06/22/2010
top secrets
top secrets
  

SECRET
To getting comments!

Im no comment expert nor am I popular on WBC, and heck ive had tons of posts that have got no comments! but its been trial and error and I have learnt over the months! I dont necessarily always follow my own advice but If I did im sure it would work haha. so I wanted to share
"my secret" with you all! Ive been on WBC for over a year and have
seen more then a dozen times the same post: Disapointed in WBC
brides/ no comments/ WBC pledge for commenting. ...or something
along those lines. This post is in no way directed towards anyone! nd apologies for being so long haha, ive been holding this in for a LONG time!

Here are the secrets I have found:

1) Your picture: you have to have one! plain and simple! dont expect
many if any comments without one, and when you get one it has to
catch peoples attention, so make sure it STANDS OUT. Think of this,
there is what? 40 posts that people can view at a time, chances are wewont stop and look at EVERY one, so when we see one with a funny or bold pic we stop and click (like window shopping). I keep a file on my computer titled WBC pics that ive collected over the last year that cover a variety of potential topics and emotions. Im always on the look for catchy pics I can use and google has become my best friend!

2) Your description: This also has to stand out! Along with your pic
this is one of the biggest things that will catch the window shopping
brides attention. Dont use something long or generic or boring (Keep
in mind when the post is displayed it will only show the first few
words). Using your name (like in third person) seems to be a big hit
too. Ive made jokes of this is the past but its the truth!! Just
look at any of the top brides pages, such as unpredictablebride or aimee114 etc..you know who you are haha.

3) Your topic: What is the purpose of you posting the post? Do you
want advice? do you want to share some advice? are you proud of a
recent DIY? do you have a question? do you need to rant? Your topic
generally has to be of interest to another bride. What has made the
top posts more then ever? shoes lol cause they are of general interest
to everyone! Voting seems to be popular too because its interactive! another tip: Dont use all capitals hahahaha

4) Your attitude: Postivitey for the win! I understand we all need to
vent! and Im right there with you sometimes haha. Although these seem to get the views every so often too if your generally postive and happy like Nidahl then you will get more comments and a good reputation! people will want to comment on your posts because your such a fun and nice person!

5) If you give comments, you'll get comments: this one is self explanatory

6) Always try to end the post with a question: The first and the
hardest method is, to make your posts more attractive so the bride
won’t leave your post without leaving a comment. You may have the
traffic but you arnt necessarily getting the comments? thats a common
complaint! I think most of you have already noticed that most top
brides blogs posts contains a question at the end. Do you know why they are doing it? Its like a small invitation for the readers to leave a comment. So, try to end your post with a question… and let the
reader complete the post.

7) Time of day: The best time of day to post I have found is late
morning on a weekday, if your posting late at night or weekend you
will automatically have less comments...The posts are up for 24 hours
or until they are bumped so utilize your time well.

8) If at first you dont succeed...try again! I have had posts where I
get no comments....I generally deleate them and try agan at another
time. Maybe tweak it a bit and try to follow the above advice, and
that tends to work

9) dont worry so much about comments: I know this whole post is
focused on the secrets to getting more comments but you just have to
relax!!! Dont try so hard! This isnt a popularity contest! Its about
your wedding and you sharing your thoughts and feelings and hard work with others, almost like a journal or diary. I didnt take the pledge
for a reason, and it has nothing to do with me not wanting to comment
on others pages. I think I have a pretty good track record so im happy
with that! I got some of the best advice from a bride once that has
stuck with me: No one will care about your wedding as much as you do, let that one soak in haha.


So I wanted to open the post to you WBC brides (as im no expert by any means), Do you agree or not? and what advice do you have to add to help other brides out???
kkrbride's Purple wedding
 |  Idaho falls, ID, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
great post!! And all of these things work :)
aaronsbridetobe's Blue wedding
 |  Edwardsville, IL, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Agreed! Good post!
danielleb's Purple wedding
 |  Fort mcmurray, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
I totally agree! If there is no pic, 99% of the time I won't click on it...

Also, if someone doesn't put any notes in their posts (I thought that's what blogging was...writing writing writing...)  and it just has a pic I generally don't leave comments.

