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I would just like to preface this with a disclaimer that I in no way, shape or form mean to offend anyone with this post. I am all about living your life and I fully believe that people have the right to make decisions other than those I would make. I really don’t mean to insult or offend anyone, I just have some feelings I’m trying to deal with that I desperately need to get out and make sense of.
So the boy went to a bachelor party last night for a good friend who is getting married tomorrow. They ended up at a strip club and the groom ended up in the back room for a significant amount of time (more than half an hour). My boy told me this because we are super open with each other and talk about just about everything, and I have to say, I am super skeeved out. I don’t understand why anyone would need to go into the backroom, let alone for an extended period. It isn’t necessary.
I have some serious issues with all of this. And I was thinking about it, and it’s not just the whole naked girl in my boyfriend’s face (although I’m not a huge fan of that, and I’m thinking if the tables were turned, he wouldn’t be a huge fan of me straddling some guy wearing very minimal amounts of clothing). But I have issues with the fact that I think I just don’t want to marry the type of guy that would do that. Like I know plenty of guys who just go have a boys weekend sans strippers for their bachelor parties (they go river rafting, riding quads, golfing) and these are guys that have amazing marriages and guys that I respect. After I was told about the guy last night, I lost my respect for him. And I don’t want to be marrying someone that does that (not that I think Mike would, it’s hypothetical).
So I realized that my main issue with these is the idea of the type of guy that usually does that. And I just have this one memory of my little brother talking about the bachelor party and Mike said that his brother was planning it and all his friends might want to go to a strip club and my brother got this horrified look on his face and that image is just burned into my memory. I don’t want my fiancé to the person that insights that type of look on my family’s face. My family just isn’t the strip club type. My older brother was the one who went river rafting for his bachelor party and I’m super close with my brothers, so they would hear about whatever Mike ends up doing for his party and I just can’t stand that thought of him being the strip club guy.
Which makes me feel like a witch girlfriend, because I should A. trust my guy and B. not worry about what other people think about him. So I feel very conflicted. On the one side, I know he would never do anything stupid if they did go to a strip club (they might, they might not), but on the other, that’s just not the type of person I want to be with and not the type of thing I really respect. I was just wondering if anyone else feels this way, or are you ok with the strip club stuff? Does it bother you at all? And if so, does it make you feel like that “jealous girlfriend”?