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{What Wedding Trends Annoy You???}

Oh boy.  Where do I start!! hahaa, j/k.

I agree with you on the gaudy stuff.  If it's alot of bling, alot of flowers or alot of one particular pattern, I can grow annoyed  end up missing the beauty of what the wedding could look like.  The only thing I like a lot of are candles.

I LOVE weddings that have gray in them.  It's like the new black.  I also love seeing candy buffets.  They are everywhere, but I just like to see them!  I do really like damask in reason.  I wanted to add it in our wedding, but felt like a copy cat, lol, so we are going to include it in my Shower.  I also grow annoyed with seeing alot of balloons at weddings (no offense).  One wedding I actually felt differently on was Scheri's (brown bride).  Hers was very tasteful & gorgeous.

I agree about Scheri's wedding.  She had such a beautiful celebration!  And yes, I will have candle overkill at my wedding, so I might just have some haters, lol!

Hmmm...
I think the choreographed dance thing is a little overkill.  Now, that being said, we're probably going to have a nice first dance, because we've been in a ballroom and latin dance community for three years or so. ...

I don't really notice decor at weddings, ever.  So, I don't notice the colours, or what patterns I like/don't like, etc.

lol joyfulsong...i'm thinking about you not liking those rehearsed dances,  my brother LOVES them, haaa!  he emails me you tube pieces sometimes,  i'm more sick of that in itself than the dances, lol!  too funny.

birdcage veils
I am still having one,
but originally i wanted it coz it was different,
now everywhere i look i see them

One particular trend that annoys me are CANDY BUFFETS!! They are everywhere! I agree about the birdcage veils, I personally think they look like onion bags. Damask I love, but I think too much can be overkill. A trend I just love would be Save the Dates. I think it's a genius idea, however I didn't hear about them until it was too late to send them, plus most of my guests aren't from out of town.

Okay, I am going to bring everything that everyone has said together.

I HATE the fact that when you choose something that you think is original, you start noticing that a lot of people are doing it!

I LOVE the fact that if we really love something, that we still use it, even if it is annoying us because we've noticed it everywhere else. We are all able to put our own spin on things and make them uniquely ours. And since my fiance and I don't have a sweet tooth, we have sweet jaws, we definitely are going to make our candy bar uniquely ours!

I agree with amcs  candyt buffets

LOL, I never even gave thought to the bird cage veils because I love em so much!  Wow...you just never know what we think about, lol.  I love the birdcage veil trend,  like Skippydo mentioned, we definitely make our dislikes into our likes  & find ways to make them our own.  We are the bomb!

Personally, I think a wedding should be personal and fun! I can't stand when I go to a wedding that feels prissy and stuffy. And too much of anything can be a bad thing.

I think my biggest wedding 'pet-peeve' would be those silly wedding dances, like The Chicken Dance, Macarana and The Electric Slide. There will be ONE "choreographed" song played at my wedding that has been a tradition in my family for years..and that's Crocodile Rock by Elton John.

And I agree with the previous posted regarding balloons. Balloons and streamers to me is tacky. I have seen balloons used nicely once. Other than that, ugh!


I love when I'm at a wedding and think to myself "this is so them". That's the thought I want my guests to have while they are at the ceremony and reception. Regardless of your budget, location or theme, every couple should stay true to their own!

All in Good Faith and Humour,

Things that I will always love:  Candles, roses, luxurious linens, lots and lots of color, a super personalised evening, DIY, Grooms that Plan.

Things that I am loving right now: the Colour Grey (yes its one of my wedding colours),  live cooking, ice cream bars, Moss, Japanese floral arrangements, Mango's, photo booths, lighting be design, "Green" transportation, a couples Crest.

Things that I am kind of getting over:  Damask, Black and pink together, pink calla lilies, the return of the Carnation, and monograms.

Things that I will never love:  All white weddings, roast beef carvery stations, tiger lilies and baby's breath.

hmmm...writing this list just helped me clarify some decor ideas in my mind.  Great post!!!

oh geez i don't want to say what i hate because i don't want to offend half of WBC......but here goes....

Black bridesmaid dresses.  I'm traditional.  For me, colour is for weddings and black is for funerals and clubbing.  And black clothing doesn't photograph well!  whenever i have dressed in black , even in professionally lit photos, i lose all my shape and look very 2 dimensional.