Great post girl!
maripoza's Orange wedding
 |  Burbank, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
I totally agree with everything you wrote, thanks for posting. Express yourself and don't think of it as a popularity race.
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
@dainilleb... I agree with that too.... its usully with the new brides tho, they will post a pic of there ring and say...my ring! thats all lol.... I may comment and say very nice but thats not all the time lol
hecallsmehisdarlin's Black wedding
 |  Portsmouth, VA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Couldn't have said it any better myself!!!!
herricksgirl's Pink wedding
 |  Portland, OR, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Yes I agree, it's of course fun to get comments and you get excited if you have some but if you are new it's understandable to not have very many posts. I go on here not only to get posts but to get ideas...that's my whole point, not showing off lol
fallinlove's Chocolate wedding
 |  Indianapolis, IN, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
i totally agree, great post!!
macbride's Orange wedding
 |  Hamilton, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Love this post! Thanks for the advice. Love that you ended with a question :). I totally agree.
amandasoontobemoury's Pink wedding
 |  Tacoma, WA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Great post! :) I completely agree with every one of them! Especially with giving/getting them, time of day, and your description! All things that are factors when I comment!
sonlove2010's Green wedding
 |  Wesley chapel, FL, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
I hear ya deneanrae. Great advice. Let me ask you this, what if you do all of the above-constantly, get over 200 views and yet only receive 4 comments? Also, I try to comment on all blogs I visit, I still am not a favorite either. I dont let this kind of stuff bother me anymore because I still enjoy coming to this site. It has been a helpful resource and I do love the feedback I get, even if it is just 4! Thanks for this post! :)
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
@sonlove2010, I am not no guru on comments lol, but i checked your page out. Looks like you gets lots of views and comments for the most part...i guess the asking the question at the end is one. And dont take this offensively but the music on your page is not everyones cup of tea. I personally dont like that kind of music at all...sometimes it scares me too when i click on the page haha cuz i have my sound so loud, so i quickly  get off so i dont have to listen. I can easily press stop but i rather just leave sometimes. brutal but honest. now i dont thnk thats why your not getting comments haha but just my first impression. keep on keepin on and if you find something else that works let me know!
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Im so glad im on the right track, i was expecting some negative comments from this so i mentally prepared haha. If you have anything else to add please do!!!
sbbride's Blue wedding
 |  Goleta, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Agree as well!
speedy91289's Purple wedding
 |  Bellflower, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
i totally agree with all u said, ive noticed it as well. =D
sweetlatina's Purple wedding
 |  West haven, CT, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
I agree! :)
tashasita's Purple wedding
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Agreed :) All these work! Oh and, you are LOVED on WBC! :) And you are popular! I totally friggin love you! :)
tashasita's Purple wedding
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Also, I think that when you comment on other ppl's you do make yourselves known. I know it's not the be-all-and-end-all, but it def helps.
nidhal's Purple wedding
 |  Montclair, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
YES YES YES!!!!!! I have found that every single one of your points is TRUE!!!! GREAT POST D!!! (I know how much you LOVE CAPS)!! lmao!! I WILL STOP SHOUTING AT YOU NOW :)
22011bride's Purple wedding
 |  San jose, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
i agree! especially with DONT WORRY ABOUT COMMENTS!! i cant help but laugh when i see post about not getting any comments =) sorry if that offends anyone, but its true
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Alwaysandforever
 |  Knoxville, TN, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
AMEN SISTER!!!! Thanks for posting this. You are truly one of the wbc brides that I love getting feedback from simply bc you are soooo honest!

I did not take the pledge either and I will tell you why...I also am honest (too honest). And my parents taught me if I cant say anything nice to keep my big mouth shut. LOL

You are soooo right...this is not a popularity contest. I actually wish WBC would take away the visit counter. That way it would become a non issue. Seriously...as long as a few ppl comment be happy. Not everyone who views the post needs to comment...and really you may be hurt by some of our truthful comments.
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Alwaysandforever
 |  Knoxville, TN, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
OH I forgot to add.....I am tired of commenting on posts then the bride doesn't like what I say and she deletes the entire post or just what I wrote. There is 1 bride that I totally will not comment on her page bc even if I am sweet as pie she does that dumb crap!! I feel like I took my time to comment and then you bitch about what I wrote...so we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. But there are so many other brides on here that I love and will comment 100 times on 1 post. LOL
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
@alwaysandforever.... Your so funny! I think were a little too much alike. I have to censor myself like crazy haha. I wont comment on certain people pages either for the same reason...wonder if its the same person? I love honesty but not everyone does...they just want so nice...so beautiful....thats it. So if i cant give that I wont comment. true true

