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Would You Let Your Groom Plan?

first i want to say its soo sweet of you do do all the posting for other brides out there...

now to answer the question i think i would but at the same time i fear what he would come up with... thats a good question i think i would let him just to see what he comes up with... haha

but back to reality im doing all the planning.. he always takes the easy way out.. haha ...

O.M.G.!!!  Haaaaaa haaaaa!  I just could not stop laughing, & if you could picture my Alan (FH) you would bust out laughing too!

Well, with that much extra money, I would probably STRONGLY suggest he get a Coordinator.  But, if the ultimatum didn't include help from a pro, I'd probably still be gutsy & say yes.  Knowing him, he'd have me in a really big, puffy gown which isn't me.  But he loves seeing me in all things frilly.  I'm sure we'd have a Heineken sponsored reception with Hooters wings.  It really could be cute though!  I know he'd only spend about half so at least we'd have money to go to our house!

Really though, I think that this would be good for him.  I know he kind of underestimates how the wedding planning really goes, so this would be a good dose of reality for him.

Haaaaa Haaaaa!!! I wouldn't even have a wedding. More like a backyard picnic. My FH right is so not into planning,. Whenever I ask him something about our wedding he is like "baby whatever you want." Ugh! How frustrating. But then again I get to do things my way. Which is how I like stuff. MY WAY!! LOL!!!

Anyways, it would be fun though to see what he would come up wit...all else fails I know we would have a house because he is just that type of guy.

Well yeah, I'd let him plan it.  He's got great taste and I know he would spend wisely.  I'd trust him 100% plus I wouldn't be under soo much pressure..that would be nice for a change. I'd love to see him deal with the stress..HA! LOL

I would not trust him just because I am way better with the money. He would spend money on "stupid" things like limo ;)

In terms of taste, there is no doubt I would let him do it. He has a great taste and most of the time expensive ;)

So, in terms of money NO, in terms of taste YES.....and if I get 25K more for him to plan well YES, and I would expect the most expensive limo ;)

This has me laughing out loud at work! I know how much my fh loves to please me and have things my way but I'll be honest... I would be 100% afraid if he planned the whole thing himself without professional help. I would walk in and I'm sure there would be Chicago White Sox theme or a car theme for the reception!! Pictures of Camaro's on each table and a wedding cake that looks like a bottle of Miller Light! Dinner would consist or pizza puffs, chicken fingers with french fries and hamburgers. Ok so maybe it wouldn't be that bad but I know it wouldn't be the way I envisioned it. (Sorry sweetie! Love you but you just weren't born with the wedding planning skills!!) But even though it wouldn't be the way I pictured I would still decide to let him plan it because I would want all my friends and family there with me. (And maybe to console me too!) (And having a White Sox wedding would be HORRIBLE... I'm a HUGE Cubs fan!!)

I think I would let him.  He knows me pretty well, & we both have similar tastes.  I know everything woudnt be exactly how I want it, but maybe close?  I also could not talk to him much during the planning, because I would go crazy in wanting to know what he was working on,  what color it is,  what this looks like.  But, it would be nice to have him do it all!  Muaaaaahaaaaaahaaa!  That's my evil laugh :)

Love this question!

I think FH would take pretty much all of the money, and try to get Benny Benassi to DJ our dance.  And a fully-stocked kick-ass bar.  Priorities!  :)

LOL mine wouldnt know what to do! I think he would take the money and spend most of it for our honeymoon.

Ikaufman08, thank you for your kind words :)

Ladies, yall are hilarious!  You have me rolling over here.
I think I would take the risk (and I do mean risk) to let Mr. Gratefulbride plan it.  I know for sure this is how it'd go down:

We would go to courthouse & get married.
We would go to Egypt & Hawaii for about 2 weeks combined for Honeymoon.
We would have money set aside for future.
There would be no announcements, invitations, etc.  He would let his family do the talking.  That would get it done in a day, lol.
We would have a BBQ at someone's house with his Omega brothers getting the party started.  We'd have zero alcohol unless its BYOB (we really arent at actual wedding anyway), & he'd have me in something earthtoned.  He LOVES me in brown & stuff.  All.The.Time.  Not cool.

But, to see him do a portion of the work & get a taste of putting it all together....priceless.

NO!

LOL @ Rhena!  Just tell us how you really feel, lol!

