futuremrsmayes's Purple wedding


03/27/2008
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Bridesmaids problem!!!
Last saturday i sent out an email to all of my bridemaids about the shoes i wanted them to wear. I had picked out 4 shoes for them to pick from. The shoes range from 50.00 to 60.00 dollars. On monday i got an email from one of their mothers saying that i did not have a problem spending all of their money and that the shoes were all ugly. She also said that i should be paying for all of the bridesmaids shoes.
the bridesmaids are paying 100.00 dollars for their dress, and possibly 50 to 60 for their shoes. Is this too much?
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marta12
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  03/27/2008
NO! and if the girl agreed to be your bridesmaid she should know what that entails. How rude of her mother to not only bud in but also give unsolicited comments about the shoes.

I would talk to the bridesmaid and ask if she's having difficulty paying for stuff. Unless her mother provides for her it should be none of her mother's business what you asked them to pay.

Your dress and shoes combines cost less than come dresses alone.
littlelady93
 |  Belleville, IL, United states  |  03/27/2008
No it's actually a good price. Nice dress shoes actually run about 50 and above. Also the bridemaids dresses are at a great price. If someone agrees to be a bridesmaid it's their responsibility to pay for their stuff. If she doesn't like the shoes or can't pay for them then maybe she can find a cheaper pair that look similar to the ones you picked.
kimmyb
 |  Mississauga, ON, Canada  |  03/27/2008
I think it is quite evident that this lady has never been a bridesmaid and does not know what the job entails. I would give her the link to this website and tell her to go on and take a look. I don't think you are being unreasonable. That is an awesome price. My girls dressed are $225 each plus their shoes were $30. I did tell them they could pick out their own shoes as long as it matched the dress, my girls are my two sisters so they ended up buying the same shoe anyway and it looks great. Maybe get all the girls together for a shopping day and see what they come up with?
ladyluck
 |  -, United states  |  03/27/2008
absolutely not!  and why is the mother writing you? Why doesn't your bridesmaid to you how she feels ?? Everybody knows what being a bridesmaid entails ... and $150 for dresses and shoes is not too much at all. Don't worry about it - we're all behind you! :) good luck!
katuska
 |  London, England  |  03/31/2008
How rude!! I agree with everyone here, she should know that being a BM is not just turning up at the wedding in a free dress and shoes and parading around all day. You should speak to her and if you feel that she could afford the dress and shoes (as the price is VERY reasonable) but simply she doesn't want to spend on them then maybe you can reconsider having her as a BM.
futuremrsmayes
 |  -, -  |  03/31/2008
thank you girls soo much!! i feel great relief knowing that i am not doing anything wrong..
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