06/08/2010
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Wedding Gift Registry
HOW DO I WORD IT?

When I first graduated from Fresno State back in 2002 I was hired immediately and bought a house that same year. I have had a house for 8 years now and I have EVERYTHING!! What I am trying to say is that I do not want people to buy me gifts, just money or gift cards. I know that sounds awful!!! How do I word that on my gift registry?

One person said that they went to a wedding and their Registry card stated this: In lieu of gifts, a wishing well will be available at the reception for your gift giving convenience."
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kristybeep's Green wedding
kristybeep
 |  Newnan, GA, USA  |  06/08/2010  | 
Technically there is no tactiful way to do it...but I totally feel you, I have been on my own for 9 years and we have almost everything. I would love to ask for money for help with the honeymoon (we are paying for the entire wedding ourself) but I just cant do it. So I guess I am going to be asking for Home depot giftcards and register for a few things.
rxbride's Red wedding
rxbride
 |  Saint charles, MO, USA  |  06/08/2010  | 
You could register for  maybe a few things that you want (there are bound to be SOME things) and most places (Target and Macys for sure) let you register for gift cards.  Usually when there aren't any gifts left on the registry, guests take the hint and either give a gift card or a check.
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jamieleigh12
 |  Madera, CA, USA  |  06/08/2010  | 
We are in the same situation!! We have our house and everything that we could need for it!! We didn't want to be tacky and ask for money. Instead we are doing a honeymoon registry. I reccommend meeting with Jackie Cross from Refined Journeys. She is a great travel agent!!! Not only that but she offers FREE honeymoon registry (Most places charge.) And she does room blocks and reservations too! Give her a call!!! Def do honeymoon registry to help pay for your honeymoon!!
crsstina's Black wedding
crsstina
 |  Selma, CA, USA  |  06/08/2010  | 
that a good idea jamie.  Thanks
neuweg03's Black wedding
neuweg03
 |  Muscatine, IA, USA  |  06/08/2010  | 
I would find a place like Target and register for a TONE of stuff and whether you end up getting a lot or not, you can return it and use for the items you would typically shop for like groceries, necessities, etc.

We registered there and had a ton of duplicated and after returns we had almost $900 on giftcards and we just finished using this and it took us about 8 months to use it all. We ended up buying new towel/accessories b/c we decided to update our bathroom which totally almost 150 after we bought everything, but it's nice to have and just use how you want and you don't have to worry about how to say.

You might be able to say something like monetary gifts preferred to use for our honeymoon....and maybe mention a little about what you are doing.
missred9's Red wedding
missred9
 |  Scarborough, ON, Canada  |  06/09/2010  | 
the best way is to say nothing at all.  i personally feel it is rude to put "money shower" or "monetary gift preferred"  if you put nothing at all you may get gifts and you may get money.

people arent dumb..if they dont see any registry cards then they will understand you are not registering!
medstudent2010's Pink wedding
medstudent2010
 |  Ankeny, IA, USA  |  06/09/2010  | 
You might try to get it around via word of mouth.  Tell your close friends and family that if anybody asks you would prefer money or gift cards and give them your reasoning so they can help spread the word.
nballa's Pink wedding
nballa
 |  Sacramento, CA, USA  |  06/10/2010  | 
Such a good question! Me and my FH have been debating the same issue. Second marriages for both of us and he is a gadget collector. There is a $400 headboard that I really want from Target.Com and of course one can always use Lowes & Home Depot cards as a home owner. But our preference is cash for the honeymoon, although I too don't have the nerve to state it except maybe on our Knot website. Good Luck!
seasidesmitten's Blue wedding
seasidesmitten
 |  Orlando, FL, USA  |  06/11/2010  | 
I would still set up a small registry.. if you don't have a lot of items people will get the hint, or if asked, your parents or friends can spread that by word of mouth. I wouldn't flat out ask for cash or rephrase it like your friend, it won't come out the right way regardless what you mean.
blondeorchid's Black wedding
blondeorchid
 |  Tempe, AZ, USA  |  10/29/2010  | 
I haven't had a chance to read the rest of the comments but wanted to say really fast that you should think about registering for a honeymoon.  I have everything imaginable for the house too and a bunch of different sites have things people can pay for rooms, flights, etc.
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