.  Maybe he would feel differently if he saw the dress on you in person??

:-(  I can see why you are upset, but honestly, he's a guy.  They don't think about things the way we do.  I looked at you in your dress and think you look gorgeous!  I wore red because I'm not fond of too many white dresses...but yours is very different and I really like it.  I don't think you need to worry about his comment.  Honestly when he sees you walking down the aisle, in all your glory (veil if you have one, make up, hair done etc) the dress won't matter.  I was worried my husband wouldn't like my dress (being as it was red and all) and he LOVED it.  There was one other dress that I was going to get if it was white and everytime he saw it, he never liked it.  He told me the styles he liked and so forth, but in the end he told me that he didn't care what I wore and that he love whatever I chose because it was what I liked.  If you still feel the need to get another dress, I would take him and get his feelings on dresses (maybe next time he'll think twice before he says something).  But as I said, it doens't matter what you wear, he'll love it.

Can I just say that my FH hated and hates every dress I've shown him. I'm sure if he saw me in my dress with no hair/make-up and no alterations and no heels etc etc, he would hate it too! I look like a puffy whale in the polaroids. The dress you have is pretty. Once you make all of the alterations/changes and you are made up, you will look completetly different and he will be stunned by YOU in the dress. Right now all he sees is undone dress and you not glowing in it. Go clip some pics and start showing him dresses. I guarantee he will hate them all. Get another dress if you want, But I personally would rock my dress and blow him away on wedding day :)

I agree with everyone else, it sucks, but it is hard that it came from him! But, I looked back to your dress too, and it does look kind of big and you can tell that it is not altered yet, but I bet that it would look beautfiul when it is actually tighter on you! Guys don't realize that kind of stuff! What I did with my  FH to get a better idea of what he liked, I would pull up a  ton of different dresses online to see what he liked best, including ones that I REALLY liked, and see what he said about it. He actually liked the two that I like most, which he is very very picky. Good luck sweetie!!

I would say don't worry about it I looked at your picture that you have with you in your dress, you look beautiful, its not the finished product, your hair isn't done in your updo your makeup...your flowers!!  Ask him what he doesn't like about it, delete the post so he doesn't hunt, I am sure he is going to be fine come the wedding day!  Shame on him for peeking at your blog!!  You look beautiful!

ouch...that is tough! I am sorry that he snooped and couldn't keep his mouth shut. Guys can be so clueless sometimes.  Even more the reason to keep the dress now so he can be surprised when you walk out looking AMAZING in it! Your friend did an believable job and you looked beautiful. During the planning process I would as my hubby, do you care about this? He'd say no, and then after I had bought it, made it, spent time on it, all of the sudden he'd have an opinion. Uggh! Use the extra room in your budget now for something extra special for yourself! ;)

Ok Please listen to me ...get the dress altered you already know it is big on you and it will change once it is altered...His comment is something that you will have to live with  for now ...I was so afraid that my dress wont fit properly because i ordered it a smaller size if my husband had seen what i look like in it 6 months before he would have laughed.  Just go with your gut -- if you loved the dress then you will love it on your wedding day - it will deff look diferent once it is alterd

Oh no!  I am so so sorry!  How awful!  I do agree with what some of the other ladies are saying about the dress looking different once it's altered.  If you're in love with your dress.... keep it.  You know your body better than anyone else and no girl is going to let herself look less than beautiful on her big day!  So go with your  gut!  BUT... if you can bear to part with your gown and try for another one try looking at sample gowns.  Lots of stores sell them once they are going to get in new styles and not only could you get an AMAZING dress for $1000 but you wouldn't have to worry about rush ordering it.  All you would have to do would be get it cleaned and altered.  So keep that in mind.  But chin up, you are going to look stunning that day and look back on this whole mess and laugh.  

Much love!

Your dress is BEAUTIFUL! Once it gets altered, then it will look even more gorgeous! I would delay buying a second dress until after the alterations on the first dress are finished. Once you see it fitting right in all the right places, you may change your mind.
And then you'll have an extra $1000 to spend on your honeymoon or upgrade your wedding ring or whatever you dream of  =)

So sorry.  i'm sure he didn't mean it...he's a guy and they just utter words, without really thinking.  Trust me, my fiance says stupid stuff all the time.

One time we were having a conversation about wedding dresses and he said.."it doesn't really matter what dress you pick,  I think all wedding dresses are ugly". Then i gave him a slap on the back of the head and he re-phrased to: "but i know i will love yours"
So see, they all say stupid thngs once in a while.  

Honey trust me, if they could pick the dress they would pick a dress like Stephanie Seymore in the November Rain video.  I know that on your day...with your hair, make-up and dress altered you will look amazing.  And i'm sure he will think to so :)

I hate to hear that but on the post with you wearing the dress (which IS beautiful) you said yourself that you hate the fit.....that's all he is saying...loving a FH that can't quite "put it onto words" has give me a gift of translating the male language. once the alterations are done and you're walking down the aisle to join him he won't even know it's the same dress. Chin up Hun.

Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear this.  If it makes you feel ANY better, I was told it would take six months for my dress to come in, and it came in two.  So getting a new dress in time is definitely do-able...  But ugh... especially when you've already fallen in love and chose one!  

Just try and remember everything happens for a reason!

Well im sticking with the dress for the moment.
I did go to the only bridal store in our city today and I tried on a few dresses but they didnt feel right, they didnt feel like MY dress..in fact my dress doesnt feel like MY dress anymore. All the energy is zapped out when I wear it.

I just have to start thinking positive, even tho im feeling so fragile right now and just deal with it, and once the alterations are done I think I will feel alot better.

FH bought me brekky in bed today and went n got me flowers n choccy. So hes trying.. I just didnt know I could be so devasted by it all...

Thanks for the support guys! I appreciate it :)

I just saw your dress and I think it's gorgeous, someone else already said it, guys don't know anything about dresses. That was a picture of an unaltered dress, no hair/makeup, and it's not in person. honestly, i bet he wouldn't even be able to remember it's the same dress unless you tell him.

Maybe just get it altered. He won't even know it's the same dress! Use the grand in the budget for something else for your wedding, maybe a surprise for your FH

similar thing happened to me! I left my WBC open and FH went to use the computer and read through everything...he saw the garter i got as a suprise..my dress..everything. I was so upset, i couldnt even look at him and i just cried. He didnt understand .... he didnt think it was a big deal but it was to me. We are taking pics before the ceremony so its not like he wont see me before the wedding. It was important for me to keep it to that day tho and now he knows. He never told me if he liked it or not...and frankly im keeping it either way. although if he said he hated it i would too feel just like you did. im glad he likes it now! what a relief!