This is deijahp's Green Wedding!

I was checking my email, and came across a New York Times article about wedding sabatoge. I have never heard of anything like this happening, but apparently it is real. I copied and pasted the article.

SECOND THOUGHTS ON LOVE LOST...

The mysterious calls were baffling at first. A woman, who said she was the bride, canceled the vintage automobile that was supposed to drive her and her bridegroom to their reception. The caterer, apparently contacted by the same woman, was told that far more guests would be attending the reception than had been arranged. And the bridal salon was told to ship the wedding gown to what turned out to be a wrong address.

“No one could figure out who was masterminding it,” said Ana Cruz, who was planning the Miami wedding. Then she recalled something the bride had said about the bridegroom’s embittered former girlfriend. After some detective work, she became Ms. Cruz’s prime suspect.

When told of a former boyfriend or girlfriend’s wedding plans, anyone might experience pangs of engagement and wedding envy. But according to Ms. Cruz, this was a case of jealousy in the extreme.

“No one could figure how she knew so many of the planning details,” Ms. Cruz said. (Eventually it was learned that a cousin of the bride had inadvertently leaked the information.) Ms. Cruz was alarmed and began warning all the vendors to be on alert. She even hired security guards for the wedding and gave them blown-up photographs of the woman.

Ms. Cruz said she was standing in the foyer after the reception had begun when a guard murmured, “I think that’s her.” Sure enough, it was the former girlfriend, who was then politely but firmly turned away.

When Melissa Gullickson, 24, of Las Vegas learned last summer from mutual friends that a boyfriend from college was about to become a bridegroom, she admitted to feeling “deeply disturbed.” So disturbed, in fact, that she resolved to track him down and not so gently remind him of the love he was forsaking — hers. But love was not her primary motive.

“I thought to myself, I’m going to tell him I miss him, ruin his wedding, and no longer be the only one who’s still single,” she said.

Engagement envy struck Morgan Scopetto, 27, of Orlando, Fla., as she dined at a restaurant — a favorite of both her and her former fiancé — over Memorial Day weekend.

“So, are you happy for him?” her waiter asked, referring to you-know-whom. “He came in yesterday and announced he was engaged.”

She said she then sent a text message saying, “I hear you’re engaged.” In reply he said, “No, I’m married.”

Even though their breakup had occurred five months earlier, Ms. Scopetto said she felt devastated.

“In processing all of this confusion, anger, sadness and hurt,” she said, “I wanted to know why he couldn’t marry me after our engagement and three-year relationship, but he could marry someone else in a matter of three months.”

Victims of engagement envy typically choose to suffer in private and limit themselves to frivolous daydreams about a honeymoon mishap. Others may quench their anger in various ways online.

And those who are obsessed have a whole new range of technological tools to indulge their obsession. Web sites that couples set up to inform their friends and relatives about their unfolding wedding plans can also make them vulnerable. A jealous former lover could circumvent any password protection and gain the same access to wedding itineraries, news — and even the online gift registry.

Obsession and the envy and anger that fuels it can occasionally take a violent turn.

In 2002, Agustin Garcia was found guilty of the murder of his former girlfriend, Gladys Ricart, hours before she was to marry another man in New Jersey. Prosecutors said Mr. Garcia had stalked Ms. Ricart for weeks after they broke up.

Yet for all the havoc that revisiting lost love can wreak, Dr. Jonathan L. Tobkes, a New York psychiatrist, said that the experience could also present an opportunity “to look inward and reflect on the choices you made and where you are now.”

“Finding out about a former love’s new life can sort of be a blinding light of loneliness,” Dr. Tobkes said. “But these people are really looking at the wrong thing; they really should be looking at themselves,” he added.

In the midst of concocting ways to derail her ex-boyfriend’s wedding, Ms. Gullickson’s sanity finally caught up with her, without the aid of a therapist. “As I unfurled this devious plan to my friends,” she said, “I heard myself talking and realized what a jerk I was being.”

After the initial shock wore off, it took Ms. Scopetto no more than a few days to realize that if her former intended could find someone else so quickly, then she, too, could proceed with her own life.

“Sometimes you need a strange waiter to tell you the truth,” she said. “After I took the weekend to mope, I can now laugh about it.”

Ok; My future MIL is doing my rehearsal dinner. What I'm trying to figure out is what to do at the dinner besides eat, meet, and mingle. I want to have a brief run through of what will take place at the wedding.

Is anyone else doing a "practice run?"

Yesterday I received an email from one of my bridesmaids stating that she wasn't going to be able to be in the wedding. Of course it was someone dear to me and I really wanted her as a bridesmaid, but I guess that's just how it goes sometimes.

I know I just posted this not to long ago now it has vanished...