What i LOVE is vintage...whether it's Victorian, 1940s or Marie Antoinette's era.  Ahhh!  it's so detailed and posh.  I LOVE IT!!!!!

I am so glad that we can say these things respectfully without angering each other, because believe me...all the things that may be "annoyable" to some, I will still keep if I like it, & so should everyone else, lol!  It's just funny to me to read this because we are such a supportive forum, & if you think about it, your closest friends or family would tell you the truth, so we should too.  Im glad you posted this.  Speaking of which, I get annoyed when I see Calla Lillies!  I know someone will be surprised because lots of brides use them, but I just don't like them!  Yall can hate on my peonies, lol.  Oh yeah, & one bride mentioned carnations (she hates) making a come back, lol.  I LOVE carnations  & want them at our wedding, haaaahaaa!

So sorry...I promise this is my last time posting on this, but I also get annoyed at indoor photos!  Not like indoor weddings, I mean the kind where one person poses inside, & in front of a background.  It just looks cheezy to me.  BUT, I have seen someone (I think it was a pink bride) where I bite my tongue.  Very photogenic,  & great quality.  So, this to me is a case like the balloons, lol.  Most times I dont like, but in rare cases I do..

i don't know why but this has always been a trend at weddings that annoys me --- twinkle lights under the linens on the head tables!! sometimes i think it looks a little overwhelming on a head table that has beautiful linens draped on it and the twinkle lights detract my attention from the beautiful linens and decor around the head table. it can be tastefully done i am sure but its just something i feel detracts attention away from the most important area of your wedding reception.
a trend i love right now at weddings: making your decor in your foyer different than the colour and decor inside of your ball room/ dining room.  i love during cocktail hour you are in the foyer with certain linens and decor and then when they finally open the doors the ball room/ dining room (or whatever you are using for your reception and dancing)   your guests see decor that is completely different than the foyer and an unexpected surprise for your guests.

okay.....wait for it....someones gonna kill me...tifanny and co themes...I like it when people switch it up with a sharp contrast colour like red, or MAKE IT THEIR OWN!! but seriously I think that it has gotten to the point where it lacks imagination - every other bride is just tiffany and co.... but to each her own!!

I had a choreographed first dance. It was a hit. My husband is terrified of dancing and didn't want to dance, so I choreographed a dance to help him. Maybe if you had one, it wouldn't bug you so much. Considering you spend all that time together bonding and learning something together. It was rather romantic. Nobody in my family had ever done it before so they were all very impressed. I just didn't want to settle for the traditional hug and rock when I could go out with a bang.


We also did other organized dances.. like the chicken dance, the macarena, and jump on it. My dance floor at my wedding was more packed than any other wedding I've ever been to in my life.


Things I HATE:

cookie cutter weddings, and weddings that you can tell doesn't suit the taste of either the bride or grooms. I'm also not a fan of the fancy sit down dinner. I prefer a buffet. It's more personal, more fun, more interactive. But that's just me.

I LOVE: all the vintage stuff that is coming back. Brides and grooms being creative together with those all special moments, like having a choreographed first dance, where you can tell the two of them are very comfortable with eachother and aren't afraid to bond. Those weddings are more memorable.

I hate christmas lights and fake ficus trees!!!!  I love patterns with solid colors...I hate jumping the broom, I dont knw why...An my grandma is going to make me do it!....I really dont care for the bouquet toss, Im going to try something different , Ill probably give it to someone after my ceremony like my mom, The garger toss.....uck...but most likely he will relish in sticking his hand up my dress....lmao

Well I'm not going to say what I don't like cause I did a HUGE post on how much I hated the Knot Boards cause the girls were so mean...sooooo I don't want to become a Knot bride by offending ANYONE cause I love ALL of you girls and your ideas!

What does DAWN LOVE?! Lots of lights!, RED, BLACK, WHITE, Las Vegas (specifically the Top of the Stratosphere on May 26th), A HUGE Reception!!!, The Dollar Dance (oh boy here comes the haters) ..LOL!, Buffets AND sit down dinners (mostly buffets), CAKE!!!, MORE CAKE, lots of dancing and laughing, when people stay until the end cause they are having fun!

anything damask or vintage annoys me.

i'm not much on country themed weddings, my best friend for example had one, with cowboy boots, hats, hay bells, the whole deal. It was so HER, and I did like that! but its just not my cup o tea.  

but now those redneck weddings on cmt, reallllly make me cringe!

