Happy New Years Ladies! 2013 is here and I will be in Maui Hawaii next year for our 15th Anni...
MrsMagraff2be was asking what our fears are, if we have any, about marriage.
So it got me to thinking about what FH and I have heard through older couple that have managed to stay married about what they say it takes to make a marriage work.
Here are some things we have heard.
One couple that was in their 80's told us that through the years we may fall out of love with each other many times but the key was to never fall out of love at the same time. -Now most of you will say oh I wont fall out of love but just think about it. It makes sense. Its not saying you wont love your partner, but we do get caught up in life and forget to really stay connected.
That brings me to what the next couple said to us they were married over 50 years! They said that you can never forget to date each other. That you will change many times through the course of a lifetime and you had to keep getting to know one another. -This couple still holds hands and have dates!!
Another couple said to keep family and friends out of your marriage. They said it was ok to have one good friend to talk to but to be careful. If you go to your bff or family member and complain about your hubby, that person can get resentful of your partner. They said to pick someone that knows its just a vent. But to never do it with family. - I can see why too.
Next we was told to watch what we say in the heat of the moment. One mean thing this time and another mean thing next time eventually add up. Never know what mean thing will be the straw that breaks the camels back.
I love this one from Dr. Phil! He says would you rather be RIGHT or would you rather be HAPPY? That should almost say it all.
Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.
What advice have yall been given???