@Nidahl.... YES ALL CAPS IS A MAJOR DEAL BREAKER! LMAO
rainbowdream's Pink wedding
 |  Spokane, WA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
:Way to go deneanrae GREAT post! I sooo agree.You pretty much said it Yayyyy ur awesome gurl!!!!!!!!!!!
ccranetobe's Orange wedding
 |  Melbourne, Andorra la vella, Australia  |  06/22/2010  | 
I find if you comment, you get more comments back and more feedback. and its so true about the picture. If you dont have a picture i generally dont look at it and I wish they got rid of the word "popular" brides.  This aint no popularity contest! its a wedding!
macbride's Orange wedding
 |  Hamilton, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Okay so I have to add one more comment that will totally make me sound nerdy. The whole deal of commenting on other bride's post and receiving comments in return is actually supported by theory (here comes the nerdy part). There's something called "social exchange theory" where if someone does something for us, we feel like we have a small debt to them, like we owe them, and want to return the favour by repaying them somehow. In this case it's by commenting on their posts in return. Okay that was my nerd speak for the evening.
nidhal's Purple wedding
 |  Los angeles, CA, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
LOLLOLLOL!! WHAT DO YOU MEAN....YOU DON'T LIKE ALL CAPS? TELL ME WHY DENEARAE? ITS JUST LETTERS. HA!! I CRACK MYSELF UP.
monikas's Chocolate wedding
 |  Palm coast, FL, USA  |  06/22/2010  | 
Well said...Great post.I must also add that if you don't get many comments please don't let this STOP you from coming to "WBC".
I myself don't get many comments but continue to go on.Yes we are here for the support of each other.I'm not always on the computer so what I try and do is go to "previous posts , "more questions"and  "questions of the day".That kind of help me comment on what I missed.Hope this also will help u ladies out.
tashasita's Purple wedding
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Gosh you're right on the caps! Makes my eyes hurt lol!

I agree they should get rid of the visit counter.. Seems to be a real sore spot. Also think that if a few ppl comment, it's really cool. Not just better than nothing but awesome that a couple people "get" you!

Also I gotta def agree that positivity attracts. Happiness attracts. We ALL have bad days but generally being happy and easy to be around draws people to you. Bees flock to honey not vinegar ha!

We can def share our stresses, not many people understand our stresses like another bride, but just try and generally be light-hearted.
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
I agree, I swear I didnt notice the counter for the first 9 months lol..and that was only when someone did a post about recieving 5000 views on there profile lol. Just cause more people click then post is no reason to get all huffy puffy..... if you recieve ten percent of the views as comment i think your doing good!
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
@monikas... I tottaly agree, dont let it stop you from comming on WBC, it just means your giving in haha
tashasita's Purple wedding
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  06/22/2010  | 
Yeah I totally missed it for the longest time too. I sometimes notice it now but try not to. Not worth trying to figure out the disparity and like unpredictable said a few days ago, a lot of those visits can also come from random google searches or non-brides.

Either way, this was a fab and uber true post girl!!!
unpredictablebride's Black wedding
 |  Harvey, IL, USA  |  06/23/2010  | 
Good post sweetie! There are posts I get tons of comments and some I get none.Not everyone can be interested in what I post..it's OK! Everyone kind of need to have that mentality.
The best anyone can do is if they want comments, leave them as well. I noticed most brides I comment on, comment in return and that's nice of them  :)
Also, IMO it is nice to say thank you! If you get 1 comment or 200, always thank others for their opinions, advice or input.

The best part of your post was this:
"No one will care about your wedding as much as you do"
VERY TRUE!! (caps lol!)

I don't like how some have made this a big popularity contest. Honestly, I have 4 kids and a hectic life that's multiplied by planning this "event". I don't have time, nor do I tolerate childish BS. My teenage daughter fills that slot for me just fine lol!!
If you need that form of validation, maybe you shouldn't be here.

