chineyelovesrickey's Purple wedding


04/16/2008
he's not speaking to them!!! auggg!!!
he's not speaking to them!!! auggg!!!
   
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potential engagement party prob.
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Soooo I have already mentioned my bridesmaid dillema...this has to do with those ladies. Our engagement party is in a few weeks and my hunny bunny doesn't like two of my "friends". He doesn't like the way they treat me (that's a different story), but I've known them for soooo long. So they will be at my engagement party and he told me that he isn't going to say anything to them and if they speak to him, he isn't going to say anything. He is very serious about this...he said that to make it easier on everyone to let them know not to even speak to him. man oh man...so I say babe you don't have to be rude or mean just be cordial. he says that is being fake and if they were regular people on the street that he didn't like he wouldn't speak to them either. I don't like conflict...and i don't want anyone's feeling to get hurt (i'm always trying not to get anyone's feelings hurt...but they don't always look out for mine...which is another reason why rickey isn't cool with them)

should i tell them?
engagement party problem, friends
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fabulousmrsklein
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  04/16/2008
It better to take high road... you can't always please everyone though...I don't really know what to say except that your fiance should care about your feelings more then anyone elses and if it makes you uncomfortable hopefully he will not snub them when it comes down to it
futuremrsmayes
 |  -, -  |  04/23/2008
i don't think you should tell them because then they will come to the party with hostility, because they will know that they are not wanted. One thing i try not to do is get my man involved with the spats that i have with my girlfriends because guys are different from girls...we can forgive and forget, but your man will NEVER forget and that can get uncomfortable; especially when you might want to hava a get together at your house or something. Just ignore it and after a couple of weeks he might let it go, or if he sees how close you guys are he will let up.
MARRYINGMYTRUELOVE
 |  Corona, CA, United states  |  05/02/2008
MMM..THIS IS A TOUCHY SITUATION,  I THINK THIS IS A SPECIAL TIME IN YOUR LIFE WHEN ITS ABOUT CELEBRATING YOUR ENGAGEMENT AND UPCOMING  MARRIAGE.  YOUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY IS GOING TO BE ALL ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FIANCE' , ITS NOT THE TIME FOR DISLIKES OR GRUDGES.  FOCUS ON HAPPINESS AND PLANNING IT, TRUST ME WE JUST HAD OUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY AND THE ATMOSPHERE WAS FULL OF HAPPINESS AND JOY. NOBODY THOUGHT ABOUT NOTHING OTHER THAN US.  I WOULD INVITE THEM, ITS A MAGICAL TIME IN YOUR LIFE.
niatwin
 |  New york, NY, United states  |  05/09/2008
Wow...how stressfull is that? I think your guy is probably very protective of you and that is sweet. I agree that he could be cordial but at the same time he does not have to hang out with them. Jsut make sure that if you have seating at your party that it is strategic. You can mingle with everyone with out him at your side through the whole thing....time for him and time for your friends to chat. Pray about it and see what happens....he has performed miracles before....I can attest to that. Let us know how it works out.....
Schaivi
 |  Raleigh, NC, United states  |  06/27/2008
Leave them chicks out the whole thing... I'm on Rick James side with this one.
wiseone
 |  -, -  |  10/01/2008
Sometimes the truth is hard to swallow.  What did you contribute to the problem.  What/who is the the true problem.  Sounds like a personality problem exists that needs to be address, faced and resolved.  Have you  done the mature thing and communicated to these people your true feelings?  If these people matter to you it is up to you to fix the problem because you always need friends.
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