I would have to say yes I trust him to plan our wedding, but I don't think it would match 100% with what I would do...but seeing as I don't really care about wedding planning, whatever he planned would be fine by me--actually I wouldn't mind if he took care of everything.  Now...there could possibly be two outcomes:  

1)  If he has to use all the money for the wedding, I think he would go all out for the best that he could (why not since you can't keep the money).  We've talked about this before if we had no budget then we could have a super wedding.  Even then I think he may pick a destination wedding (like we have) and just go all out for the little amount of guests we would have present.  

2)  If he has the option to use whatever money for the wedding and keep the money for the future this is how it would go...no doubt at all.  We would have a small church ceremony with immediate family only and then go out to dinner.  No inviations, no favors, perhaps a bouquet....but that's it--very basic and simple.  He would be more concerned to keep the money for our future (house, savings, etc).  We may go on a small honeymoon, but even then I think he would budget.  haha bless his heart...one of us has to be responsible.  :-)

We would have an amazing get away car and amazing food, no flowers, casual attire, no decorations, about 20 guests max and an awesome honeymoon.
To be honest, it's tempting, haha!

I do not trust his taste! He's budget (HA). He wants to just go to the justice of the peace or Reno??? He'd do it shabby and cheap. I already know it? So, I'm making sure I spend as much as I can. Hehehehee!  

Thanks aabout the answer to Nuts!
Gratefulbride, that's on point. You covered all areas in nuts!

LOL Rhena.  I think I made nuts my specialty awhile ago ;) but for now, I need them to just stay in their container!  Haa.

hmmm an extra $25k eh? I would let him do it for sure! His taste is as  expensive as mine, (if not more), so I know it would be great. Well It could go one of 2 ways. 1. destination wedding somewhere amazing. 2. small backyard party at our new house with a shiny new sports car in the driveway hehe :)

LOL Hotpink.  You're FH sounds like mine.  He JUST mentioned a Destination Wedding & just having our parents.  If our parents didnt have the health conditions they have, we just might consider it.  And, he would put his money with  the 25g  to go get a new Escalade.

I would absolutely let him plan it, but we'd end up disqualified because it wouldn't be a week before his timid little voice came through: "honey, can you help me...?"

He's a bit impulsive, but he would plan an amazing wedding. I imagine it would have been like this:

Royal purple and emerald green (his favorite colors)
Awesome food
Awesome music
Knockout photogapher (he's very... very picky about photography; he's probably blow $5000 on a photogapher if he could)
And I would have been the only thing in the entire event in white - he told me before we were even engaged he always imagined a bride in the full white veil, white dress, white bouquet, like "an angel coming down the aisle"

(My hubster is secretly a romantic at heart... a clumsy one, perhaps, but a romantic nonetheless.)

He has the creativity and the ideas for a great wedding, but he wouldn't know where to start to put it together. That said, I hope our vow renewal constitutes a bigger contribution from him than our wedding, which he gave very little input to because it was planned in such a short time and he handed it over and said "I know you'll pull this off in a month, so it's all yours"!

We've talked about things enough by now that we're on the same page about things. The only real problem would be him doing them in a timely manner because he tends to wait until the last minute. If he did it from the beginning, though, I don't know if I could relax and let him plan. I would worry about too much.

I would do it in a heartbeat!
He has actually been VERY involved in the planning process and the things that he has picked out, though not my absolute favorite, they come very close and we do think a lot alike. What can I say... he has good taste. ;)
He would probably spend the most on... entertainment and alcohol. I don't know for sure though because I can guarantee that he would be thinking, "what would she want?" most of the time.

There's a show on BBC America about this!  It's called "Don't Tell the Bride", and it's awesome, particularly because it's all Brits, and they're so cute and funny.  For $25k, HELL YES I'd let him do all the planning.  I trust him completely.  He'd probably do a better job with it than I would do myself!

LOL, I just asked my FH this question.  He said he*! yeah, he'd do it in a minute!  So, I asked how he would use the money.  He said he'd fly us Hawaii to get married.  He'd use part of the $$$ to fly our guests there.  He'd get our clothes, officiant, hotel, food, dj & photog.  No favors, because air fare would be the favor, lol.  That's it.  I guess I was close when I mentioned the Destination Wedding!!  It makes me want to replan & just run to Hawaii now.

