BEWARE OF THE EX FACTOR - EX FACTOR - CHRISTY1's Purple Wedding by Color Blog

Ok so away from the planning just for a minute. I dated a Danish guy some years ago who was like my first love *aaaww* yah i thought we could work, was so inlove with him and all but one day to cut a long story short he decided to break up with me, didnt even have the guts to tell me to my face instead told me sister who was his friend as well.

It took a LOT for me to get over him, coming back to Africa was a blessing because it made things easier for me but the craziest thing is i always somehow thought of him. I met my Fiancée in 2007 and i fell so much inlove and i grow deeper inlove with him every single day without a shadow of doubt. I'm blessed and happy to be getting married to a man who could love me in such a way that i cant even understand, spending the rest of my life with him is all i want to do and WONT trade it for anything else in this world.

During the week i got a friend request on Facebook from my ex Danish boyfriend. was hesitant at first but knowing that I've gotten over him and i'm happier now i accepted, seeing that he is in a serious relationship made things even better for me.
So one day when i was online, he starts congratulating me on my engagement, he goes further on to remind me of the times we had, i closed the discussion and talked about something else but he went on and on and on and on....and then he said "you know if you get married you and i will never happen"... this got me really mad and i gave him a piece of my mind!!!!

having done this....he still got me thinking....it really took a lot for me to get over him.....i think i really loved him...many years later he sometimes crosses my mind but i have found a better love and thats what put me straight...

if you ever find yourself a situation like this, before you think about how life could have been if you were still together with your ex please think about your present life and how wonderful it is, how it is that you have found someone who wants to spend forever with you.....you are blessed please dont let anything shift your focus, you are only a few years, a few months, a few days, a few hours, a few minutes, a few seconds from saying I DO to the beginning of forever :)

love yall...

I really like this Post. I'm very proud. I know people that usually will leave everything they have for what they have now n later down the road they regret it. We have amazing men in our lifes we need to hold on tight to them :)

@mzofficerqonzo12 very true love....my heart was really heavy on this and i just had to share. cheers to our CURRENT men who are the BEST men ever :)

bravo girlfriend! I know that can be hard. No matter how big of a jerk they were to you, you still had a big heart and cared for them. But you are right, marriage is so awesome and we have hubbies who want nothing else then to love us forever and cherish our hearts!

God Bless you!

@sammielynn5 that's right sweety...its not easy but i am complete right now, complete in Christ and in the love He has given me and that's all i need. Its never easy getting over a heart break but things happen for a reason, i am a stronger person now having gone through everything i have gone through. one comforting thing out of all of this is my ex has realised the jewel he had in me, now i know it never was my fault, it wasn't me with the problem, not my skin colour or anything else i blamed it on, i was good for him but he wasn't good for me that's why i have the man i have today :)

God bless you too love!

wow that is so true! and i always remind myself of thta! i dont talk to any of my exes and neither i am friends with them but whener i find myself reminded of any of them i cut it out imeddieatelly because i KNOW i have a better thing BY FAR!!!! and no one will ever come close to him!

@princesni thats right girrrl no one can ever come close!!!

past is the past and it is sometimes hard to let go of. but we have our wonderful hubby and nothing in this world could ever change that. the men we love are our everything, and no ex will ever come of it. you did a good thing giving him a piece of your mind! you go girl! xox

@hismrsb thanks doll and you are right on point!!!! im so excited to be getting married to a wonderful man and nothing can ever change that. xxoo

Thanks for sharing...He has the nerve to say you will never happen, well, he never was or he'll still be without you. Thank God he left, although he left it was not you being rejected, but you was being protected by God.

I also find myself, for whatever reasons thinking about the ex, BUT I also remember that he is an ex for a reason (whatever that reason is).
Can I suggest something if you have not already done so, please defriend him as a friend on fb, because you will get that nosy bug to look at his profile, and or he will keep tabs on you and know all about your present state. and that is none of his business.

I use to check my exes email to find out what was going on with him. Why? Nosy bug, because I did not want him back.

Always remember WE should do what we do not want our FH to do.

Thanks for the Real Talk... Take Care

I messed up last sentence>>>WE should not do what we do not want FH to do. WWFHD!..lol

Take Care missy

@Corysbride thanks love so so true hun! funny thing is you're so right about the "nosy bug" thingy i have found myself checking his profile and rebuking myself thereafter, he's probably doing the same but i have De-friended and BLOCKED him so he can just remain in the past and as you have said it was a blessing and God was protecting me even though i couldnt see it or understand it then i understand it now! thanks doll xxoo