Imdawn, thank you for your response (as well as all other ladies), but I certainly hope that you do not take this thread or any of the comments that fellow brides to be have made as a Knot comparison, or even leading up to any of the rude things that some Knottie Brides (or even here) can sometimes display.

From what I've been reading, most posts have a fair balance & give honest opinions without specifically critiquing a certain bride's taste.  All in all we will each have likes & dislikes, which is what boils down to why we have our own wedding style.

So, thank you for at least acknowedging that point & being sensitive enough to raise the concern, as alot of us would not even consider it, but you were thoughtful enough to highlight only the good, & I commend you on that.

For the rest of my brides to be, if you are personally attacked in the least or made to feel bad about your own wedding choices because of one's opinion, do tell.  Send me a private or public message, & I will remove the post without a second thought, but hopefully everyone is secure enough to support their own ideas  & plans for their wedding.

The thing I hate most:

An "it's all about me" attitude. It's actually all about you, him, your family, friends, and tradition. It is your day, but the people closest to you shouldn't have to sacrifice every part of their life, and all of their money for the day. Let it be about the celebration, and don't take everything so damned serious.

That being said - I haven't seen WCB brides with that kind of attitude.

The thing I love - My FH, family, and best girls have been super supportive with everything. I am fortunate to have more help than I need, and people taking way more interest then they have to.

I really like this post!  You are all WELCOME to critique my wedding style.   My mind is made up either way, lol!  No hard feelings, & Gratefulbride, it was really sweet of you to acknowledge the one bride's comment.  

I don't like wedding crashers.

I do like: Damask & Chandelier weddings (combined), Food Stations, Photo Booths. & Bling Wedding Hoodies!

I do NOT like:

Brides who have the same stuff as me, I like to think I'm original.  LOL  I really don't like those picture slide shows with childhood pictures.  They can be embarassing.  I hate not being able to find things that suit my theme or colors.  You would think people wouldn't be so color biased against yellow.

I LOVE:

My polka dot theme.  I'm usually not one for polka dots, but I saw a cake I absolutely adored and changed it up to suit my tastes and had everything go from there.  I love that I haven't heard of anyone else doing the polka dots.  I love daffodils which are my main flower.  I love my fiancee.  I love being thrifty and DIY projects that help keep me that way.  I love the advice I receive from this site, and the inspiration.

ive already posted my particular dislike but I just wanted to take the time to say this is the very reason why i love wbc so much! no matter what our particular taste are, we are there to support and ultimetly help everyone have their perfect day , how they see it. I love this site and my wedding planning would be such a disaster without it. thanks girls!

ok, since I am jumping on the bandwagon late this evening, I agree with most of the brides on here,

I am annoyed when I see bridal shots or bridal pictures that dont look anything like the bride!  when you get maaried you cant show up so made up that we dont even recognize you!  looking like a ragin' drag queen!  WTF?  

now, honestly, I am annoyed at the fact of so many brides going with the tiffany & co theme, even though it is my theme, and its your theme too, honestly I have gotten away from it being tiffany & co and I am making it more about my fiance and me, most people love all of the monograms I have been using,  did you know that some brides are using tiffany & co as a theme and have never even heard of the company before joining wbc?? never bought anything from there, didnt know it existed, etc., etc., etc.,   What are they crazy? you cant use a theme when you dont even know anything about it!  

hey, I am changing my theme to:  POOL BLUE!

Your getting a good response on this topic!

Lets see - good news first

I love flowers in the bride's hair. I love candles, the color teal and calla lillies.  I also love it when weddings are simple and personal too. It focuses more on things that really matter at a wedding. I loved how we served our favorite pizza at our wedding which was so fun and cost effective! I also love the honeymoon (no matter how big or small) - that should never go away! ;0)

Things I don't like are the bouquet toss either (we just threw candy in our colors). I also don't like the electric slide. (I think that is because I have done this dance waaayy too much).  I don't like weddings to be too formal and I don't like fondant cake because I haven't found one that tastes good. And I don't like it when a couple forgets that it takes friends and family to make a beautiful wedding, so be sure to incorporate them in your plans too!

divadan80 .. no kidding about the make up thing! LOL

I purposely did my own make up. I did it normal. I didn't want to look.. well like you said... like a drag queen. I figured being in that white dress.. that formal hair do.... and the wedding atmosphere was enough that I didn't need to paint my face until I was unrecognizable. the only thing I did more of was slightly more pink blush, and i went out of my way to find a pink lipstick I loved.Other than that, my make up was nice and normal.