NO!!!!!!!!!!!! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! If it was left up to him I'd be in a skintight gown not able to eat. He'd have a rock band or heavy metal band at the reception and who know whatelse

OMG....... I just asked FH if he were given $25 grand to plan our wedding with what would he do.......he burst out and said " I'd coverthe celings of our venue in airbrush cloths painted to look like the midnight sky with stars gleaming from the lights behind them and have thousands of crystals hanging from the ceiling as well and have every table done in platinum colors with cyrstal trees and orchids." !!

OMG I'm out done he just blew my little plans out the water.

He said he's been watching Platnium Weddings and he seen a lot of greaat ideas but they were costly so he never brought them up because I was doing a wonderful job with the budget we have and he is just happy to see how it is all coming together.

Oh weeeeeeeee!!!

OMG. Some of you ladies have the funniest responses. I think if my husband had the option to plan instead of me. here's how it would go down:

We would have a destination wedding on the beach of a Caribbean island. He'd pay for our parents, siblings and his bestfriend to fly out there and put them up at a nice hotel or resort. Any other guests would need to pay for themself if they plan to be there...lol.
We'd have a really good photographer (he'll definitely spend $ on that), venue, music, food and do not forget the uplights. They are a must. Who needs invitations when there's cellphones, email and facebook? And, definitely no save the dates.
There will be no bridesmaids or groomsmen, only a MOH and bestman. There MAY be a cake and it would be either chocolate cake with chocolate filling and chocolate frosting or red velvet (I don't like either of the 2). He'll probably put me in a summer dress that's 2 sizes  too small since he can never get my size right. He'll probably buy it from the hotel botique when we get there since he'll be too excited packing his shorts and flip flops to wear to the ceremony. I won't have anyone to do my make-up or hair bc he'll say I can do it myself...for free. Mani and pedi? What are those?
There won't be even 1 favor much less the 4 that we had. His mom will wear whatever she wants (which will probably be capris and a tee), not the dress I had to convince her into picking. After the wedding, we'll probably go to Hawaii for the honeymoon like his bestfriend suggested because he get's flight and hotel discounts thru his job instead of going to Egypt where I wanted to go in the 1st place.
All in all, we'll probably be saving the entire $25k and about 1/2 of our original budget.
I emailed him asking how he'd spend the $. But, he's probably busy at work. Will post his respose when he emails me back.

I think I would let him plan. I know him well and he would plan it getting a wedding planner to help him (that is if I can't help at all) he would probably spend some in a good honeymoon and save the rest for a house. About if it would be a lot different from what we planned alredy? I don't think so. I think he would like to stick with the same idea we have now. We always wanted something intimate with close family and friends.

FIrst, the responses to this are hillarious.  I think I'll have to ask FH what he would do if he was given complete control of the wedding.  I imagine if I let my FH plan the wedding we would be getting married in VEGAS!  (In all caps because that is what he screams any time someone mentions us getting married, hehe.)  He would definitely pay for all our close friends and family to be there.  He also is a stickler for details, so I know that things would be well taken care of (invitations, centerpieces etc).  A good chuck of that money would go into savings, we are trying to save up our nest egg so I can stay home once we have children.

In a heart beat I'd let him. It would be AWESOME. I would absolutely LOVE to see his creative side. He would do an amazing job, a better job than I am for sure... He would find a way to incorperate evenly what we both want in this wedding.... he's amazing! :)

#1 - would be great entertainment and the best pro DJ.
#2 - Food and best drinks
#3 - Attire
#4 - Transportation
#5 - Honeymoon

Se how we (women) differ from our men LOL!!!

so it's been confirmed...I asked FH  what he would do with the money and he said bank it.  haha  Then he said he would keep everything the way it is because he really likes the way we are doing things.  He would still have it in the same place but possibly add more flowers, dj, have the place set up things instead of us doing it, have some do all the decorating instead of me making things....he also said for the honeymoon we would go overseas to do some sightseeing.  The rest of the money would go into the bank as a nest egg.

