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Does the best man's wife need to be my bridesmaid?

I'm in that same situation if you want to call it that, its not an issue really. My FH has his friends and those he is close to which are the men he chose, and I have my friends that I chose for my bridal party. It's not even anything that I think anyone would expect to be done.
Has anyone said something to you? Either way, pick the women you love and have relationships with to be standing with you on your big day.
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nope not required by any means

Girl no ma'am, you pick who you feel would help you get to the altar in one piece and know would be there for you through this process... she can enjoy watching her boo walk down the aisle and keep it pushing!

Who you pick is 100% up to you.  You need to think about who you want standing beside you on your wedding day and who you want helping you get ready before the wedding. Everyone will understand.

I'm in the same situation and she is not going to be a bridesmaid and I don't think that she would expect to be. She is going to help with some photography because it is her hobby. You don't need to include her...no biggie!

i'd be kinda screwed if she was seeing as I've never even met my best man's wife! only have who you want. I don't have mine or his sisters in our bridal party either.

nope. or else i'm really rude. each one of our bridal party members has either a wife, husband or significant other of 5+ years and not one of the spouses is in the bridal party. its all about your relationship, not theirs. pick who you wanna.

Not at all...your bridesmaids should be the gals in your life who mean the most to you.  His wife can be a guest at the ceremony and  at the reception you can seat her at the head table (if you have one) so they can be together.

No! She should understand that situation. If she doesn't, there might be an insecurity about their relationship. Don't worry about it. If it accepted the position to be his best man, he did it for his buddy. Not his wife.

Absolutely not.

While the Mrs. should ABSOLUTELY be invited, she does not have to be your bridesmaid. Only one of our groomsmen had a girlfriend at the time of our wedding, and she was invited - but she was not a bridesmaid.

I was having the same problem, but then the two separated, and the decision was basically made for me. But...I still was not going to invite her to be a bridesmaid. Just because she is the BM wife does not automatically give her first choice. Good Luck!!

The truth i dont think she needs to be.  Is all about how you feel about adding more people.  My hubbys best man is his brother and his gf is a really good friend so I did ended up adding her so she wouldnt sit alone and also as a friend.   It all depends on you really.

nah, it should be who you feel close to.  ironically, my FH best man turned out to be my biggest supporter during this wedding planning stress and she is the best.  i had thought about it at the beginning before i asked my bm and now i really wish i had asked her instead of one of my bm.  but i think you never really know how ppl are until you get married...that's my take.  some ppl are not as happy for you as you'd thought they would be and some surprise you with their enthusiasm and thoughtfulness.

my FH best man's wife, i mean

My hubby best friend is a Groomsman and his wife isn't included in the wedding party. I thought it was awkward but my hubby then said that only my friends and "very" close relatives should be my bridemaids.
You aren't obliged to include her in the wedding, but then think about the seating arrangement.

Happy planning!!

absolutely not...you pick your girls and your husband picks his guys, if you HAPPEN to pick two that are dating or married then it's kinda neat and all but never ever required.
so don't sweat it, you're in the clear!

my fn best man is his brother and he is married... and his wife is not in my party... she is actually staying home with their kids bc they are out of town and can all aford to come up.

she can sit with the family table or something... the bridal party is really for ppl who are close to you or u feel special around...

I would say ABSOLUTELY NOT!!  You should have people that you are close with. My FH is having his best friend as his bestman, they recently got married and I am not having his wife in my party. We talk when we all get together but she is not a close friend. I dont call her up for shopping trips or anything!

Have who you want in your party... dont feel obligated to have your FH family in there either.. unless you are close with them and want them!  have only who you want!!!

In one word... NO. It is your wedding and the people who stand by your side should be people you care about and love.

Thanks for the answers girls, It was really helpful!!!!!!
Dayana.

im in the same situation....my fh best friend is gonna be his best man, and his daughter is gonna be one if our flower girls ( my fh is her godfather) so i know his fiance, we've all hung out, and we get along, and i kniw she wants to be a bridesmaid since her man is the best man and her daughter is a flower girl....my fh is totally ok wit her not being a bridesmaid ( he doesnt really like her anyway) but is it wrong to not have her in the wedding....i say its not wrong for you to not have your fh friends wife in the wedding, its your day! (unless he has a problem wit it and wants her in the wedding,) i think there is no need...u wannahave people who have ur back and love u, and are ur bridesnaids becuz they are the people who are most close to you, so your friends wife needs to understand that...ur bridesmaid arent just random people u pick, there the people u want by urside during tge wedding planning to lean on and help u get through, and the ones u want standing by u at the alter becuz i think that represents they will stand by you through ur marriage, and its not right to have someone there that u picked becuz u felt obligated to, pick who u want! its ur people, its ur wedding :)....now i need to take my own advice ha ha

lol i read this and didnt realize how old the post is ha ha, oh well my advice still stands lol