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What Would YOU Do If...(Long Post Ahead)

Okay...initially I was planning to have a Wedding Party Meet & Greet this month. Mainly because we have lots of people involved with various projects ranging from invitation assembly, to setting up the reception, and I felt that now was the time to have them all over for food, refreshments, a specific gameplan for each person & most importantly..to shower them with appreciation before things start to get even busier.

So, my friend, who is helping to plan (she actually is an event planner), or better yet execute certain things for the wedding basically took on project of printing all of our printable requests. A couple of months ago a design was in place, including the wording. ALL I WANTED her to do was print. She already offered to print, plus she advised that she had the perfect cards to use, & some pretty matching envelopes. Perfect, right? Wrong!

Every other day she said she had 1 invite printed to make sure it was okay, but that she forgot it, or left it at home. I knew she had been busy with work (2 jobs), a pre-teen, & online school, so I didn't bother following up other than 3 emails, & her telling me in between seeing her that she had the 1st one ready, & would bring it "soon". I didn't want to seem like a nagging Bridezilla for something she offered to do. I waited, & waited. And did more waiting. I sought out the advice from a very wise Bride here, aka Marta, & she recommended calling her directly one last time. Did that. She seemed tired because she was planning her family reunion, but said that it was over now, & she'd give me the invites today. No acknowledgement or apology. This is after I told her I would have to change the date to July, because the event would be this weekend, and now most of the guests have made plans, plus some are out of town.

She met me after church, & da da daaaaaahhhh...the invites were ugly! They weren't the original design! Well, I cant say ugly, but just nothing to do with our wedding tastes. She did some blue pinecones & trees with owls or something (no offense at all to anyone with that motif, but seriously, she knew they werent on the original email). Unfortunately, I took the invites & thanked her for her time, because I knew how overloaded she was & figured she was just beat down....but at the same time, she offered! I couldn't help but think that this will be it. No more requests.

Now, she has printed other things for us before & it has been perfect. That was part of the reason for being merciful. Everyone's entitled to a flub...right? But my question now (after boring you) is what would you do? Would you point it out, redo everything yourself, or just go ahead & pass out all 23 invites & be happy for the free invites?

If its just a meet and greet with people who are helping out with your wedding and will know the theme of the wedding later on anyway, I wouldnt worry about the design of it. Unless you can afford to make new ones, just use the ones you have - I doubt it will matter to your closest friends and those helping you out with your wedding.

I'd trash them and said they were destroyed by water/coffee/dog pee something...
I'm terrified over giving up control to friends without similar tastes. Our wedding planner is a stickler too, so I know I'll be in good hands regarding invites and decor.

Good luck!

Alright, is this woman married, or better yet, did she have a wedding? If so, she should know that a Bride's tastes are HER tastes. That's why we're all deranged & matter of fact now! I understand that it's a meet & greet, but I dont think that discounts the quality of wanting your stuff to reflect you & your groom from beginning to finish. I agree with you for being kind hearted & not biting her head off, becuz you just never know, but she's the one who's supposed to be capturing your vision & helping YOU. If she felt it be best, or convenient for her to change your design, she should have consulted you first. If you gave her the "do what you want, or I don't know" response, then the ball is in her court. I say that even though this is a 1st time issue, if you work with her again, not only email, but confirm with her in person & request a sample up front. If she was overwhelmed, she should have spoke up. I guess if it were me, I would just print them out at home to save money, maybe even flyer style. That way it's still casual, but you get to keep your original design. She wont know anyway, she's already got an invite.

Sorry that you had to go throught that, but honestly if I were you I would do them over or have someone else to do them for you. Bottom line you aren't happy with what she gave you and you want quality work. I understand they were free but still you want nice work!!

Girl!!! wtf. I would definitely say something to her especially since she's supposed to be doing more stuff for you in the planning process.

I don't know how much it will cost you to print new ones or if you want to spend the money.

For the wedding party meet and greet I did an evite. I plan to utilize it again.

wow....i think the meet and greet is a great idea, but if you don't like what was done..thank her for the effort and tell her that you want to make some changes and try it again. maybe she was overwhelmed with everything going on in her life and just threw something together like an hour before you guys were supposed to meet.

I would definitely tell her. If, for some reason, something like this happens again and you're more stressed at that point, you might blow up at her and she would never see it coming! You seem so even-tempered that I'm sure the two of you can have a polite conversation and everything will work out.

I would not say anything to her!!

If you say anything:
1. she will be hurt
2. there will be a misunderstanding
3. you WILL argue
4. SHE will tell everyone how "HORRIBLE" you treated her even though we know that you didn't.
5. you will burn your bridges for future use when she is not so busy!!
6. Just have them redone. Once she gets the finalized invite and it is not the ones she made, she will know that hers were ugly and you did not like them!!
7. Use them for backups!! and i mean last minute, your so desperate, you are about to jump off a cliff!! backups!!

hey - how did you get the colored writing? I cant seem to figure it out. thanks!

Hey Kjk2009....check your email!! I put instructions for font color change..thanks for asking!!

As our wedding gets closer and closer I realize that I can't rely on anyone to know exactly what I want. Even though you don't want to be a bridezilla, sometimes you have too in order to get what you want. I have tried to be patient with other projects dealing with our wedding and have ended up disappointed. To make a long story short, if you don't want to hurt anyones feelings you might just have to do it yourself hun.