10/05/2009
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Momma drama
My mom never wants to see me again

As some of you know, my bachelorette party was Friday. Everything started fine. We went to dinner and my mom was there, then we went to the hotel and had a lingerie shower. I had 4 drinks at dinner, but I wasn't even close to drunk. We got to the hotel and I had a half a strawberry daiquiri before my mom started pouring the drinks out. We were supposed to go to a club at about 10 Friday night, well my mom refused to leave the hotel until 11:30 pm. She started pouring everyone's drinks out and said I wasn't allowed to drink anymore because I was about to puke I was so drunk. I wasn't even close. At this point I'd had 5 drinks in a 4 hour period of time. Never mind that...I'm 24 years old! I live with my FH, if I wanted to get drunk everyday I could! She wouldn't let us go anywhere and told me to STFU. My little sister ended up telling my mom to leave, so she finally did. It ruined my time anyway and we just ended up going to sleep. Fine, whatever.

I go home Saturday morning and as soon as I get there my mom starts blowing my cell phone up. She's screaming at me and telling me she hates me, never wants to see me again, if I go to her house she'll have me arrested, she's going to kill herself....blah blah blah! She's a liar! I didn't do anything wrong! She's pissed at me because we told her to leave my party! It was my party and she overstayed her welcome! My mom is always a drama queen. I had to go get a new phone number yesterday to get her to leave me alone! My stupid car is still in her name (paid off) because she won't sign it over to me. Now I'm worried she's going to report the car stolen so I'm looking for a new car. It's 18 days to my wedding! I can't deal with this immature bullshit!

I swear, if she comes to my wedding I'll call the police! I'm done with her, she always does this! She's been calling the whole family lying to them about what really happened so they are all calling me yelling at me. My immature older sister has been texting my FH telling him shit because I'm not answering her. She even blocked us on facebook...really? That's mature! It sounds like I'm blowing this out of proportion, but you would just have to know my mom. I'm withdrawing from my family over this. If she never wants to see me again then that's fine with me. I'm not going to go beg for her forgiveness over something I don't feel responsible for. I've done that too many times in the past. I'm not calling her anymore and I really don't want her to be involved in my life anymore. She also told me she doesn't want to have anything to do with my wedding, so that's her call. I'm not the one doing this, she is. Whatever, I'm so over it.

Sorry for the long post!
lagaylemarie's Black wedding
 |  San diego, CA, USA  |  10/05/2009  | 
Wow, if it were someone else maybe I'd agree with the withdrawing...but family and over nothing?  Seems you should let the air clear a little and go to your mom and talk and see what she is so offended about. Maybe neither of you are really seeing the others side clearly.  It's a lot to deal with though I'm sure being this close to your wedding, but you may regret afterwards if your mom is not there. Just by what you said in your post it doesn't seem like enough to lose a relationship with your mom.

Best wishes to you and your big day!
tweatie2's Red wedding
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  10/05/2009  | 
This whole situation sucks.  What saddens me even more is that you say she does this all the time.  I feel so bad for you.  Try not to let this put a damper on your planning and your big day.  I'm sorry that this has happened so close to your wedding.
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tunatuna
 |  Portland, OR, USA  |  10/05/2009  | 
I'm so sorry this had to happy this close to the wedding.  Try not to let it ruin the upcoming days, but take a breather with mom definitely for a few days, and see if after a  while you two can do any reconciling.  Best of luck with the next several weeks =)
mrsfrancois's Purple wedding
 |  Marietta, GA, USA  |  10/05/2009  | 
Girl, I so feel your pain, I swear I go through the same crap with my father, He chose the wedding date for my FH and I b/c he wanted me to be a "June Bride" like my mother. I haven't heard from him since we set the wedding date. He didn't even call me on my Birthday!!! So I completely understand where you are coming from. We haven't talked to each other in months!!! He's a drama queen as well!!!!! All I have to say  is stick in it,  she's your mother, hopefully this will all lay over and she realize that she jumped to conclusions and completely over dramatized everything!! However, I can't tell you to call her, cause I'm not calling my father... I'm waiting for him to call me. But I'm hoping for things to blow over.

Good Luck and I'm here, since we are in the same boat. Keep in Touch!!!
keh2010's Pink wedding
 |  Carrollton, GA, USA  |  10/05/2009  | 
wow, im really sorry this has happened so close to your wedding. :(
i hope everything works out for you!
rodrhonda4ever's Blue wedding
 |  Sacramento, CA, USA  |  10/06/2009  | 
You know what, Furturemrsweikle?

Be Gone
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You are going to have a FABULOUS PLANNED Wedding in a couple of weeks. Sometimes we have to flock our nest and spread our wings! (That's what Grandma told me at 14 years old, about the drama with my own mother then.) I am now 42 and have moved on in my life without mom and dad. I love her dearly, but my dad has alcoholic issues and I don't deal with it. You know what? Our first wedding 10 years ago, dad attended...but mom didn't. The 5th anniversary renewal wedding, mom and dad both attended. This time around for the 10th anniversary, neither one of them attended.  You know what the answer is? The Show Must Go On! Every doesn't hault, because of thier actions. I'm sorry for you having to experience such nonscense. You are going to have a marvelous wedding. You keep that head up high and march down that aisle to your wonderful, understanding and the love of your life of a man! Congrats....You are doing a wonderful paceful job too! You go girl!
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vintagebabe
 |  Lake placid, NY, USA  |  10/08/2009  | 
you are entitled to get smashed at your bachelorette party. why was she invited? I didn't mean that in a mean way.... but gosh... it sounds like she's a party pooper lol.

Just don't speak to her anymore for awhile. She sounds like she needs counseling. I have a cousin who is the same way. She's nuts. She literally dreams stuff up and attacks people for it. She's medicated for the worlds safety.

Get a new car if you can. It totally bites but it'll cover your keister. And if your mom continues to harrass you, you are within your rights of protecting your sanity, and that includes seeking the help of the authorities if possible.
jennyl1211's Pink wedding
 |  Philadelphia, PA, USA  |  10/19/2009  | 
Wow---That is something I would expect from like a drunk jealous friend not your mom.....   I hope she comes to her senses and everthing works out.  She OWES you a HUGE apology.
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