Bridesmaids

Here Comes The Drama!

So sorry ladies for complaining again. Sorry for the long post, too.

I really hate negativity when this is supposed to be a happy occasion. Drama, I try to keep it far away from me. When people come around me with it, I run the other way. But here it is...drama in my own wedding. I guess it couldn't be avoided.

First, I've already had 2 bridesmaids drop out on me. These were friends that I felt really close to. Turns out one is just simply saying she's too busy to be in the wedding, which I can understand, but then she says she's going to come to the ceremony and reception! Then when I asked would she be in the wedding since she freed up time to come she says she will not be in the wedding due to finances.

Okay, I understood that. But then, here she is posting photos of herself traveling all over the world, in every damn country besides the one she lives, and saying what a wonderful time she's having! Wait a minute! You can't even afford a $120 bridesmaid dress, but you can afford to go outside of the USA to spas in Europe, and travel Paris, Greece, Rome, etc.?

Help me understand that please?

On top of that one of the groomsmen had my FH pay for his tux fitting and put the deposit on his suit just for him to turn around a week later and say he can't afford the rest of the payment on the $150 rental. He should have said this a week ago before my FH shoved out all of that money for him! Non-refundable, mind you.

Also, one of our ushers are not returning our phone calls, have not sent an RSVP, and is just completely MIA not just to us, but the whole bridal party hasn't heard from her. We have no idea what the heck is going on there.

Finally, there is someone, a sort of big someone, coming to my wedding that I do NOT like. This person is highly dramatic. They are always making up problems for their own self and other people around them. I don't know if it is because this person is bored or just because their life is just that way, but I don't like them. This is a person who I can clearly see that drama rides on their back and if you come in contact with them it will rub off on you too.

I assume this is mostly because they like their misery to have some company. This person has been rude, nasty, and just a plain old mean liar. And they lie to get attention from the person they are engaged to.

The person they are engaged to just happens to be somewhat of a close friend of me and my FH. And this friend of ours just cannot see it. If the friend does see it then they are ignoring the situation and living in a dream world. I say they live in a dream world because this friend wants me and my FH to like their fiancee so badly. It's just not going to happen. I'm sorry. I tried, and I can't do it. I'm not a good liar and faker either. If I don't like someone I walk the other way. I just avoid them.

So basically...

1. My FH has to find a new groomsmen and see if the down payment he made for the groomsmen who dropped out can be used for whoever he gets to fill his spot.

2. I had to drop one of my bridesmaids so that it can even out the numbers.

3. Have to find a new usher and don't even know where to start.

4. If Men's Warehouse doesn't let him use the down payment my FH used for the groomsmen that dropped out then we will have to EAT it!

5. I can't un-invite a friend's fiancee just because I don't like them.

I am so frustrated and upset because we've been so kind and patient with everyone through this planning process, but it seems like no one really cares at all. All they care about is that there's going to be an open buffet and bar and they don't have to pay for anything.

My FH and I are paying for this wedding by ourselves. Planning this whole wedding by ourselves. Just the two of us. And the least everyone can do is cooperate by getting their attire straight, on time, and be encouraging to us and each other.

RARRGGGGH!!!!