This is classybride's Blue Wedding!

I am so in love with my new ring!!!! He lost the last one so he told me he had this on lay a way for 8mths!!!!!!

Last blog was a mess and I'm soooo greatful we have everything striaghtend out!!! We went to counceling, baptising is in place and all (for him, I'm already baptized).

He's trying to take over all of the planning now lol. I love it!!!! We have only 6mths left to our wedding date...im soooo excited!!!! He told me he had a dream about me in my dress. I think he was trying to find out how it looks...waiting on my reply but i just laughed.

I gave my ring back last week!!!!!!!! Here's the story, it's kinda long....

We've been friends for a good 8mths before we became a relationship and the whole time he's been having issues with his daughter's mother. I met him when his daughter was 8mths and she's' 4yrs old now. The thing is that his bm (baby momma) hates the air I breathe because we are together. She doesn't let him see his daughter at all, especially ever since we had a child together(son).

There was a point in time where I had serious trust issues with him and I told him that. I explained to him that whatever it is he tells me, I hear him but I let his actions back his words up and then take what ever it was he told me. He showed me a text message she sent him saying if he can't be with her (of all the ways you can think of...going out on dates, sex, time) then he can't see his baby. So the times he was allowed to see his baby, I wondered if he went there with her or not. He says he doesn't.

February of 2010, we went to court because she was so mad at him for not leaving me to go back to her so she changed her number so he won't keep contact with his child (this was after I had our son...2mths after). He hadn't seen his daughter in 2mths at this time. I told him to just go over there. They had an arguement about whatever and he stated when he was leaving, he gave his daughter a hug while he was on one knee and his bm just started punching him in the back of his head. He sheild their daughter so she wouldn't mistake and hit her. Then he swung his arm out and pushed her out of his way.

She called the police and said he beat her and she wanted a restraining order on him and she fears for her life. in her affidiviate, she said April of 2009, she went through his wallet and seen a picture of us and started fussing at him (mind you, we've been living together since Christmas of 2007) and she put that he beat her and choked her until she blacked out in front of their daughter but she never called the police. (I've been knowing him since August of 2007 and from that time until today 6/24/11, he never hit me, cursed me out, or even yell at me).

There was a letter she wrote him November 18, 2009 (27 pgs long from 1am to 4am...she wrote the times on there) stating how much she loves him and want to be with him and when they were together, he always told her she would be by her side and that she know she made mistakes, but she changed and he always told her its never too late for change and now he's not with her. That she beats herself up, that she's ready to marry him, that when he visit his daughter and he's about to leave to come home, she would pick a fight just to make him stay longer because she hated that he had to come to me.

There was also a picture from when they first met in there, and a picture at a family party June, 2009 together. Mind you, in April, two months prior, she said she feared for her life and he choked her until she blacked out (in her affividiate) and that she cries everyday because she know im about to have his baby. all type of stuff in that letter.

I said, guess what, we are going to bring this long letter she wrote to you, the pics yawl have together, plus his ex girlfriend from when he was 12 till like 18 or 19 wrote a letter because she couldn't come with us stating that he's not an abusive person and that she beat him so many times and he never hit her back. Basically, when we went to court with everything (no lawyer), she had a lawyer and her lawyer read the letters, seen the pics and seen she was lying and dismissed the case. And told him to bring her to court to get his daughter.

After that, she moved, changed her number, we had no 411 of where his daughter was. He didn't see her in 10 mths...he seen her for her bday December, 2010 since that visit for 2minutes in Feb. I told him, what if you go to visit your daughter and you don't have a ride home (we dont have our liscense anymore) he stated he would never sleep over there or anything. I told him I'm still kind of iffy with him being around her, because I know she still wants him and im not sure exactly what he tells her, just because that's all she talks about is them getting back together when i have his phone. It usually ends up with her cursing him out in the text for either ignoring her or not saying what she wants to hear. (his outbox isn't saved, only inbox)

So....(i know, very long story, just telling you the history)...anywho

My son never seen her daughter and I HATE that. We have the court papers now for him to get her. BUT.....he was going to take my son to her house so his daughter can see our son because she keeps asking to see her brother (and to go home with her dad, but her momma, his baby momma, doesn't like me which means the little girl can't visit) That was on the 7th of June. He ended up not going, not sure if she said our son couldn't visit or what, but he didnt go either.

