*sigh*

No more sex. Unfortunately.

We Havent Had Sex In 4 Months, I Just Dont Ever Want It..I Had An Accident When I Was 16 To Change My Ways Of Sex. But Its Normal Love..ALOT Of Women Go Through This! Dont Get Down :)

I think it's stress. We are living together for last 1.5 years. Things have changed for sure but not a drastic change. When we used to be like this..all over each-other .......now we go without having 'it' for a week and doesn't really bother. Six weeks is a long time. Have you tried to do something different- giving each-other massage, getting in shower together, watching romantic movies together. Take sometime alone, just two of you, no wedding planning and see if things improve.

Good luck!

ah, i think stress affects how much we have sex.

but.. i do believe it's really important in relationships and it keeps you really intimate and close.

i would say thta you should really talk to him about it.. let him know how you've been feeling....  try to see what exactly is going on with the two of you.

it's true though.. couples do go through their ups and downs.. but you want to strat your marriage on an up!! heheheh

we went from august through till after the wedding (Oct 3rd) without having sex. It wasn't a conscious decision like some couples do- it was because I was so stressed out with planning and everything that I really wasn't even remotely interested. At first DH thought i just wasn't attracted to him anymore, but that definitely isn't, and wasn't the case. I was just so exhausted from spending all day every day worrying about everything wedding related that by the time we got to bed, I just wanted to curl up and forget everything that had happened that day.

Try taking some time out to de-stress together. Perhaps a romantic dinner, a fun date, a candlelit bath, a loving massage... and see where it leads from there?

SIx weeks sounds like a lot to me. FH and I have been living together for over 2 years now, and we'll have slight lulls, but when I'm stressed is probably when we have it the most - it's an amazing destressor.
However, I do try to make a conscious effort to have sex. It's not like I never want to, but if we only had sex when I really wanted to, it would be, like, 3 times a month. So even when I'm just feeling a little bit cuddly or sexy or something I'll make a move, and then 10 minutes later it's totally worth it! Just give it a start with kissing, and touching and all that good stuff, and get into it. I think while you're having sex saying sweet nothings into each-other's ears is a huge turn on and will make it great.
Sometimes when you get into a lull you've just got to kick start things. Then things go back to normal.
However, it might be more complicated that this, and you may want to talk to a counselor or therapist. From what I understand, a whole lot of people go through things like this, so it's not a huge deal at all, but you should work through it if it's bothering you at all.

Best of luck! I hope things heat back up!

It's true, both sexes can go through this. You are not alone :) Maybe stress or being overworked can have something to do with it. You can try setting the mood by lighting up scented candles in the bedroom, massaging oil, and soft music. Good luck!

thanks for posting this.... it makes me feel better because we are the exact same.. well i am atleast he still wants it all the time.. but i just feel no need at all..  we've been living together for 3 years now so we have a patches and it can go for about 6 weeks but then all of sudden its like we have sex 3 times a day for like a week and then we are done for another bit...
if you can make the time.. go away for a weekend and rent a hotel room.. something about hotel rooms makes everyone horny

Girl I havent had sex in like 3 or 4 months lol! I dont even notice to be honest. Between his off the wall hours (nights) and me running with 4 kids..We just dont have time. Im 34 and hes 37 so maybe its run its course lol
We have been together for almost 10 years lol.
I have no complaints though. Our nights in bed are "hows the kids, who did what in school, what happened with work today" etc. With him working nights, he sleeps all day though too and that has a LOT to do with it. We are on totally different schedules!
Age and stress are always a factor with sex..

I think after marriage it is something that both parties really need to make an effort to keep going.  Like the other ladies I agree, I think its of course common for women to go spells of not "feeling" in the mood, but no one can deny that its a very important factor in a healthy marriage.  But communication is as well, so its good that you and your FH are atleast talking about...I think I'd be more concerned with a man saying he isn't interested in sex though...

Honestly, I'd check with your Dr.

My libido dropped but that was because of pregnancy. Even then, we still make love at least once a week (maybe every week and a half if I'm really off of my game).

I have a friend that she and her husband can go 6-8 weeks without it. It plays a pretty important aspect in my relationship with my FH only because he was a virgin prior to us being together, so it's still "new" for him (although it's not NEW!)...

Either way, get your blood levels checked for any abnormalities. Try taking a natural aphrodesiac (spelling?). If you eat oysters... (I think that's one)... etc.

Stress is a HUGE mood killer. Maybe a good talk of sitting down and trying to iron out what happened that got you two to this point will help?

I'm sorry, I'm all over the board on this one- I'm just trying to think of thoughts and ideas. :)

Good Luck!

Every couple is very different on this issue. The one thing that worries me most about your post is that when you heard that he wasn't interested in sex, it broke your heart. Some couples are ok with the lack of sex, but from your comment, you don't seem to be.

I think this is definitely stress based, but only you can answer that for sure. And while every couple has lulls and issues in this dept, hopefully you can take steps to work on it now, so that both of you don't remain unhappy and it starts to pull you apart in other ways. The last thing you want is for any issue to create a barrier or resentment and distance between you.

It might seem forced at first, but try and set the mood. Remember why you first always felt a spark with him and try and create it. Try not to put pressure on yourself though while doing so..

Have you changed anything in the past little while? For me, I noticed my libido change when I went on different medication. My doctor told me that this can sometimes be a side effect of some birth control pills. I am now not on any medication, and things are much better!! Hope this helps!

Everyone goes thru lulls and changes.

Try a nice date night with no serious talk and have a drink or two.
Relax and just focus on the moment.
Even if the lovin' doesn't happen, it will be good intimacy time regardless.

Hang in there!!!

My FH and I have lived together and we don't have the sex we had when we first got together; we used to stay in bed all weekend when we first got together, and most weeknights. People didn't see us very often!

But after about a year to a year and a half we started going with less sex. I think that's just the end of the fairytale stage, honestly. We still make sure we have sex at least once every 2 weeks, sometimes we do way more often, sometimes less depending on, yes, STRESS levels, hormones, all of the same things the other ladies have brought up.

My FH doesn't feel in the mood when he is going through stress. It really hurt my feelings at first because I felt that as a young man he was supposed to be in the mood all of the time, and it must have been because he no longer found me attractive. But he reassured me, and sure enough, he comes around when he is feeling better. I go through the same thing. Though, I will sometimes have sex with him if I am not and he is. Sometimes a quickie is the perfect pick-me-up ha ha. We have both become more likely to give in to each other and funny enough, the "mood" comes along.