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We bought one ,none that are pictured... personally we arent thinking of it as me tieing jeff down or that he is being forced into this marriage... but more of suiting our personalities.... jeff is the quiet one and i am the loud one so in a sense sometimes it does seem like i am pulling him around lol...we wont be using this as our cake topper we are having flowers as the cake topper... we will be using this near the cake kinda as a small detail not the main focus...... some of the cake toppers can be offensive but i think each person can see them differently.... the one we bought some people may take offense too but like i said we see it in a different way.... ... i wouldnt wanna make it the center of your cake tho.....

I guess I never really gave these toppers or images much thought. I have known only 1 couple who used a ball & chain topper, & knowing them it didn't strike me as offensive, just really their personality. And..the groom seemed to be ok with it. I can't say there was any truth to them having it...I personally think it should have been the other way around, LOL. I think that it's not much different than when people make comments about being "locked down", or the "game being over", etc..so even with those comments, I don't feel any specific gender superiority. But I do believe that it depends where the comments are stemmed from...my FI & I personally don't choose to have a topper like this, it dosent really amuse him, but to each their own.

I think they are cute if they match the personality but for me NO way

I think they are cute..but not to put on top of your actual wedding cake. I don't want to remember my cake with some ridiculous, tacky, cake topper on it.

Chris wants to use the last one where the bride's roping him. i find it amusing. I highly doubt we'll bother with a cake topper at all however. I think how offensive they are, depends on the context they're used in and what the couple is like. For example, our friends would find it hilarious because we both joke around a lot, and barely anything either of us says can be taken seriously because we're so sarcastic. They also go on about how I've got him hog-tied instead of calling him "whipped". However, neither of our families would see the fun in a topper like that, so like i said, it depends on the person using it and the context its being used.

I think they are funny but, I personally think they are more fitting for a grooms cake or a bachelorette or bachelor party cake because if their comical nature.
I don't think the wedding is anytime so send out the (of corse joking) message " I made him do it"
but to each her own...

I don't honestly find the toppers offensive, but I do think they are inappropriate for the actual wedding. I think they should be used at bridal showers or bachelor/ette parties or even if you are having a couple's shower. A wedding I attended last weekend... the bride and groom attempted to display their (non existent) sense of humor by using one of those toppers, but the couple is so super serious and uptight, it just did not seem appropriate for the formality of the event.

I felt that way a little. I did find at AC Moore ( like micheals) one where the groom had his foot on the bride's skirt nd she was trying to run off. My FB like the cake toppers you have above but he understood why i didn't once he saw this one. I thought it was pretty cute

I actually see your point compleatly. I will not have one of these as my cake topper either. To me it gives the impression that you are dragging, forcing, or trying to trap your husband. -To say that he may not actually be happy, or want the marraige as much as you. My wedding will be totaly romantic. It is something we are both very excited about, and I want my theme to show only that.

I just have never been found of the style, but I guess everyone to their own. When I first saw them I did chuckle, but I wouldn't put one on my cake. I always found the phrases "ball and chain" and "being tied down" as negative views on marriage even though I know people are joking. It just sets a bad tone and places that thought there. I don't like the thought of Brandon thinking he can't have a life anymore - that does makes me want to vomit. Marriage should be looked as a positive thing and the comments about it should reflect good things. I think the negative jokes can be left for other topics that aren't so important. But hey that is just me. :)

I think they are funny especially the one with the leash. I always tell my hubby that I have him on a leash, he is whipped!! But I would never use one.

I ended up using a GREAT cake topper that was not only comical but also didn't look like I was 'trapping' my man either.

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I didn't want a tranditional topper but I really thought the idea of the whole 'man and wife' thing on top of my cake was adorable.

I ended up going one that I found where the groom is holding the bride and she has her legs up and around him while they're kissing.

The only problem is my Mother In Law sort of raised her eyebrows at it because one of the best men we're having is my groom's 12 year old brother. She thinks it's 'a little much'. If it were up to this women that kid would still be 6 and it's my wedding...not hers. She makes it seem like my bride and groom are humping on the cake!!

Ive seen that one...I thought it was cute, and thought about using it myself. It does not give the impression that you are forcing the marriage on him though, its cute and sweet.
As for your MIL to be, I don't think that it gives the impression of them humping each other, it seems like that is what she wants to see. If that is what she thinks, it seems she's the one with the problem.

My FH and I are using one similar to these "humorous" cake toppers... I know that Im not forcing chris to marry me.... if he didnt want to.. he wouldnt have asked!! Since chris and i started dating when we were 15... his dad always used to joke that I was his ball and chain. It only seemed fitting to have this ball and chain cake topper. He picked it out and really liked it.. so I figured why not let him have one choice in the wedding that he really likes?

