chicagobride's Pink wedding

She's the one who will look like an donkeys bottom. Your wedding is first. People will know she copied you and trust me I've been to some copy cat weddings and all I kept thinking about is how the first wedding did it better.

I have a bit of a mean bone so I would totally throw her off and tell her stuff I'm not doing. LOL

And its not petty at all. We go through a lot to plan a wedding so its naturally irritating when people especially the ones that close to us to copy all our hard work.

marta's absolutely right - you're the one that will come off classy and she'll look like a lunatic.  especially the antigua thing!  it's a beautiful place but i'm sure some family members will find it a bit coincidental that they're traveling there twice in five months!  and i agree with throwing her off :) tell her you just adore eighties throw back bridesmaid dresses.  pink and puffy has never been more in...

i agree with the previous 2 posts, does she not think anyone will notice?? i think that normally people using your ideas is flattering, but not when its a friend or family member thats having a wedding in the same decade as you! ;) i personally would just tell her how i feel... if you keep it to yourself you may just explode!

Its sounds to me like she has a creative issue meaning she is in lack of
Like previous posters have said she will look like a total Jack A$$ but if I were you I would charge her by the hour or suggestion for your wedding planning ideas. LOL

I agree with the other girls. I don't  know about anyone else, but I kept  away from certain colors that my bridesmaid and best friend had for her wedding. It's enough that we both have an ivory dress and I'll be borrowing her veil for the ceremony.  Your picture says it all, nobody likes a copy cat. It's one thing to take an idea here from someone across the country and make it into your own, but another to have your wedding in the same destination place, with same flower arrangements! I agree with the other girls, tell her you're doing certain things to get a reaction from her! Don't take her wedding shopping/planning with you and I hope she's not a bridesmaid!!

I also agree with everyone else's comments. Maybe you could help her think of her OWN ideas? Maybe talk about another location that would be perfect for a wedding? Anyways that would be weird for everyone to travel to Antigua again in five months! Some people would be reluctant to go again! That would be stressful, I had a hard enough time couping with my sister's decision to date and then marry my fiance's brother after five months and stealing the spotlight of our 3 1/2 years of dating. It's not like I wanted any spotlight but it was insensitive. They had their engagement party on our two year anniversary and everything.. So I can kind of relate the feelings of am I being petty or reasonable?!

Oh my God, no you are NOT being petty! that would do my head in too!!! I would telll her how you feel though. Im going through a similar situation myself with my own flesh and blood (cousin).
She has announced she wants to do the 80s theme hen night... which ive planned since Sept 06! (she only got engaged 2 months ago and is getting married in Dec, 4 months before me! She is going ahead with her night, indespite of my feelings. im so upset!
Families, eh??!!!!!

I am having a similar situation with my cousin!  It doesn't even start with the wedding plans, it goes back to the actual engagement!  She was so upset that I got engaged before her (she had been with her boyfriend longer) that she basically told her boyfriend that he should propose!  I absolutely refuse to tell her anything about my wedding, and for fear of her finding out, I don't even tell certain others in my family!  Sometimes I think it's petty, but then I realize that if she knew my plans, she would probably steal my ideas and that would just make me angry!  She asks people in my family questions about my wedding to get her information too!  It's kinda become a game now, my FMIL told her that I was thinking about moving my wedding date up, and sure enought, she has moved hers up!  The best part is, I never intended on moving my date!!!

no you are not being petty at all. its your wedding and like all brides sharing your thoughts and planning is normal. but for someone ie fsil to steal your planning is CRAZY. its so obvious that shes not creative. maybe u should give her ideas about things that you were going to do.

You have every right to be upset. Just know that she will look like an idiot for copying your ideas. My FSIL is getting married 6 months before I am but it has actually brought us closer. Our weddings will be nothing alike, thank goodness.

Good luck!