My cousins little wife... and God bless her the poor thing...
she has very natural pale skin, which I was hoping she would have worked with... she had a make up artist try to bronze her out and she wore tons of make up and she looked horrible. That poor baby. Her flowers were great, her music was great and i had an absolute blast at their wedding... but the girl looked like a yam from the chin up. LOL

the only comments that I got slightly offended at were the ones that criticized some of the exact things that I did for my wedding. But I don't expect everyone to like my wedding just because I did. It's just that those certain things about my wedding made me feel like my wedding was unique and I went out of my way to have them. But I'm not going to let myself be hyper sensitive about it.

wow. I think this is hilarious. I never get annoyed at all the damask (because I post alot of stuff for people to use as insight) but gratefulbride, I do remember when I first came on here I only saw like 2-4 other brides (including you) and then myself.  Into my 3rd -4th month of planning I was like OMG so many people are having damask, and to keep everyone from having the same things, I post alot of different stuff. In fact I don't even have THAT much damask incorporated in my wedding, mostly black and white, lavender. I can't wait to post pics from the wedding so you all can see :) The way I see it, No one here in Michigan that I know or have been to a wedding that has ever had a damask wedding, let alone a black and white wedding with lavender so my wedding will be unique here in MI to the people that will be at my wedding.  I think it's all in your tastes... I come on here to get ideas but I try to also make it my own. And I think I've still seen a lot of individuality still in all of the weddings on here.

Things I especially like for wedding trends: colored crinoline, color shoes instead of white, crystal trees, and damask.  Again, I've never seen any of these here in MI. But it's very common on here.  Have fun planning and making your wedding your own. That's all I can say. I love all of your ideas and I hope I've given you all at least a little help, cause you've all helped me as well. I'll TRY not to post that much damask.  :) :) It's still very beautiful and EVERYWHERE these days. No one I know even knows what damask is! :) Have a beautiful day :)

Divadan, girl, my theme is not Tiff & Co, but I am flattered if anyone else thinks it is, lol.  Some may not like it, but I SURE DO, so represent!  I just have the Tiffany Blue color incorporated, but really..Im using more of an Aqua blue to get technical,  & I also love some of the Audrey Hepburn Breakfast at Tiffany's elements.  I'm glad you called it out though, because I think some may have mixed me up.

Victorias1911:  DONT EVER LIMIT YOUR DAMASK POSTS!  I have personally gone into bliss because of your posts & findings!  You have been a  great source of info & creativity, & really it dosen't matter who started when or why, it just matters that you have been extremely helpful & don't have to explain how much you have in your wedding because it's just that...YOURE WEDDING.  So, please know that I mainly pick at myself with what annoys me, mainly because I can poke fun at how I get carried away.  If ppl came into my home they'd probably admit me to Damask Therapy.  For real.

Vintagebabe:  In all fairness I understand your response(s), & like you mentioned..you would try not to get too sensitive, but I truly hope that other bride's comments wont hurt you.   I think that there have been a wide range of comments so far on likes  dislikes that we ALL can fit into.  I personally felt a little bad at the Bird Cage veil comment, lol, but didn't take it personal because if I do decide to wear one at the reception, I paid for it, & Im happy with it.  Some folks dont like my colors, or even the damask, but it's all good.  To each their own.  I'm hoping that we can all agree to disagree  & I commend you ladies because for the most part that's what I am seeing so far.

As I said before, if it's too much, send me a msg.

P.S.  Vintagebabe's wedding was amazing.  Look at all the comments of support on the bio!!  VBabe- keep in mind that your wedding was an inspiration to your location, right?  SO, hold your head up high.  Just because someone critiques one or more elements that you happened to use, please dont let it bother you.  If they personally attack & call you out on your wedding, then that's another issue,  & I will shut this post down.  I am so serious.

I do not tolerate blatant rudeness on my bio.