As the golden rule...
"do to others what you would want them to do to you"
laydeecadbury's Purple wedding
 |  Stoke-on-trent, Stoke-on-trent, United kingdom  |  06/23/2010  | 
This is a really encouraging post. Thanx!
summerbride2010's Black wedding
 |  Greensboro, NC, USA  |  06/23/2010  | 
Good Post Deneanrae!  all that you said is totally true!  And I agree with Tasha, you are a popular bride!  You are very well known on here!
acowleysoontobe's Pink wedding
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  06/23/2010  | 
WOOO HOOOO!!!! Great post Girlie!!! I have seen a lot of posts lately about upset brides who get no comments or a general lack of action on their blogs, and I feel bad-I do. But at the same time, I'm here to learn and share, and at the end of the day, if someone doesn't want to view my post or comment, I'm ok with that-I don't view or comment on everyone elses. Honestly, I find that I usally only comment on a post that either asks an opinion/question or posts that interest me-that are similar to my taste or style. If I have the time, I will comment on each post I read-I know how exciting it is to see that email-"SO and So also commented on the post you subscribed". LOL ;)
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/23/2010  | 
you guys are so awesome! thanks for all your comments!!!! Love you girls
mazzy0774's Green wedding
 |  Spring, TX, USA  |  06/23/2010  | 
Great post!  And, look at all those comments! LOL! ;)
mrsallaway2b's Green wedding
 |  Piscataway, NJ, USA  |  06/25/2010  | 
Great Post!
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  06/25/2010  | 
lol comments there are! ironic eh
netter's Pink wedding
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  06/25/2010  | 
How did I miss this post before? I totally agree 100%! ANd I laughed soooooo hard reading everyones comments on this subject!

TO add to your list --- to be honest if I see a bride complaining alot about not getting comments I tend to not really go to that brides page anymore ..because after a complaint like that I feel pressure to comment on things regardless of how I feel about them.. so I just avoid them altogether!! lol  

Also, I find people comment more once your "visions" start taking shape.. not just random musings...
misstoni26's Blue wedding
 |  Calgary, AB, Canada  |  06/28/2010  | 
Excellent and informative post girl! Thanks!
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 |  Nanjing, La massana, China  |  06/28/2010  | 
great post!! And all of these things work :)
sonlove2010's Green wedding
 |  New york, NY, USA  |  06/30/2010  | 
LOL those were rhetorical questions. Not really expecting u to answer them. As u can see, if it truly bothered me, I would have ditched this site a while ago but I love it here. As far as my music, it stays :) lol....it expresses who I am and what genre of music I like. People either love it or hate it...lol. Besides, on the individual blog post, my music doesn't pop up. Its only when u actually visit my page.
divadan80's Blue wedding
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  07/01/2010  | 
hey, I read your post and all of your comments,   I think you hit it on a nail to a certain degree, what I wanted to tell you was that when I joined this site, I had no idea I would be a top bride, and  I have gotten there by so many visiting my site. At this point my blog is loosing popularity but, its cool, I have been married over a year now.   Majority of the posts I did were not for others comments, they were for me.....what this blog has done for a lot of us brides is opened up a window into our lives, views, and how we have planned our weddings.  

When I didnt have the support of anyone, I came here and asked questions and got advice, then in turn, I was totally addicted, giving my advice as well, on WBC, EVERYDAY!!!

I think other women followed my blog, as well as others, because it tells a story, everyone's does whether your blog is on the front page or not but, sometimes I see brides attempting to get a lot of recognition, instead of just planning their own wedding.  I like your blog, its very interesting and It would keep me reading to the last post!   Just keep in mind, the blog is for you!  My advice to you and the other brides would be to not worry about others not commenting or what not, just let them be  enjoy your wedding planning, up to the last day!

Danielle the DIVA!
pytnda850's Chocolate wedding
 |  Pensacola, FL, USA  |  07/05/2010  | 
some of the things you say was true, but its kinda bad when I put up something and no one comments to it specially when I am asking for the help of my fellow brides. I decided to do a post about it but changed my mind. it just show you some like posting on other posts better than others. I know im guilty of not saying something when i go to someone page but  sometimes i dont know what to say or do in  the situation. Im not gonna whine about the issue but i just feel some are being wishy washy about the situation. they want someone to post on they post when they have done something or did something but dont respond to other brides.
misspriss's Black wedding
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  07/21/2010  | 
love this Thanks
soconfused's Red wedding
 |  Scarborough, ON, Canada  |  07/21/2010  | 
This is such a great post... I love it. It's funny because we all know (or at least most of us) that it isn't a popularity contest but it's true we all feel kinda down when we go back to our post and have no comments. Just reading this post though, I see for the most part where I go wrong. It never fails that I end up posting new stuff LATE at night, ususally after midnight because with my crazy house, that seems to be the only time I can.  It's all good though, I love reading the little bit of feedback I get and love even more reading all of the other WBC brides posts. Even though planning a wedding can be soooo stressful, I find that coming on here, getting ideas, venting, or just reading what everyone else is up to is relaxing. I love you gals!!!
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