07/26/2009
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THEY STOLE OUR WEDDING DATE.
Do we go to their wedding...or not?

Ok, so here's situation.
My Hubby is friends with a guy that he worked with for years and now they play hockey together (never hang out other than that.). Him and his Fiance came to our wedding....

Before our wedding they were planning on having a destination wedding in May next year. Since our wedding was so much fun (with everyone there) they decided they wanted to have a more localized one as well so more people could come. fine. BUT they chose the EXACT same day as us!!!!!!!!

I don't want to go!!! We had plans to go back to the resort we got married at, eat our wedding cake, enjoy eachother, look back...and celebrate! my Husband says "It's ok, we don't have to go to their wedding, it's up to you".....but I don't want him to regret not going...and I don't want to be the reason we don't go if he does end up regretting it.

It wouldn't be a big deal but the bride to be hates us in the first place. She made it clear that we wouldnt be invited to the "destination wedding" but now we are invited to their local one. The rest of the hockey buddies even said to the groom "what? that's lame...why would you take the same day?". They don't seem to care though.

WHAT SHOULD I DO??? The resort they're getting married at only has 12 rooms so I need to decide fast as they're almost all booked.

What do you think???
dilemma, firthbride
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nevaeh's Black wedding
nevaeh
 |  Brick, NJ, USA  |  07/26/2009  | 
This is a no brainer...Go celebrate your 1st anniversary! I know I wouldn't want to attend someone's wedding who originally didn't want to invite me (us). If FH is cool with it then make those reservations before you miss out.

Remember you only get one 1st anniversary...make it a good one!
muffinmonster's Purple wedding
muffinmonster
 |  Los angeles, CA, USA  |  07/27/2009  | 
nevaeh is right, it's your 1st anniversary!  That's a big deal.  Book your wedding resort, don't tell the couple, and then when it comes to RSVP-ing for their wedding, tell them that you're sorry, but you and your husband already has anniversary plans out of town.  It's different if they were super good friends, but they're not.  Plus, I don't think they'd be hurt because if they really wanted you guys there, they wouldn't have chosen the same day.
futuremrsogan's Black wedding
futuremrsogan
 |  Beltsville, MD, USA  |  07/27/2009  | 
If they were good friends of yours, I'd say bite the bullet and go, leave for your 1 year the very next day... but a good friend wouldn't plan their wedding on the same date as yours.... SO, with that being said... I say go celebrate YOU and your HUBBY! That day is about you two... and because they aren't really FRIENDS,  I wouldn't think twice about not going...

Sorry they did this to you! :(
bride4june's Purple wedding
bride4june
 |  Oshawa, ON, Canada  |  07/27/2009  | 
I have just dealt with the same issue, only it was my FH's twin brother and his (now) wife, who decided to have their wedding one year before ours, after planning to get married in Nov.
I was really pissed about it at first, but slowly I have been gettin over it. Mainly because i have come to the conclusion that she just did it cause she is a cow..lol..
I would have to agree with the ladies on this one. Why would you want to celebrate with them knowing that, 1) you were second string on the guest list, and 2) miss out on celebrating your first anniversary with your hubby.
I would sit this one out. Send them a congrats card, and spend the time with the one you love.
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tiggre99's Red wedding
tiggre99
 |  Herndon, VA, USA  |  07/27/2009  | 
I say go to your 1 year anniversary celebration--as long as your hubby doesn't care.  Even though it's a pretty crappy situation, I would make sure hubby is okay with it.  As the other bride said, if it was a good friend, then maybe you should go, but since it's someone who didn't even want to invite you to their destination wedding (unless it was because of a numbers issue) because they didn't want you there, then I would say go ahead with your original plans.
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Nocturnius
 |  Orlando, FL, USA  |  07/27/2009  | 
You and your husband come first. End.

It isn't your fault they decided to have their wedding on your first anniversary. Like MrsOgan, it'd be different if hubby and groom were best friends since high school and the best men in each other's weddings. But since that clearly isn't the case, you have something more important than their wedding that day: your anniversary.

Your first anniversary only happens once, and you'll be around far longer than hockey buddy. I say go to your resort and celebrate your anniversary.
faithsophi's Purple wedding
faithsophi
 |  York, ON, Canada  |  08/05/2009  | 
I say go on your aniversary trip with your hubby. Have a good time and enjoy it.  It does seem like that couple aren't close to you at all. So dont worry. I'm sure your hubby wont care when your together having a good time.
crystalandcody's Red wedding
crystalandcody
 |  Memphis, TN, USA  |  08/05/2009  | 
Go Celebrate your Anniversary!!  Go have fun and eat your cake and enjoy each other!
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MOH
 |  Vancouver, BC, Canada  |  08/15/2009  | 
I can't even believe this is a question. Fairweather fake friends come and go...Bretts are forever. you can't get your one year anniversary back!
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