03/21/2011
My photo charm for my grandmother
My photo charm for my grandmother
The back of the photo charm
Purple Wedding Family Matter How are you honoring a deceased family member at your wedding?My photo charm for my grandmotherThe back of the photo charm
   

Wedding Family Matter
How are you honoring a deceased family member at your wedding?

My grandmother passed away my senior year of high school (October 30, 2003), and it was very tough for me. I grew up not knowing my dad, and my mom, and grandmother basically raised me. I miss my grandmother so much and it's so hard planning this wedding knowing she physically can't be there. I truly know she is heaven smiling down on me and the family. Even though my FH and I weren't together (just friends), at least my grandmother met him before she passed away :-) I'm honoring my grandmother at our wedding by: 1. mentioning her in our wedding programs 2. Put a reserved seat sign for her at the ceremony and having me and her children place flowers in her seat, 3. I got a charm made with her picture that will be attached to my bouquet.

The day after the wedding the family and I will go to her grave and place the flowers there.

How are you honoring a deceased family member for you wedding?
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laurie88's Orange wedding
laurie88
 |  Sykesville, MD, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
My fiancee's grandmother passed away last May from lung cancer and he took it really hard, she was like a mother to him and when he found out she was sick he spent every day with her.  I love the idea you have about having a reserved seat for her at the wedding and having the someone place a flower on her chair, I think I really might use that idea, and have a whole bouquet of lilies (her favorite flower) waiting at the ceremony entrance with a sign that explaining what the lily symbolizes and having each one of her daughters and grandchildren place a lily on her chair. My Stepmother also passed away and I would like to remember her as well, perhaps I will have a bouquet of wild flowers and a picture of her and a candle burning at the reception.. Thanks again for posting! You've really given me some great ideas.
glamdivabride's Purple wedding
glamdivabride
 |  Union city, GA, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
Sorry for you and your FH's loss. I know it can be difficult to deal with, especially when you're trying to plan and celebrate a happy occasion. I'm glad my ideas were able to help you :-)
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daniellerenee85
 |  Nashville, IN, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
My mom passed away when I was two and also my grandma (my mom's mom) passed away about 5 years ago.. so I'm having photo charms made to attach to my bouquet. I'm also going to have reserved signs for their seats like you mentioned as well. Also, I will have them mentioned (along with my FH's grandpa that passed away) in the program. Other than that, I'm also having a photo charm made with my FH grandpa's picture and I'm going to see if the tux place will attach it inside his coat jacket next to his heart so it will be a little surprise for my FH and also a way for him to keep his grandpa close to his heart.
glamdivabride's Purple wedding
glamdivabride
 |  Union city, GA, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
daniellerenee85- I know how it feels to lose a grandmother, but not a mother. I know it must be tough for you. I like that you are honoring you and your FH's deceased family members in the programs and photo charms. I really love the idea of attaching your FH's grandpa photo charm in the inside of his jacket. I think he will love it, and that will really be a special moment when he sees it:-)
tashiaharris's Orange wedding
tashiaharris
 |  Texas city, TX, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
That's a good idea my dad died last Thanksgiving and I dont know what I should do for the father daughter dance. Was thinking of doing a slid show with just our pictues together. Any ideas?
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glamdivabride
 |  Union city, GA, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
tashiaharris- Sorry for your lost. I think the slideshow of pics of you and your father would be GREAT. Maybe you can write a letter or poem for your father and read it while the pictures are showing or play a song dedicated to your....Luther Vandross - Dance With My Father would be a good choice.

I hope that helps :-)
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luckyinlovelucy
 |  Midland, MI, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
My Grandma passed away in 2009 and I am planning on attaching a charm to bouquet with her picture in it. She loved and collected angels so I am trying to incorporate them somehow. I'm thinking maybe wearing a bracelet or necklace...not sure yet.  Both my FHs grandpas have passed away. I only ever met one. But I know he was very close to both of them I'm thinking of having cufflinks made for him with their pictures in them. I also want to set up a nice poem and a candle in honor of them.
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mrsfountain2011
 |  Oklahoma city, OK, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
My grandmother passed away from cancer in 2010. And my grandfather passed unexpected almost a year to the date in 2011. So I totally understand how you feel. My grandmother was my best friend and meant the world to me. It is so hard not to include her in the wedding planning. To honor my grandparents we are dedicating our alter pieces to them. I will mention this w/ a poem in the program. And instead of lighting the unity candle, we will light a memorial candle I am purchasing from etsy and have a soloist sing while we do it. I didnt wanna do the basic memorial table but we probably will put there wedding photo on display.
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glamdivabride
 |  Union city, GA, USA  |  03/21/2011  | 
luckyinlovelucy- We are honoring our grandmothers the same way. I LOVE the idea of the photo cuff links for your FH, that is such a nice idea and you can keep in then in a keepsake box afterwards.