So...one the 10th, he textd me while i was at work and said he was visiting his daughter...I get off at midnight....when i got home....he wasn't there...i looked at my phone and seen 2 txt from him saying that his daughter is acting up because she doesn't want him to leave and she wanted to leave with him and he didnt know what to do. the other text said he was going to wait until she falls asleep to leave....

I know he didn't drive there, so he either caught the bust or got a ride there...but its now 1am....he's still not home...his phone goes straight to vm....its now 3:32am....nothing.....it's now 6am....i told him where he laid his head last night is where he can call his home(text and vm), because we talked about this exact senerio 7mths ago and here it is and he didnt do what he said. he calls me at 7am, i dont answer. he comes home finally at 10am and tries to hug me.........i backed away and pushed his arms away from me.

I gave him his ring back and told him he spent the night by another woman's house and i dont care how his daughter was behaving, because i told him she wouldnt be acting like that if he grabbed his balls and maned up to his bm and tell her he is TAKING his daughter on his visiation days instead of asking and her saying, no, you have to come to my house to see her. He promised me up and down they didnt have sex, but i didn't believe him. he said he slept in their daughter bedrooom....i didnt believe him.

three days later, i took his phone and looked in it and seen a text from her saying, i need a favor....you know, what you did last night.

i hit the door. i took his phone and my phone and i left. i went to my secret location and read all of the messages....there were some text in his inbox saying stuff about, i know why you act the way you act u just trying to protect your heart, but you're the mother of my daughter and we will have an unbreakable bond and she's the mother of my son and thats something you have to understand.

it was stuff he sent to her that she sent back to him (throwing it in his face of what he told her) cuz after those messages he sent to her, she had all caps cursing him out, calling him a liar. There was other stuff in the txt he sent her like...oh..."Tiff knows isly (i still love you), thats y we arent seeing eye to eye"

That was the MAIN thing that pissed me off, because im like...I don't know that....we're seeing eye to eye...what is he talking about.

When i questioned him about it after disappearing for 5hrs (7pm to 12am) he said that was when we were broken up in January and he told her that...I'm like....in January???? Whats the ish about u still love her...and in January, that wasn't even what our disagreement was about, so why are you tellin her this????? He states he was just venting. I said, well go finish venting...you need to leave.

He asking me if I really want him gone, I told him YES. The next day, he came to the house around 1pm and was telling me he promise on heaven and earth he didnt sleep with her when he was there and she had to be talking about babysitting when she asked him what u did last night and he didnt respond to her...(im not believing anything) i was getting ready for work and he's telling me every little thing and that she's just trying to break us up and he just want a relationship with her so she wont fuss at him infront their daughter and get mad at him and take their daughter to Dallas (she's done at least 6 times) and California (she done once) and he just tell her stuff sometimes so she wont fuss.

I told him, F word her feelings, bring her to court and good luck with standing up to her but we were through. He reproposed to me again and I told him I was late for work and I walked out. He called me constantly and I ignored his calls. He texts me "will you marry me" and i ignored it. he sent each text with a count down number, "will you marry me", "10" "9" "8" "7"....when he got to 1 he had a sad face and recounted.

I don't know what to do...I told him I love him so much, I'm in love with him so much, I want to be with him, BUT I love me way more and I wasn't happy with all this going on and I don't trust him. His momma called me, my momma called me, my other child's father momma called me....I dont want to talk to anyone. I haven't really spoke with any other women as far as what the real story is...

I just want to know am I wrong????? Should I believe him???? But if she's trying to break us up, he is the one who sent her those txt messages in January when we were on bad for a few hours and she resent it to him...i guess she saved it in her phone...idk...but my brother read the text and he said it just seemed like he was making peace...i didnt get that at all....

I love him...I really do, but I'm so selfish with him and dont want him tellin no bit.... anything just to butter her up. F word her feelings.

