gemasa7's Chocolate wedding

I would tell your boss and anyone else that you don't want to invite that you are having an intimate wedding with just family and close friends.  They must realize that you and your friend at work are close.  You can't please them all and they'll gossip anyways. I'm not inviting my boss but I am inviting some coworkers that I am close with.  My boss did say "so when is the date so we can all mark our calendars".  Ugh!  I just laughed it off but I don't like her and there is NO WAY that I am going to look out in the audience during my wedding and see her face..its not happening!

Everyone is going to ask that question "Im invited right?"
Trust me I was asked by people I havent spoken to in years people I didnt even know and my mom's friends even invited themselves you have to think of a polite way of saying "NO" or your guest list will be much bigger than you can even imagine.
I simply told everyone Im having a small wedding with close family and friends (a small meaning 150....small in comparison to the 400 you could have if you invited anyone who has talked to you in the past 3 years!!) This is your day hunny dont spend it stressing over how everyone else will feel and what they will think you will never have the time you deserve if you do!

Tell her its intimate and just your closest friends and family are going to be there you don't mean to hurt her feelings but you and you FH want  to keep it simple

Just invite them to the reception only..... thats what i am doing.... the ceremony is for close friends and family.....

Well, I invited some of my bosses, many of them had say they can't attend, Thank God, but big one said yes and he is coming with somebody else.  But I'm not worry because he is a good person, it was the other ones, who good for me said no.  And when they said no they though the were hurting my feelings and what they don't know I was the happiest person in the world with their answer.  Just invite a few friends, and your family. They are the important ones.

I agree with the others tell your boss its just a small ceramony and your only inviting your closest friends and family. Make a joke out of it even and say well if you would pay me more I could have a big huge wedding and invite everyone lol That may break the ice a little lol.

No I would not invite her.  Beleive me if it is a destination wedding people already know if they were invited.  I hope that you wont be feeling guilty.  Now if you have enough room at the reception I would give her an invitation, maybe!  
When people ask you just turn away and work on your computer....O.K. I know that was rude but now is the time that most people come out of the woodwork, people that you only deal with, or they only deal with you because they have too.
No matter what people are going to talk, dont worry about them.  They will say how did you land your fiance, or what does he want with her or what do you want with him.  They will say something about your location, your dress, your hair, etc.....Dont worry about the talkers if you decided that you want to invite someone to YOUR wedding than do it.  You never said that anyone was giving you any money to have it their way!!!!!
Remember planning YOUR wedding is stressful enough already.  Take time once a week to not do any wedding planning.  Go get your nails done or have a day at the spa, go on a long drive just to clear your head.

Happy Planning!