mrsfountain2011- Sorry for your lost hunni, I know the feeling. I think that is such a good idea about dedicating the alter pieces. I love the memorial candle idea as well.I didn't want to do the standard memorial table either.
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mrstaylor1016
 |  Carrollton, TX, USA  |  03/22/2011  | 
We decided to do paper flowers for the wedding so I made a yellow memorial bouquet and wrote names on individual flowers. The bouquet has a reserved seat at the ceremony and lunch reception. We decided our guest list was too small to try and designate for the 6 people we've lost individually so this was a good compromise.
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kwepie117
 |  Charlotte, NC, USA  |  03/22/2011  | 
I'm so sorry to hear about you losing your grandmother. My grandmother raised me as well and I don't know what I would do without her. I think the way you are honoring your grandmother is very special and I'm sure you will feel her spirit with you on your day.
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glamdivabride
 |  Decatur, GA, USA  |  03/23/2011  | 
mrstaylor1016- That is such a unique idea and I love it...that is really nice.

kwepie117- Thank you so much. I just want her to be proud of me :-)
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classybride
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  04/16/2011  | 
Sorry about your lose, I know the feeling. My grandma passed in my senior year as well (March 18, 2002), my best friend passed in my arms (March 18, 2001) my sister passed this year (Feb 5, 2011) and my fh grandma passed (Sept, 2008). I was really trying to find out a way to honor my sister, but now I want to honor all my closies who passed.
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classybride
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  04/16/2011  | 
I usually read the blog and then post my comment. Now I just read all the other comments and I'm sorry for everyone's lost. They are with the best and in the best place to be.

It's very comforting when a person can relate in a sort of how you feel and what you are tying to do.
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glamdivabride
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  04/16/2011  | 
classybride- My heart definitely goes out to you. I know for sure that you are a strong woman with some guardian angels surrounding you.

*Some memorial candles for all of them would be really nice.
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mrsmiddleton
 |  Memphis, TN, USA  |  05/16/2011  | 
that is wonderful. I lost my dad my sixth grade yr(03/03) and he lost his grand father before we met! thats a great idea to have something like that...
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1bellabride
 |  Royal oak, MI, USA  |  06/14/2011  | 
I love this!!! My Grandpa recently passed away suddenly (from stomach cancer, there were no signs of it) and it was so hard knowing that here i am engaged and my grandpa wont be there to see his oldest grandbaby walk down the aisle. This is a great idea and i think i might use it (if you dont mind).
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glamdivabride
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  06/14/2011  | 
mrsmiddleton- I am so sorry to hear that about your dad, and your FH's grandfather. I just wanted to help my fellow brides honor their family and friends who are with then in spirit on their wedding day.


1bellabride- My prayers are with and your family. I know how hard it is to deal with it in the beginning. Just know he is looking down on you and smiling, You definitely can use it, I don't mind. That's why I did this post :-)
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jerzeegirl17
 |  Egg harbor township, NJ, USA  |  06/20/2011  | 
I will be honoring my father. He past away the summer going to into my senior year in HS in 97. Ways I'm honoring him are: I'm getting married on his 63rd birthday, reserving  the first chair with a single rose on the seat, mentioning him in our wedding program. I will have memorial table with his candle and a poem I wrote to him along with other candles for our grandparents. Lastly, in lieu of favors I'm making a donation to the National Kidney foundation in honor of my father.
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glamdivabride
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  06/25/2011  | 
jerzeegirl17- That is AWESOME! I love all the ways you are honoring your father. I really love the favor donations!
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