Grateful, I know I just got here, but if you can consider my request, please dont remove this.  Seriously ladies, Ive been looking around here for a long time & have seen the best ideas & pics hands down.  It just seems like all it takes is one comment to turn everything around & make ppl second guess things.  For ex: Because someone dosent happen to think one of your ideas is fabulous, then you may get all uptight & sad.  And in turn, the originating poster has to take your feelings as well as everyone else's into full consideration, when I dont think this post was intended to hurt anyone from the get-go anyways.

I'm sorry, but if you cant handle the truth of how other ppl feel, then keep it moving.  It just seems like most of the brides here are taking this stuff with a grain of salt & finding things humorous.  At least I am.  We're big girls ladies!  So what if someone dosen't think your 12tier cake is fabulous!  Eat that sucker anyway!  Half of the dislikes on here are things Im doing anyway, & no one can change my mind, but we have to take into consideration that not only are there the "dislikes", or "annoyances", but there are also the LIKES.  Can we focus more on the LIKES than the fact that someone didn't like every little thing that you just happened to use?  I mean no harm with my comment here, Im just being honest.

Okay I just saw this post...I should have read it a little earlier!  I just wrote a post about a tradition that I don't like..."unity candles/unity sand"  I just find that the reason behind a lot of traditions are lost and they just end up being people going through the motions.

But another trend that I don't like is dances where they start off slow and then get all fast and funky...I just find them kind of corny.
I think they CAN work though depending on the rest of your theme and depending on what your guests are like...so hopefully I'm not offending anyone:S

gratefulbride: you're such a sweetie :) and I will definitely still be putting those posts up :)

first off let me say that i might change my mind later!

and all of this is in general, there are exceptions to every rule!

but for right now, i don't like big puffy linens/draping and  big fluffy things in general.  i don't like the choreographed dances.  don't ask why i just don't.  i don't like balloons.  i don't like animals as part of the wedding party...

pretty much everything else is good by me!

you nailed it right on the head gratefulbride. my wedding was unique to my area. nobody in my family or my friends live anywhere near a city or know what is the new in thing. So just about everything I did wowed them. The colored crinoline. The vintage theme. I had a little damask going on. The birdcage veil. The older ladies in my family about died when they saw that. It hasn't been seen around here since they were young brides. the rehearsed first dance. never done in my family or in my circle of friends. They were on their feet hooting and hollering even when we were just doing our ballroom dancing to frank sinatra. The black and white cake and the feathered cake topper. Completely threw everyone off. My family is still talking about it and a married could who was at our wedding.. the husband was a groomsman.. they want to have a vow renewal and have a wedding and reception unlike when they got married.. and our wedding is what gave them wedding fever and inspired them.

So even though a lot of other brides see the stuff I did a lot lately perhaps in the cities... and it's old news to them, or maybe overkilled where they are from.... I live in the mountains.... in the middle of nowhere. I blew everyone away with my wedding. And my annoying vintage, and my annoying damask and birdcage veil and rehearsed first dance. lol.

I was trying to say a married couple at my wedding..


sorry I'm on meds right now. bad sinus infection. went to the hospital a few days ago. forgive me for being cloudy up top lol

I hear ya! When i started planning, damask was rarely used for weddings...now it's everywhere! Now i only have damask table linens.

I've always hated the flower girl looking like a mini bride - TACKY! Sorry if i offend anyone..it's just not my cup of tea. My FG is wearing Black & a bit of white like the rest of the bridal party.

Throwing the bouquet and garter toss - outdated & tacky

dollar dances, mother son & father daughter  dances - this really bugs me! No wants to sit around and watch you dance with your dad, they wanna dance!

pick up skirts - they look like you're wearing a big duvet, LOL

even though i have *some* calla lilies, i'm totally sick of seeing them at weddings.

Yes the offbeat choreographed dance is over done too. We are doing a choreographed dance, but one that fits our theme...and it's elegant (foxtrot - Fred & ginger-ish) NOT in your face " i like big butts" kinda thing, LOL

All the BM's wearing the EXACT same thing including shoes, accessories and hair. They're not your back-up singers, they have their own style too.

I hope i didn't offend anyone...these are MY opinions only
I'm sure there's more, but that's all i can think of right now.