Sorry ladies, for those who really read this all...but I didnt know where else to turn. I usually talk to my sister but she passed in Feb, and my bestie passed too. I just don't know what to do...
:@(

Couples sit facing each other a few feet apart. The men on 1 side and the women on the other. The questions are asked to the women first; starting with Round One. The 1st question is read and each wife writes down her answer. Question is re-read and the 1st husband announces his answer.

*******YOU COULD PLAY BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED JUST TO SEE HOW MUCH YOU KNOW ABOUT EACH OTHER...THAT'S WHAT WE'RE GOING TO DO, BUT YOU CAN GET MORE QUESTIONS FOR AFTER****

QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
ROUND 1
20 pts. 1. How many different meals can your husband/fiance' cook?
20 pts. 2. What color shirt would your husband like to receive?
20 pts. 3. What bill does your husband complain about most; gas, electric, food, clothing or telephone?
50 pts. 4. Who was the last girl your husband dated before you were married?
50 pts. 5. How many times did you date before your 1st kiss with your husband?

QUESTIONS FOR MEN
ROUND 1
20 pts. 1. What animal does your mother-in-law remind you of?
20 pts. 2. If you bought your wife a wig, what color would it be?
20 pts. 3. Who proposed marriage first, you or your wife?
50 pts. 4. Who was the last boy your wife dated before you were married?
50 pts. 5. Where did you first kiss your wife?

QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
ROUND 2
20 pts. 1. What comic character does your husband most resemble; Batman, Daffy Duck or Charlie Brown?
20 pts. 2. If your husband had a night out "with the boys" where would they go?
20 pts. 3. Who best describes your husband on your first date; Billy D Williams, Mike Epps or A Pimp Named Slickback?
50 pts. 4. If your husband was Superman, what feat would he best perform?
50 pts. 5. Which song best describes your husband in a bathing suit; "A good man is hard to find" or .....

QUESTIONS FOR MEN
ROUND 2
20 pts 1. What color dress did your wife wear on your 1st date?
20 pts. 2. What drink would best describe your wife on your wedding night? (or last night)... A sloe-gun fizz, shirly temple, or a zombie?
20 pts. 3. Describe your wife in a bikini with these song titles; "June is busting out all over" "body and sould" or "The most beautiful girl in the world?"
50 pts. 4. What musical best describes your wife on your wedding night (or last night)..."funny girl" "my fai rlady" or "gypsy?"
50 pts. 5. What item of clothing would you liek to see your wife eliminate from her wardrobe? (item and color)

QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
ROUND 3
20 pts. 1. If your husband came home with 2 dozen roses, would you say; "he had lunch with a blonde" "received a raise" or "it was an expression of his affection?"
20 pts. 2. Which one of your husband alter egos do you find most handsome?
20 pts. 3. If you asked your husband to cook dinner one evening, what dish would he prepare?
50 pts. 4. If your husband hired a beautiful, sexy secretary, what would you do?
50 pts. 5. What, other than an apple, do you always have at least once a day to keep the doctor away?

QUESTIONS FOR MEN
ROUND 3
20 pts. 1. What color are your wife's eyes?
20 pts. 2. Where will your wife say had the best vacation with you?
20 pts. 3.. What flower best describes your wife in the morning when she first gets up, sunflower, bird of Paradise, or Snap Dragon?
50 pts. 4. What dish does your wife prepare that she thinks you enjoy the most?
50 pts. 5. Which one of your habits would your wife like to break?

QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
ROUND 4
20 pts. 1. What bill would you like to keep a secret from your husband?
20 pts. 2. Where did your husband take you on your first date?
20 pts. 3. My husband's first kiss was like a ....
50 pts. 4. Complete this sentence, "I wish my husband would stop...
50 pts. 5. If my husband went out of town on a business trip, the 1st thing I would do is...

QUESTIONS FOR MEN
ROUND 4
20 pts. 1. How would you best describe your wife on your wedding night(or last night) with one of these 3 magazines; "Time" "Life" or "Seventeen?"
20 pts. 2. Complete this sentence, "My wife is the sexiest when she...
20 pts. 3. Where did you1st meet your wife?
50 pts. 4. Fill in the blanks in this sentence; "When ever I want to _____ my wife wants to ______"
50 pts. 5. If you could send your mother-in-law on a trip, where would it be and for how long?

QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
ROUND 5
20 pts. 1. What was the key that you think made your husband fall in love with you; cooking, the way you dress, just love at first sight?
20 pts. 2. What advise would your husband offer if his best friend were to announce marraige plans?
20 pts. 3. If your costume would your husband most like to see you in?
50 pts. 4. How many pounds were your husband born as a baby?
50 pts. 5. What will your husband say he wanted to do more than anything before you were married?

QUESTIONS FOR MEN
ROUND 5
20 pts. 1. How many pounds were your wife born as a baby?
20 pts. 2. What television show do you and your wife are most like?
20 pts. 3. Besides your parents, who was the next person your wife told about the engagement?
50 pts. 4. What traffic sign best describes your wife on a bad day?
50 pts. 5. Before I was married, I always used to _____ but now I _____.

ADD UP THE POINTS, THE COUPLE WITH THE MOST POINTS WIN!!!! YOU CAN ADD YOUR OWN QUESTIONS IF YOU LIKE.

OK....
My momma called me and told me to come to her house, that it was an emergency...so i rushed over.

When I got there, she says, "I have a surprise, let me blind fold you." so I'm like, what is it?...

She walks me to the bedroom, and takes off my blindfold....and....it's....a.....wedding dress.......

I wanted to just fall out....she seemed so happy about it...but it was.....old...and big.....and....it wore me.

She said "try it on, i got it from the church for $20.00

I tried it on, but in my head, i'm like....nnnnoooooooo

i don't know how to tell my momma I don't want to wear that.

She is a big time "Goodwill" shopper.

I really don't like it...but...i have to find a way to tell her.

My sister told me to just tell her I"m so slim for the dress and it's smothering me.

I don't know what to do.

Ok, My girls are walking off "If This World Was Mine" by Luther Vandross, and I'm walking off "Here And Now". Now for the hubby and bride part at the reception, he wants to SING "Spend My Life With You" by Tamia and Eric Bennett....MIND YOU....EITHER OF US CAN SING....so IDK. Maybe the first part or something. I'm so nervous!!!!!!!!! But he wants us to stand in the middle of the dance floor singing to each other instead of dancing!!! My voice is already reallly squeaky....picture it loud...with a mic.....*faints*

Spend My Life With You
http://youtu.be/W0HPswno4zo

I want a candy bar at our wedding. I'm not sure if I have to have the candy with the colors of the wedding, or it doesn't matter. I was thinking about having it out for after dinner, or before they leave or what.

I'm not sure how to keep the children from getting to it before they eat food.

Ok, you know how there's the part in the wedding when the single ladies has to get on the dance floor....

I was thinking to have our DJ to play the very beginning of Beyonce's Single Ladies.....

"All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies, now put your hands up!!!!"

Then I want the DJ to stop the record and then I can throw the bouquet.

He's going to call them the floor first on the microphone, then he's going to play it.

I'm not sure if that's being mean or some may get offended, because i don't want it seem like I'm throwing it in their face that I'm married.

Ok, I'm on the slim side and I really don't like it. I've been trying to gain weight, but it's not happening, and ever since my oldest sister passed away in Feb of 2011, I have lost 10lbs. Me in the yellow is a recent picture of me.

I wasn't big fine before, but darn it, I was 10lbs heavier!!!! I want to look womanly and NEED to gain at least 20lbs before our big day.

I also want to take Boudoir pics, but I'm a little insecure bout certain parts of my body.

My fh acts as if nothing's wrong with my size, and states that he met me slim and I look wonderful....

:-/

I want to feel like a woman...a woman has curves...

I have sex appeal for the pics as far as how I can work my eyes and lips, but darn it, what about the legs, butt, breasts, all that?!!

I keep seeing all this weight loss stuff, but nothing for weight gain.

I don't want the typical wedding topper. My fh and I love pulling jokes on each other, pranks, and just laughing and want to bring a little of that to our wedding.