10/24/2010
Purple GUEST LIST HELP!
   

GUEST LIST HELP!

My fiance and I have already begun to start our guest list. I want to keep it as low as possible. At this point we are trying to keep it 150 or less. I just want close friends and family. People we at least talk to once a year lol. I'm the only child from my mother, and she is trying to add everybody she knows. Plus, my fiance's father is Jamaican and he wants to have family members (who Andrew has never met) come to the wedding all the way from Jamaica. I'm already feeling overwhelmed...someone please help! How did you handle your guest list issues!

Not to mention...we are spending $100 + pp for our special day and we do have a budget lol.
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chavezfam5's Black wedding
chavezfam5
 |  Chicago, IL, USA  |  10/24/2010  | 
Wow, its sounds like its going to be wonderful! As for the people your inviting..I'm in the similar situation and all I can say for that is who's paying for everything?  If you and FH are paying for everything, you need to, as kindly as possible, tell Mom and future father in law that it is your day and you will take into consideration the people they want to invite but who you and FH want there come first and if and only IF you have extra they can add guest.  At $100 + pp there really shouldn't be a debate about it! LOL
But if your Mom and your inlaws are paying for it then by all means the more the merrier! LOL
Good luck hope it works out! Happy Planning
glamdivabride's Purple wedding
glamdivabride
 |  Decatur, GA, USA  |  10/25/2010  | 
Thank you so much. I need to really be firm about things.My dad is paying for the majority. Everything else will be taken care of by us and the rest of the family. My mom said she would pay for the additional people, but I really don't want them there. I know it may sound cruel, but I don't want my wedding to just be a party for people. This is really about me and the FH and OUR family and friends.
sabrina2279's Purple wedding
sabrina2279
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  10/25/2010  | 
Wow, ok... lol, the first thing we did was make it clear to both our parents that unless we ask them, they don't have a say. We are paying for our wedding not to mention it is OUR wedding. Therefore, the only people coming are close family and friends. We want to keep it small. 110 the most. Now we are both Portuguese, so that is really hard to do, especially for our family, but we don't want people we don't know at our wedding. So my advice for you is to stay strong and if you must put your foot down, you have to do it!

Good luck :)
glamdivabride's Purple wedding
glamdivabride
 |  Decatur, GA, USA  |  10/25/2010  | 
Thanks. We clearly need to talk to our families soon, so we can nip this in the bud (early)!
becomingaward's White wedding
becomingaward
 |  Albany, NY, USA  |  11/10/2010  | 
with family paying, they do have some say so, but it shouldn't take away from your vision of your dream day.  So if its 150 people you want, that's what they should respect.  EVEN WHEN PAYING.  But you are their baby, so I don't know.  good luck with that:-)
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