Anywho; My FI has a friend that is a comedian. He's going to be a groomsmen in the wedding. He wants his stage name in quotes on the program. Is this ok, or am I just tripping?

Finally, after all the blood, sweat, and tears I have FINALIZED my wedding colors. Clover, marine, and ivory!

Are your FH or groomsmen wearing black tuxedos in your summer wedding? I was trying to get away from using black, but it's hard not to.

I went one full day without logging on to WBC. I know this sounds weird, but I usually log in about two or three times a day just to see what everyone is up to.

Am I the only one here EVERDAY??
Maybe I need to get a life...

So I know that I need a little something to brighten me up but I have no idea where to start. Is it to early for me to start getting "made up" so I will know what look I'm going for?

All I've ever worn was lipstick and eyeliner (and that was in high school)

Are you getting your make-up done professionally or doing it yourself?

CHIAVARI, Italy, July 7 (UPI) -- A woman said she is suing her Italian wedding dress designer after the nearly $4,000 garment fell apart at the altar, exposing her bottom to her guests.

The bride, 30, said her wedding day in Chiavari, Italy, went down the tubes because of faulty sewing on her dress, The Telegraph reported Monday.

The woman's lawyer, Alberto Figone, said his client's wedding was ruined and it "turned out to be the worst" day of her life.

"She was left extremely embarrassed because the stitching of her dress came apart at the altar, slid down and revealed her bottom to the whole congregation," he said.

The woman is seeking about $40,000 from the designer for "moral damages as well as financial damages," the newspaper said.

Since the woman's 2006 wedding took place, she and her husband have separated, The Telegraph said.

Does Anyone know where I can find 1/4" or 3/8" clover ribbon? I have found every shade of green there is; just not the color that I am looking for.

Thanks Ladies!

I started with Clover and Ivory, then added silver as an accent color. I don't think that will work though! I feel like I'm loosing the battle when it comes to my color scheme because I keep seeing so many pretty color schemes!

This is my "very rough" draft of what I want my invitations to look like. It isn't on my actual invitation, which is cream. And that silver ribbon will be replaced with clover ribbon. Oh! I'm planning on putting a vellum sheet on top of it!

If any of you need computer paper with Damask boarder they have it at Dollar Tree/30 sheets per pack!

Also; I just found out that they have a website on which you can order tulle, candles, bubbles, etc. by the case.

www.dollartreedirect.com

Like some of you, I'm doing my own invitiations. I was trying to figure out if it was better (cheaper) to go to Kinko's or a company that prints documents or just printing them myself? All suggestions welcomed... PLEASE!

I was just curious if I am the only Bride-to-Be that is doing something wedding related instead of watching fireworks or eating bar-b-que???

What do you all think about this tote? I was trying to find something that my bridesmaids would like. It's a trio of totes! The only problem is that they are not the same green Im using in the wedding. They are Pistachio. Could I get away with these or do I need to keep looking?

**UPDATE**

Totes came in the other day and you were right; I should have gotten a set for myself!

These shoes are cute to me! They have a three-inch heel (I could use the height) Accent my dress well...

I was thinking about having my flowergirls (have two) just walk down carrying a pretty arrangement or hold wands decorated with flowers (scheri's blog).
What have you all seen differently and what do you plan on doing?

I know everyone has there ideas about what they want to do with there hair. All that I know is I want it up and that I have a tiara and veil already!

I am afraid that my FH may not like the dress that I purchased (posted below) Last night I was thumbing through one of my wed mags. I was pointing out dresses just to see what he thought. I pointed to one that was similar to mine and he wasn't to found of it. I almost had a nervous breakdown! What am I going to do??


Signed
Helpless Bride

I decided to let my Bridesmaids and choose there own dresses. These are most of the styles they will be choosing from. Everyone is going to have a different dress!

We decide to go on a cruise to the Bahamas for our honeymoon. I'm excited about it!

Is everyone doing this? I'm not having a formal wedding or reception. Is it ok for people to sit anywhere they want? What's the purpose behind this anyway?

Ok; I just tried on my first dress today! I was wondering if I am the only "future bride" that purchased the first dress they tried on??? It looked nice on me so I had to get it...


**UPDATE**

Deleted picture of dress; didn't want the "wrong person" to see it!

I have been trying to get these pictures taken for over a month. Here's a few of them! I'm pleased!

A friend of mine had a candle light fairy at her wedding. I was just wonder if any of you have seen this and who's doing this?

I know that it is tradition that a Unity candle is lit to signify two becoming one. I was wondering if anyone was doing something different that the candle. I heard one bride mention something about sand.

Ok; I have narrowed it down to two gowns. I am going to try these on in a couple of weeks so that I can make my final decision.

My FH picked it out himself!!