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Halloween.. What do you REALLY think?

Do what makes you and FH happy, we've had a few conflicting opinions between our families in the planning but realize in the end its about celebrating us and our love and ultimately the people who care about us will be able to respect and appreciate that even if it isn't their cup of tea. I love the masquerade ball idea!

I recently suggested the masquerade to a friend who is also engaged, I truely believe that you should do what you want because no matter what someone is going to have an opinion or a comment. :)

i love the idea too and you guys should do exactly as you please. if people don't like the idea of getting married on halloween then they don't really have to come.

I think you should do what you really want to do.  Weddings nowadays do not have to conform to tradition, nor do they have to be what any of us would want, so do what you please.  I wouldn't go out of the way just to aggrivate people on my wedding day, because my wedding day means more than payback to others, but that's just me.  I think you can still pull off exactly what you want, & you do it with confidence!

I wanted to do the exact same thing!  I think a masquerade ball is an AMAZING idea and its not morbid what so ever!!!!  

We had the same issues with religion, FH is catholic, Im not, so we've decided to have a private ceremony a week later in the catholic church, as I really wanted my ceremony outside.

Good luck!  I think you should do whatever you and your FH want, however maybe try to compromise a little with the FMIL as you do have to live with her for the rest of ur life!!!

People will always have an opinion...they want your wedding to be cookie cutter high glam, when people actually step out of the box it is frightening to them cuz this is a big day and they dont want you to regret anything. If its something you feel strongly about then dont worry about other people... when it comes to the day you will look beautiful and the same people who complained there head off all a long will prob be the people to have the most fun. In my opinion a halloween costume wedding sounds super amazing fun! I really really want to be invited to one! haha, its very uique. I would not ever have one as its just not us and we have something else planned...but im not opposed. Do what you guys want! im excited to see how it turns out!

Do what makes you happy. I personally love the idea of a Halloween/Masquerade ball wedding! I totally understand feeling like you want a Pagan Handfasting ceremony, I would want to piss people off too. I don't know what to tell you to do about your future inlaws. There's nothing easy about telling them you don't like their ideas. Eventually everything will work out, just stick to your guns.

I just looked through your posts, and it doesn't look like a halloween party that they are probably envisioning. More of a 'fall masquerade' theme, and very tastefully done.
If you are hanging plastic skeletons and dressing your bridesmaids like witches and goblins I'd probably agree with the tacky/morbid comment.
But from the looks of things your wedding will be amazing!
I also don't think anybody should be forced to have something they don't want, if you don't want a full mass, and especially if you're not Catholic, don't have one. What's the point of having one if you're not? lol (unless your fh is)

Your dress is awesome by the way!

I love the idea! A word of caution however, my cousin got married last Halloween, which is also her birthday and she had the reception at her house. There were tons of trick-o-treaters trying to come in and all the kids at her reception were a little disappointed they couldn't go out to collect candy. I say if your going to do it on Halloween, go all out and make it a Halloween them. As for the church, she did it through a Catholic Church and they didn't have a problem with the date and I really don't see the issue with the theme considering the following day is the Day of the Dead which is celebrated by the Catholic Church.

Hey Crystal.  I am getting married on Halloween.  At first we were getting married on Halloween and not having a Halloween wedding but the more time that goes by the more Halloween creep there is into the scope of the wedding.  We're including a lot of fun Halloween ideas into the day but we decided that we don't want to have a costume reception and we aren't touching the ceremony.  That said, it was a matter of our own personal preference.  I think that if you and your FH have the personality for a costume masquerade party than you should absolutely do it and let everyone else deal with it.  It's your day.  Do what feels best for you.

I thin it's a creative and fun idea! So what people don't like it! IT's your guys day not THEIRS!!! So do what your dream wedding is not someone else.

I say go for it! What a great idea! Who cares what the inlaws think, its not thier day.

I think your idea is awesome. Honestly. I would love to do something like that! I understand them wanting you both to have a church ceremony and stick with some traditions, so I would probably just suck it up with that one but your reception should be completely your own! And if you are completely against a church wedding, it is your day, and you have the final word!

Well coming from a Pagan HP (Me!)
Dont use handfasting just to piss people off. Use this if it really is something you want. Legally however, it is not. So that may not work for you, Unless the HP is also ordained and can sign your marriage certificate.


My FH is Polish Catholic, and I can NOT do the church thing at all. We compromised and one of our friends (My MOH) is getting ordained and will preform for us a private service, then have a reception on a later date.
I personally say GO FOR IT!! Forget what everyone says. I wanted a Halloween wedding as well, but with my family I know it would go over well. The FH however thought it was stupid.

Do what makes you happy girl!

Bless!
Shayne

thanks for all the support ladies i really needed some positive energy.
I'd just like to rephrase my statement about changing the wedding "just" to piss people off, i meant that changing it from the church ceremony would piss certain people off not that i would have a pagan ceremony "only" to upset those people. lol sorry for the confusion and sounding like an idiot, but i was wrapped up in my rant.

much better now though, you all are right- it's our wedding and the reception is going to be just how we've been imagining it to be!

xo

Well, you can always do both? I don't know if your wedding is in a couple of months, but I would do the regular ceremony then turn it into the Halloween Masquerade Ball for the reception. Either way, they would have to shut thier mouth, because they got what they wanted and you can be happy for sure with the celebration/reception. Good luck!

Do what makes you two happy. Who cares what other people thing (unless they are assisting in the funding). If you guys are paying for this yourselves, no one has a say. I've had to put my foot down with my FMIL and my own mother about how WE want things, it's our day.... and WE are paying for it. They'll live, or they won't come...

I think it's an awesome idea. If I didn't have small children that would be attending I might even consider it. I think it's different, but fun and I totally say GO FOR IT! :)

cool.....look into the song "i put a spell on you" by nina simone...if u dont like the original other artists sang it too...i think it would be really hot with your theme.

I think you should definitely do whatever makes YOU and your FH happy!!  I looked over your blog a bit to get a feel for what you have in mind, and I absolutely LOVE the dress you have picked out with the masquerade mask...WOW!!!  So I think people are just in shock about the "Halloween" part of your theme, but if you emphasize the Masquerade Ball side of it then people might start to come around to the idea!!  Tell them there aren't gonna be skeletons and ghosts everywhere LOL, you just love that time of year and figured that you could work that into the theme of your wedding by having a Masquerade Ball!!  Everyone can wear masks, dress up a little (tell them to think of the movie Marie Antoinette, not Halloween costumes LOL), and then hopefully they'll have a slightly different perception of your overall vision!!  If they still don't like it, well then tough luck...I guess they just don't have to come, now do they??!!!  Stick to your plan and don't let anyone try to make you conform to what their vision is for YOUR wedding!!! ;-)

It is your wedding. YOU will be the only one who, ten years from now, will look back and either love or regret what you did.

And as such, you should do what makes YOU happy.

I should note I would love a Halloween wedding myself. Maybe a ten year vow renewal or something... c;

Im getting married on halloween doing a masquerade theme. Im so excited about it! Good luck with your wedding hun!

I think that's it's an amazing idea and who cares what anyone else thinks (i know we all do a little) but you have to just let it go in one ear and out the other! What's important is what you and your fh want and everyone else should keep their mouths shut. I don't know why people feel the need to butt in so much and tell you what's right and wrong about YOUR day. You have to not regret your day or decision. I hope you stick with your theme because I know you will regret it if you don't. You have our support!! xoxo