I'm sorry gratefulbride, I didn't mean to make you feel bad about the bridcage veils, I just personally don't care for them, I'm glad you didn't take it personally...as it wasn't meant as an attack at anyone.
:)

Amc!  You are so thoughtful :)  You were honest, & I DEFINITELY respect that.  Heck, there's probably millions of brides who hate those veils, lol!  I'm not sweating stuff though, for real.  Plus, I'm wearing a Mantilla veil, haahahaa!

I agree with retrobride about having bridesmaids look exactly the same from hair to shoes- I think its nice to let your girls add a little of their own flavor to their attire.

I also don't like brides who make everything drama and don't include their fiance` in any decision-making, it's the guy's day too!

I'm also not a huge fan of cupcake cakes, but that's only because I don't like eating cupcakes (I always make a mess!). No offense to anyone who is having one, like I said, I just couldn't pull it off without icing on my dress!

I love the tradition of a father/daughter dance! My dad is so excited, he won't even let me know what song it is, he wants to surprise me. He loves teasing me about it. Anything that makes my dad that happy is definitely awesome!

I also love the idea of walking down the aisle to a non-traditional song. I'll definitely not be strolling down to "here comes the bride"...

Again, any comment I make I mean no offense, this is just my personal taste. To each their own- I have some damask in my wedding so I don't have any room to talk. lol

oh, fifikiwiw, I had a slide show at my wedding made by my mother in law. We weren't embarrassed of the pictures.. afterall.. the people who were there know us and love us, and were probably there, or got a kick out of seeing us... and we really liked it. But then again we grew up together and there were several pictures we were in together... so it was a very sentimental and there was a good story to tell. I'm sure there has been a cheesey slide show out there.... but I rathed liked mine. We had it in the bar room away from the party as to not distract everyone. it worked out great.

Things I love: when brides take a trend and make it their own. I love seeing everyones different interpretation and stylistic stamp on wedding trends. I love all the ways brides incorporate damask into their weddings whether doing it in unexpected colors, or just subtly introducing it as a design on the centerpiece vases or napkins or somewhere else. I love the look of manzanita trees decorated in crystal and orchids as centerpieces or focal points. I love the look of crystal. Crystal chandeliers, crystal candelabras, crystal sconces... as far as ambience is concerned I dont think you can go wrong with crystal and candlelight. I love floating candles. I especially love when flowers are submerged in the water. I love candy buffets because, well, I love candy. And they are pretty to look at. I also love the idea of a dessert buffet and dessert stations, like a banana fosters station, and a coffee bar. I love being surprised. I love when there is variation but everything holds together. I love feeling indulged whether its visually or gastronomically and I love having the oppurtunity to provide this for my guests.

Things I dont love: too much of one thing. I like it when weddings are 'inspired' by different elements and not so much on one 'theme'. The word theme to me sounds gimicky. Im not so crazy about the first dance and father daughter dance. I like it when the couple does something different. If everyones gonna watch you, you should at least make it entertaining and fun and not dance around in a circle. Im not into having my bridemaids look like stepford wives. They have different body types, tastes, and personalities. Thats what I love about them. I want that to shine through in there attire, not for them to be dressed the same like gradeschool twins. But thats just me.

Ok so I tried to read the comments from my phone over my lunch break. Oh my goodness, I would have never made it back, LOL. So my two cents:

Dislikes- the colors hot pink and chocolate. I like pink but not for a wedding. The father daughter/ mother son dance. I'm not close with my dad and it's just going to be ackward and I want to get to the everyone dancing and cutting loose as soon as possible. I'm not a fan of the cotton eye joe or macarena but I do like how they get people who might not get up otherwise out on the dance floor.

Likes- I really like damask, it just seems to have a classy, regal look when done right. I LOVE the photobooth idea. I like bridesmaids picking their own dresses, candles galore, and simple wedding backyard weddings- sigh if anyone we knew had a big anough yard...

Oh, this is kind of fun! :)

Well, I honestly can say no "trend" specifically bothers me, unless the 80s start making a comeback into hair and wedding dresses! lol! But what bugs me is the "expectation" and the "selling" of the wedding industry.

