This is gagal81's Purple Wedding!

We got our engagement pics back and I am so excited to share them! Its taking forever to load them so bare with me ;)

Hey ladies. Sorry I have been absent. Things got super busy. Then this past week was horrible. Sunday my 13 mth old baby girl woke with a fever. By Sunday night her fever was 105.4 Ended in a trip to the ER, they got fever down, did test, couldnt find an answer and was sent home.
Monday we took her back to ER for fever and dehydration. They gave her fluids and sent us back home. Tuesday morning by the grace of GOD we woke at 5:30am and checked her, her fever was 105.6! If we hadnt woke early, it would have been another hour before we got up. No telling how high it would have gotten by then.
I freaked out. I called her pedi's after care and got instructions on what to do about the fever and got to their office as it opened. They admit her to the hospital first thing.
After all the test the ER done they missed her having pneumonia!! They ruled it out even though it was on the xray because she didnt have a cough or any other symptoms.
She is doing great now. She spent Tuesday morning till Thursday night in the hospital getting fluids and antiobotic.
Talk about one scared mommy! I was a wreck. After getting home last night and getting a few minutes to myself, I cried from relief.
I am so thankful that she is better and ready to put that behind me.
Hopefully now get back on track with wedding planning.

Just some advice. I know a lot of us are moms and most are planning on having babies. LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHERLY INSTINT! We have it for a reason. But we second guess ourselves way to much. We know when something is wrong with our babies. We know our babies better than anyone. I should have never left that hospital, I knew something was wrong. We was blessed things didnt turn out badly.

Ok so I have been thinking for awhile about who I will be choosing for my bridesmaids.

This is what I have come up with.

BM 1-friends since high school(thinking MOH for her)
BM 2-Friends since high school
BM 3-(She is FHs cousin but we are super close)
BM 4- My sister, may be deployed though.
My daughter of course, guess she will be a jr bridesmaid?
I have one more sister, we are not close at all. But she is my sister and everyone says I have an obligation since she is my sister.

BM 3 lives 5 hours from me so I know she wont be able to do a whole lot but she will do everything she can.

I know I can count on these girls. BM's 1-4 and I have all lost babies all within a year of each other. We went through some really hard times together.

They pretty much know that they are the wedding party but I want to send them an official "invite". I have wrote a short letter to them all telling them why I picked them to ask. I even found a cute poem to go with it.


So what do yall think? What creative way would yall have to make a cute "invite"?

Does anyone know how the guest of honor thing works?

I have heard of people having them but never been to a wedding were there was one.

Most of you know the situation with my sister, she may be deployed at the time of my wedding.
She is extremely important to FH and myself. We really want to honor her in a special way.

Ideas?

I started looking online at other wedding communities. I was just curious if any of the other ones were more active.

After reading through the posts and comments that those women left for each other I am in tears! They have shredded each other apart. It seems that no one is allowed to vent without being put down. The name calling is insane!

Dont get me wrong I read old post on here that did the same thing but they were from a while back. Seems like that has stopped.

Everyone here so far seems so supportive and caring. We dont put down each others ideas but instead offer support.

I would like WBC so much better if they would eliminate the singing commercials that come up on the right and if posting pics wasnt such a pain.

Guess I would rather deal with that than bride bashing though.

Love you ladies!!!!!!!!

I apologize that this is long. Thanks to all that read it though!!

To start with when we first got engaged it was personal and quiet. We only told one other person other than you WBC ladies. We didnt even get a ring because every time we went to get the one FH would never find one that he said was just right.
OK so you remember me telling you my baby sister was coming home? She and FH has had this "surprise" for almost 7 months. I figure this whole time it was something for my birthday. They have tortured with me with this surprise! I decide to throw a party for my sister to celebrate her graduation from basic training. FH says we should also just do my birthday party the same night and just have one big party. Sounds great so I get to planning.

Skip to Saturday night. We have tons of our family and friends at my house. We are having a blast! We are all grilling, bon fire going, music is on, we are having a few drinks and I dont even care at the moment that my football team is having their butts handed to them lol.

