05/05/2009
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Battle of the metals
♥Gold v. White gold (or platinum)

So ladies here is the deal. My fiance proposed to me with a sparkly, beautiful white gold ring. It was all his idea and all his choice (well, I did drop hints I liked PRINCESS cut, OK? lol). Well I was sick recently and my Grandpa came from Las Vegas up here to Chicago to see me. I was very ill but he knew I planned on getting better and marrying Kevin (who he loves).I am Grandmas namesake and I have always felt very close to them. My Grandma passed away too soon when I waas about 15. To wrap the story up he came to the hospital and gave me his and my Grandmas wedding bands. THIS IS HUGE. They had 8 kids including my mom and probably 30-something grandkids and 4 great-grandkids. Out of everyone I got the rings. The rings are yellow gold. I know I could melt it down or coat it or get it changed in some way to match my engagement ring, but I don't want to lose her ring in all the changes. Anyone else out there have a similiar issue? Anyone; What would you do?
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JoyfulSong
 |  Saint john's, NL, Canada  |  05/05/2009
That is so sweet of him!!!  Awwwww...

Me, I'd wear just the wedding band.  I've heard of some people wearing the engagement ring on the right hand (or another finger).
wifewag's Orange wedding
wifewag
 |  Brentwood, CA, USA  |  05/05/2009
Well  I am not sure how much money you want to involve in this but you have choices.
You can always modify your engagement or bring in another band to create a 2-tone look?
I have seen it done or you just leave it has it is and have a huge story piece when it comes up
kitchwitch's Purple wedding
kitchwitch
 |  Greensburg, PA, USA  |  05/05/2009
You could put your diamond in a new band so that it matches the wedding band, or you can just wear both.
bugchick0's Purple wedding
bugchick0
 |  Newport news, VA, USA  |  05/05/2009
Wow that is so sweet!  It is a hard choice... I personally don't like the way gold looks on me and I wouldn't wear it, but it would be a different story if something like this happened to me.  Perhaps you could change your set over to yellow gold to match, or wear the rings on a necklace?  Or maybe just hold onto them?  Wow what a hard choice..good luck making your decision!
tiggre99's Red wedding
tiggre99
 |  Herndon, VA, USA  |  05/05/2009
that is really sweet.  I'm usually a silver looking jewelry person---so white gold and platinum (my ring is platinum).  If my gpa gave me something like this I would probably just use what he gave me and make into a nice setting of some sort.  Is he expecting you to use them for the wedding?  If so I would use them as is, but if he is giving them to you, can you attach them to your boquet and later put on a necklace?
tiggre99's Red wedding
tiggre99
 |  Herndon, VA, USA  |  05/05/2009
ps....hope you are feeling better!
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Nocturnius
 |  Cocoa, FL, USA  |  05/05/2009
Wow. That is just beautiful. It's so special... I wouldn't TOUCH my grandmother's wedding rings in your situation...

So here are my suggestions:

A) Have your engagement ring re-set. Get the same style, just yellow-gold. Explain to your FH that it is not that he made a bad choice, this is just important to you.
B) Wear the bands on your right hand.
C) Rock the two-tone! I don't think it looks as bad as everyone imagines. If done nicely, it can look really lovely - and if anyone asks, "why is your band gold?", you have a beautiful story to tell.

By the way, you said "bands" - is this her engagement ring AND wedding band? Or two wedding bands?
fabulousmrsklein's Pink wedding
fabulousmrsklein
 |  USA  |  05/05/2009
btw it is his and hers wedding bands... so Kevin will wear my Grandpas and I will wear my Grandmas :)

ps Kevin loves my Grandpas ring just the way it is
surprisebride's Green wedding
surprisebride
 |  Victoria, BC, Canada  |  05/11/2009
Wow, that is beautiful. If it were me, I would probably wear my engagement ring as is and my grandma's wedding band as is. If it looked really funny and was really bugging me then I would ask my fiance if he would be comfortable with having my engagement ring remade with yellow gold. A family heirloom like that is just too special to mess with.
marta12's Blue wedding
marta12
 |  Chicago, IL, USA  |  05/15/2009
that's beautiful.

how does the band look with your e-ring? i have a friend who has a while gold band and a gold e-ring and she loves it that way.

if not I would wear it on a necklace.
mikeandmel's Pink wedding
mikeandmel
 |  Vancouver, BC, Canada  |  05/17/2009
omg!  i would leave it as is!!!  i agree with the gals.  you've got a great story to tell.
vintagebabe's Green wedding
vintagebabe
 |  Lake placid, NY, USA  |  06/14/2009
I was going to say what kitchwitch said.... have your princess cut diamond put on a yellow gold band....

I'd keep grandma and grandpa's rings just as is. That is too precious to tamper with. ;)
kyla1346's Pink wedding
kyla1346
 |  Calgary, AB, Canada  |  07/06/2009
you can put your diamond in a new setting the exact same just the matching gold. The diamont is the expensive part and you will still have what you FH picked in design plus the original diamond and your grandma's original ring.

My husband said to me when I was trying to cheap out on my band...this is your wedding band you will have forever. This is the important part. This is not the thing to settle on.

so do what is perfect for you.
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Nurse Whitney
 |  Charlotte, NC, USA  |  11/07/2009
My fiance's grandmother passed her engagement ring on to me before she passed away last September, so I know all about the sentimental feelings.
While you DEFINATELY don't want to take away from your grandmother's ring, the ring your fiance' chose for you is also very special! I would have a hard time resetting the enagement ring!
I work at Kay Jewelers and what we tell people is that all gold was (basically) originally yellow gold. White gold has a special rhodium plating that makes it appear white. The most minor change you could make, I think, would be to have your grandmother's ring rhodium plated. If you have your engagement ring reset, it would be a much bigger change and definately more expensive!
Hope this helps!!
Whitney
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