What I mean is... I was browsing the David's Bridal website, and saw an ad for "Can't think of what to get your flower girl for a flower girl's gift? Get her a life-size flower girl doll, complete with flower girl dress!" and I thought to myself, "What the heck? The girl already has a life-sized dress... her own!" Now, if you want to give your flower girl a keepsake to remember the wedding, that's all well and good, but what bugs me is the faking of traditions which are really just intended to get brides to spend more. A money grab, if you will. My fiance refers to it as taking advantage of people's emotions.

What I LOVE
It's so hard to pin down. I love coming on to this site and seeing everyone share and exchange ideas. I love seeing people posting pictures of their wedding dresses, and what cakes they like. It's funny the uniqueness that is inspired here by sharing...a paradox, kinda.

- I love cocktail-length bridesmaid gowns.
- I love black bridesmaid gowns. (Not having this, but still love!)
- I love damask! (Not having this either.)
- I love the colour green.
- I love pink, yellow, and orange all together. (Not having this.)
- I love DIY invitations!!! and can only hope mine turn out half as lovely as the ones on this site.

I think something we need to keep in mind is that while we might see a ton of brides' weddings all look like ours, or similar, is that not a lot of guests will be attending so many weddings that they will see a pattern. :)

I really hope I won't offend anyone with this... this post is treading into dangerous territory! (sorry for the late response, i think I was still moving at the time this was posted!)

I'm really tired of seeing the "bling" weddings where absolutely everything is encrusted in rhinestones, crystals etc. and the tiffany & co/tiffany blue weddings (no offense Sony!). it seems to be pretty much everywhere I go on the wedding blogs right now! I'm also sorta tired of seeing damask everywhere- it's pretty, but its not that pretty to me. Accents of it are nice, but when everything's damask, it really starts to irritate me. I can appreciate it for someone else's sake though. I'm tired of seeing monograms everywhere too. I don't like cakes that are on separate stands or have pillars between the layers (instead of stacked on each other), or with fountains on them. Lets see...what else?? Plastic tablecloths, badly made DIY projects,  clashing colors, unity candles/sand, balloons, mini-brides, big pouffy ballgown wedding dresses, tulle, and just generally, way too over the top weddings.

As for what I love... I'm a big fan of vintage, rustic, and simple. I really like neutral colors too. That's pretty apparent in my home too- nothing's over the top. I love stripes, polkadots, pearls- pretty preppy looking tbh, which is strange seeing as I'm not the least bit preppy! lmao. I'm also head over heels for black & white weddings. If my grandmother wouldn't completely flip out, I think that's probably what we would've gone for with accents of silver. I like monochromatic color schemes too, so long as there is depth created by different types of textures & different shades of the color.  I like chandeliers too- I wanted them incorporated into our wedding at first but Chris really, really hates the idea. Most of all though, I really like the weddings where the guests are really involved- not necessarily in the planning, but where everything allows for mingling and being interactive with each other.

I feel the same way about damask. I have a serious love hate relationship with it at this point. I was So sure I wanted to go w/ a damask theme from the get-go but int he last year of planning I have made myself SICK of it. SO many brides are using it, as it's so popular in so many design trends right now... I felt like I was lacking originality by using it. So, I may incorporate a bit of damask somewhere, maybe in the invitatino or sometihng, but that'/s about it. I am not going to go nuts w/ it, I'm not going to use it in table linens or anythign like i had originally wanted to... it's just. too. much.

Oh - i wanted to add, that I started to feel that way about candy buffets and a lot of other "trends" in wedding planning these days... it seems like every idea I fall in love with is suddenly EVERYWHERE I look online, every bride is doing the same thing.... but the reality is, most of the ideas I make myself sick on, online, I have never actually seen in a real life wedding that I've ever actually been to, and I'm willing to bet that in most cases unless people at your wedding are AVID wedding-goers, most of your guests will never have even thought of half these ideas - why? Because they are not constantly scouring the web for wedding theme ideas like WE are! LOL

Most of these themes that seem SO overkill to us who have spent the last X number of months planning and researching and saving and brainstorming for our own wedding, are totally new concepts to those who are already married or who have never been engaged. So fear not, and go on w/ your bad self ladies - no matter what anyone else says.