So, I promised to post his response to the question. So, here's his version:
1. He'd hire a coordinator (a cheap 1).
2. He'd have the wedding somewhere that guests can be both indoors and outdoors since he'd like to have a firworks display. Didn't see that coming. Looks like we're going over budget...lol.
3. He'd have a monkey handing our the programs at the ceremony...what the hell. Our wedding just became a circus.
4. He didn't know he'd get to pick my dress also. So, with that said, he'd get me "the 1 with the lace that's named after the old movie" that I wanted (that was a direct quote). It was Casablanca. Awwwwwww.
5. He'd still have our band play. But, he'd have them sing longer.

Ladybugg, girl you have me crying over here!  A monkey?  Lol..I think FH would say the same thing if he thought a little longer, lol.  That is too funny.

for an extra 25 grand, id let him plan. I know he wouldnt spend it all, so we would be able to buy a second car, and pay off his truck! :)

These responses are cracking me up.

No way!!! He would have no idea what to do...he would spend as little as possible so that we could keep the rest....and it would probably be a backyard bbq and he would have me in a dress that shows as much cleavage as possible, lol. It wouldn't be worth extra $25k!

LOL AMC!

Uh..not really because nothing would ever get the done. The only thing that would get booked is the bartender and DJ. He loves to drink and he loves music.

nope. lol

he thought all we needed was a marriage license, rings, a JP, burgers, hot dogs, a bonfire & kegs full of beer everywhere. He would have ruined the whole thing. There would have been loud country music, or really loud death metal.... cars parked on my lawn, no tent, he would have forgotten tables chairs.... I just know it lol. he didn't even understand why I wanted flowers or couldn't just wear something I had in the closet.

I love him, but he's a party planning putz & he knows it so he wouldn't be offended by me saying that lol.

I would totally let my FH plan the wedding. I wouldn't even be tempted to help him. He's been great at everything through this whole process. He's always willing to help me and he comes up with great ideas all the time! Just this past weekend I let him pick the cake and he did a fantastic job. If he planned the wedding I imagine it being something like this:

Destination wedding to somewhere like Jamaica.
Everything would be mixed blues.
Fabulous photographer.
Great food that everyone would love.
He would hire a spectacular DJ.
Everything would be casual and laid back, a very relaxed atmosphere.

I honestly think it would be a lot like what we're doing now, but bigger and better. I do think he would save as much as he could on the actual wedding and then we would go to Bora Bora for our honeymoon. That's as much his dream as it is mine.

Okay, so I just asked FH what he would do if HE had to plan the wedding and was given an extra $25k.  He said the entire wedding would be dungeons and dragons themed...and that he'd get a "big @ss cake" that was sculpted by Mike's Amazing Cakes.  Then he said he'd keep everything the way it is now...small and simple...except that he would  put more money towards our wedding rings and then he'd blow the rest on the honeymoon.  Or...(I dreaded this or part) I'd do a Star Wars themed wedding and we'd walk through a sword arch...only they'd be light sabers.  Yep, that sounds like my baby.  Lol.  

Needless to say I'm kinda glad we're doing it my way.

I'd let him go for it though.  He probably would have sat down and thought about what I wanted and gone with the least offensive of his ideas...the d&d one.  (Since I'm already letting him have a d&d groomsmen cake.)  He'd have put me in a dress I didn't love 'cause our tastes are different.  :-(  However, we'd have an awsome honeymoon and then that would mean that I'd be able to have complete say in all the planning for when we re-new our vows.  So, yeah, it'd be awsome!

He would spend more on the Honeymoon, my ring, and our future home....We spent close to $20 grand and he said that was too much for a wedding....BUT he was the one who chose an expensive venue in the first place... He said if he could have done our wedding for $5 grand...LOL if that says it all about him...he thinks weddings are a waste of money and who doesn't care much for details...

LOL this is a good thread

NEVER EVER EVER lol... it be so tempting but if I had NO imput It would drive me crazy and no matter how expensive our wedding is it wouldnt be what I wanted. Knowing my FH he would prob spend $1000 on the wedding and take the extra money for season tickets to hockey or soemthing stupid haha

Well, what I have is a future wife, not a future husband.  But I'd see this as a win-win situation--she'd have to do all the planning, AND we're more than double our budget!  ;-)

not a chance! lol my FH has been trying to convince me of a destination wedding with fewer than 10 people so i'm pretty sure thats what would be planned if he had the money.

I would trust my groom to plan..especially if we had 25K ! I would encourage him to hire a wedding planner!  HAHAHAHA!!