I am sitting talking to some friends when FH said someone cover her eyes. Suddenly someone has a death grip over my eyes. I hear someone saying shhhh and everyone gets quiet and music goes off. When my eyes are finally uncovered everyone is circled around us. FH is down on one knee, my sister is knelt down to the left of him holding this beautiful cake. The cake says "Will You Marry Me?" I had to read it twice to make sure I read it right the first time! I covered my face and started crying, looked at him and asked "Really?" He said "Yes Really" I started crying again! He pulls out the most beautiful ring I have ever seen and slips it on my finger. All I could say was "Really?" again. He said "Yes really, WIll you marry me?" I grabbed his face with both hands and kissed him and yelled YES of course! Happy tears are pouring down my face. I finally say "I didnt wear waterproof mascara!" Everyone rolls laughing and FH says "Thats my girl" lol

FH takes me to the side and says he couldnt let me get married without having an engagement that I would never forget. He is right, I will never forget that night.
Something about that night changed things. Now it feels even more real! Maybe its the fact that now everyone knows now. But whatever it was gave me even more motivation to kick this wedding planning into gear.

Thanks ladies for reading about my special night and the best birthday ever! Happy Planning!!

Ok ladies I need your help. I have been trying to upload some pics with a post that I really am so excited for yall to read but the pics will not load!
They act like they are going to then its just a white box with an x in it. I right click trying to get it to show picture but it still wont do it. When I refresh my page its gone. Does anyone know whats going on? And how I can get these pics up?

Ok so a lot of you ladies have suggested starting a notebook to keep organized. My question is how did you put it together? What was in it? How did you make\keep it organized?

Since having my daughter I am about the most clueless person ever! I cant get my brain together to save my life!!!! I have to keep this organized and together if I want any chance of having our perfect wedding.

I have a notebook that I keep looking at and looking at. But its still empty :(

Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. (step by step would be great ;) Love yall!!!)

How are yall dealing with kids at the wedding?

Its not really that I dont want kids at my wedding, mine will be there of course.
Here is the thing we, mostly FH, has family members that just don't have the common courtesy to make their kids mind. Last Christmas was awful, one chick let her kids lay in the middle of the floor and scream bloody murder during the dinner. Have you ever tried to eat with a kid screaming so loud you thought your ears would explode?!!

At FHs nieces wedding the kids were running around and screaming during the reception. One had a total melt down at the table.

We do have kids in our families that we adore and that are so well behaved so we would love for them to come.
But you can really say to one person that their kids are welcome but to next that their kids cant come. Can you?

I cringe at the thought of standing at the alter, looking at my FH, saying our vows and then hear screaming and crying.

I know I must sound awful but so many people just dont care that their kids are so disruptive.

MrsMagraff2be was asking what our fears are, if we have any, about marriage.
So it got me to thinking about what FH and I have heard through older couple that have managed to stay married about what they say it takes to make a marriage work.
Here are some things we have heard.
One couple that was in their 80's told us that through the years we may fall out of love with each other many times but the key was to never fall out of love at the same time. -Now most of you will say oh I wont fall out of love but just think about it. It makes sense. Its not saying you wont love your partner, but we do get caught up in life and forget to really stay connected.

That brings me to what the next couple said to us they were married over 50 years! They said that you can never forget to date each other. That you will change many times through the course of a lifetime and you had to keep getting to know one another. -This couple still holds hands and have dates!!

Another couple said to keep family and friends out of your marriage. They said it was ok to have one good friend to talk to but to be careful. If you go to your bff or family member and complain about your hubby, that person can get resentful of your partner. They said to pick someone that knows its just a vent. But to never do it with family. - I can see why too.

Next we was told to watch what we say in the heat of the moment. One mean thing this time and another mean thing next time eventually add up. Never know what mean thing will be the straw that breaks the camels back.

I love this one from Dr. Phil! He says would you rather be RIGHT or would you rather be HAPPY? That should almost say it all.

Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.

What advice have yall been given???