I guess what ever floats your boat. I personally giggle every time I see one of these. I've always considered them more of a rehearsal cake topper. I would never even think about using one of these on my beautiful wedding cake. That said I haven't decided which one yet but, I'll definitely be using a humorous cake topper for the rehearsal.

I wouldn't put any of these cake toppers on our cake, then again, I don't like cake toppers in general. We are having flowers on the cake and toppers would be just OTT.
Other than that I don't find these funny and as futuremrsmayes said I don't wanna cringe in horror, say in 20 years time when I look at the photos of my 'funny' cake.

Whatever happened to just having a simple bride/groom on the cake?!

I think they're a little more suited to a bachelorette/bachelor party type cake...I can't imagine actually using one on the actually wedding cake.

We're using a golf topper where the groom has a golf bag and is looking at his watch and the bride has her arms crossed...but only because we couldn't find one where both the bride and groom have a golf bag! :)

I personally do not like these cake toppers. I especially do not like the fourth one where the man is being kept on a leash. It looks degrading. All jokes aside it looks very fetish like to me as well. Funny? Perhaps..but not on your wedding day...I mean c'mon.

I just also want to add Go Fab for saying what you feel and not being afraid how others may respond

I really don't like them aye, they just seem sooo desperate! And that's the last thing you want to come across as on your wedding day. Quirky is cool but there are a bit lame.

I think this is most like a joke that trying to be offensive. But there is a lot of cake toppers if you don't like these ones just get another that really goes with your and your fiancé. I chose one with beautiful flowers on it, so I don't have any problem with that. The best part is that my fiancé is getting involved with the wedding stuff, and many of the decoration is done by him, I can say the 98% of the deco.

i know a bride who used the second one pictured, and put a little motorcycle in front of the groom so it looked like he was running to his bike. it was funny cuz he loves to ride and she is very bossy so it was their personalities. but they had it on the groom's cake and he thought it was funny. i dont really like them because its not really our personalities, but sometimes they're cute. but not for your wedding cake.

I got one for my grooms cake and it is a bride pulling her groom he has all his chicago cubs gear on and two cubs tickets in his hand and I am having the bakery make a baseball field so it looks like he is being pulled off of wrigley field because it will be all decorated with cubs stuff....so i think it is cute but i would definitely not put one on my actual wedding cake.

for the grooms cake.. yes its funny...

my cousin got married recently and the cake topper was the bride yanking the groom back. To each his own.

I'm considering getting the topper with the fishing groom being dragged by the bride for the grooms cake... as a joke of course. Because everyone knows how my FH LOVES to get his fish on!

I think I probably laughed the first time I saw one but I agree, I would never get one. I think it looks like I MADE him marry me and that's the furthest thing from the truth.

I don't know of any man who would even want that on top of the wedding cake - how emabressing.

We're doing love birds - more truth there than any of those brow beating ones.

You are completely right! I agree 100%
Have same thoughts when I look at these cake toppers.
I wouldn't want to have one of those on my day...

I completely agree with you. I feel like marriage is one of the few things about which jokes are not funny. At all. I think these are really stereotypical and insulting. I don't know about anyone else's situation but my best friend proposed to me, asked me to be his wife. He would be extremely offended if I brought this home and made his sacred vows into a joke.

Great post!

Great post! I feel the same way some what. I may giggle if I see someone who used this idea but I NEVER would! The funny thing is my mom actually brought the idea up of a cake topper like this for laughs but I was like "No way" she didn't see my point either -she thought it would be cute for fun & jokes -but I am not trying to make my guest list think either me or my hubby to be are better then one another- we are getting married & going to be one ...equal...not better than the other. I agree with you-once again good post =]

I personally think they're pretty offensive - I don't want anyone thinking that my fiance HAD to marry me, or that I tricked him into doing something. I think it makes the bride look bitchy and controlling and it totally emasculates the groom by saying it wasn't even his choice.... sorry for the strong opinion :) I want people to know my fiance and I BOTH want to be married and that we chose this together.

those are so cute and funny

We bought one. It wasn't to send a message of my forcing him into marriage. It just suited our personalities. He didn't have too many opinions as far as wedding planning goes. He only had three requests. One of them being that we have a humorous cake topper. The cutesy ones just aren't our style. When I found our fishing topper, it screamed: "Clint and Alicia"!! It was just totally us. And it was really original. I've never seen one like it. Everyone loved it and gave us compliments on it. We're kind of a goofy couple though, so it totally fit us. I guess it depends on your personalities and the overall theme/mood of your day.

These can be funny but I would not one on my cake...I love the fact that my FH can't wait to marry me and is enjoying the planning journey with me. We know someone who is tied down and to see the brow beating that comes with a tied down marriage is hard to watch the love die slowly, even when its done as a joke but its more than one sided.

Its OK for people who both want to have it but its not for me.