DONT create a wedding for others at the expense of your wishes. Focus on the kind of celebration you want, not the one other people expect you to have.
DONT ask your attendants to do chores or run errands that should be performed by hired help.If you need a babysitter at your reception, find one, but not among your wedding party.
DONTask someone to donate an item or service that's normally paid for. Of course, if they want to volunteer, consider it.
DONT surprise guest by asking them to perform non-guest duties, taking pictures, parking cars,or playing the piano or singing.
DONT use preprinted thank-you cards in place of a personalized note.
DONT plan a punch bowl reception for what rightly is considered mealtime- it cheap and leaves your guest hungry.
DONT forget to serch out the face of your new spouse at the reception. Share a smile and commit yourself to repeating those smiles back each day of your life together.
I got #5 from a wedding that I attended and I agree that it's not the same as a handwritten card.