chineyelovesrickey's Purple wedding

eww she asked you by text? I think you should be honest with her from the begining. if you're going to pick her as your hostess tell her that you trust her so much and that you really need someone who thinks quick on her feet (really boost her ego) before you tell her she's a hostess and not a bridesmaid.

I'm sure there will be girls upset with me about not being my maids but you can't please everyone. I just hope noone asks me by text....

I totally understand the position that you're in. I'm dealing with the same thing. I think a hostess role is a great idea, like Marta said spice it up a bit, maybe let her pick out a nice dress too. I think she will be okay with it, Good Luck!!

I had to tell a good friend she was not in the wedding... but there were very good reasons so it was not as difficult as this might be... either way this seems like its going to be a rough one! good luck :)

thank you all for the suggestions...i told her that we still have a lot of planning (which is true) and haven't made any sort of decisions regarding who is in the wedding & i am going to talk to my hunny about maybe having her as a hostess

We had a guy tell us he better be in the wedding. Sad thing is, he's not that great of a friend. We hadn't even thought about him :P poor guy. We have so far avoided it (real mature I know) We thought about making him an usher but he's high strung and we're afraid he'd freak out it something went wrong.

I'm pretty lucky with this one, I have a few friends to pick from but I just stuck with my two sisters and that's it. I've told all my girls that I just can't start choosing between them so it's just my sissies.

However, a few years ago my friend was getting married and she had the choice between me and another friend that was close too. She called me up and said "look I have this problem, you both are my good friends and I just can't pick, what should I do?" I saw how stressed she was about it and told her that she should do what she felt made her happy and that I wouldn't be hurt one bit if she picked the other girl. I know how stressful these things can be and that I would still be there to be a part of her day anyway and I didn't want to put that stress on her. So she called the other girl who totally freaked out and made her feel guilty so she ended up asking her....to this day I'm not upset at her decision, it was hers to make and I feel that she was pressured into it by that other friend. Her and I are still good friends to this day...and the other chick is no where to be seen! She cringes every time she looks at her wedding photos of that girl. So sometimes you have to make difficult decisions but give it some thought and the right thing will come to you.

thank you...that sounds great