P.S. I don't think anyone here is being hurtful or intending to be... we're all just having a mature discussion - no one has called anyone out, and when someone says "I'm sick of seeing cupcakes" or "I'm sick of damask" it doesn't mean they think it's a HORRIBLE idea, it really usually just means "I've seen SO mucho f it ONLINE" - fair enough, as I said, we're all up to our eyeballs in wedding planning. :)

Much as I am SICK of damask I still love it. Much as I am SICK of looking at candy buffets I still love them. Much as I have come across a LOT of brides online doing the birdcage veil thing I've never seen a bride do it at a wedding I've been to yet. Much as vintage these days seems SO overdone it's still classic and gorgeous if done right and not everyone offline is doing it.

The best weddings are a true reflection of the bride and groom's tastes whether anyone else likes those same things or not, and that is the bottom line. :)

GBride- Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought you were NOT a Tiff & Co Bride.  I mean, I see that you post about using a tiff or aqua blue color with Steel Gray, but I never have seen Tiff & Co boxes or images, etc in your wedding decor.

I'm sorry but I have to admit that I am not a big fan of the damask thing. I have just been seeing it everywhere! But it's probably also because it's just really not my style.

I also don't like princess themes or super frilly. My FH would be so unhappy if I did that. It's supposed to be OUR day. How in the world can he relate to froo froo pink Dinsey princesses? haha.

One more is the Save the Date magnet. The first time I saw it I thought it was cute, but it has become way too trendy for me.

That'strue Pinkbride :)  I am not a Tiff & Co themed bride/wedding.

Hmmm...I think the wedding trend I dislike the most is the negative attitute everyone seems to give when you're getting married.  My future mother-in-law seems to hate EVERYTHING and from what I've seen, many brides on here seem to have something/someone who makes their ideas seem flawed.  I wish we could all design our own wedding the way we want them without people being so negative...THAT is a trend I wish we could stop.  

That being said, I LOVE color and will never get enough of it.  I'm so happy when I see a bride in some other color other than white!  Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with white, but there's just something about the perfect dress that doesn't scream white to me.  I love finding matching this or that.  I love finding unique ideas...only to find that it's not so unique after all (all my damask ladies I'm sorry it no longer feels unique...but I still think it's cool!) and then keeping it 'cause even though it's not unique it's soooooo you!  I also love everyone giving everyone else support on here...that's a trend I hope will never die!

I think these posts are hilarious. "I HATE this but I still LOVE you."  lol and all the "no offense" before they say their comment. There are thousands of brides on here. Damask was unique last April through June and yes, I'm actually sick of seeing it and cannot wait to sell it when my wedding is over but I still think it's beautiful. No one around me or anyone that knows me didn't even know what damask was so that's sweeet for me.

If this were on the Knot.com... it would get really bitchy which is why I love WBC. ;) All of your weddings are gorgeous, birdcage veils, candy buffets, damask and all... everyone makes it their own and that's why each of our weddings will be so gorgeous. Congrats to all of you.

Amen to that victorias1911!  I think I passed out of my ful of damask phase when I first typed this, because I am still seeing all things damask, despite whether others like it or not, lol;0  I will have it in the house even after the wedding.  It's just a classic!  You're right though, alot of my family & friends hadn't even paid much attn to it at all, so that's the great thing about having it in the wedding.  And you're so right about the support on here!!!

Fortunately more of the women who have posted have honestly shared their views without getting catty or defensive.  Everyone's wedding here has been & will be gorgeous, even if some dont really approve of the style.  We just cant please everyone;)

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Where do I start?

Likes:

Pink Weddings - Any shade of pink!,
Damask.. & Yes, I'm a Damask Bride,
Weddings that are personalized and unique to the
Bride & Groom and who they are as a couple,
Photobooths,
Cotton Candy,
Candy Buffets,
Anything that reminds you of childhood,
Cocktail Receptions,
Couple who write their own vows,
Lots of Candles,
Amazing Views,
Beautiful Linens,
Peonies,
Orchids,
Roses,
Chuppahs.

Dislikes:
Weddings with NO color,
Balloons at weddings,
Stuffy & Prissy Weddings,
That Damask is Over-Used,
Super-Long Ceremonies,
Dry Weddings,
Gaudy Weddings,
Carnations,
Baby's Breath,
Animal Prints in Weddings.

Damask and Black and pink together. Both should be original ideas but so many brides are doing it now.. so glad i didn't choose either for my wedding because i think i would have to change my idea after seeing the amount of brides doing it.