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07/03/2012
 tears |
Engagement
Postponed
Hi girls. 1st congrats to the ladies who were just married and who have crossed over to marriage. I wish the absolute best to you ladies especially phillysgirl and tiffanyranaekasten.
The past few weeks have been a bit rough for me. Starting with my ex bestfriend who I've known since childhood and her shutting me down for asking her to be my MOH and becoming engaged to FH. She said she didn't care for FH too much because she didn't think he was a good enough guy. That really hurt me. And I guess I hurt her because I didn't really listen to her. I just got angry and she was already angry. So we had a tiff. After some time had passed and I asked another friend to be my MOH, she finally calls me and says we need to talk. So we met up yesterday and we talk about things. Basically it came down to this. She knew about an affair that my FH had had with someone (a former friend of hers, not anyone I know) when we first got engaged about 2 years ago. She never told me she said because she didn't want me to be angry with her and her life was kind of messed up then because she had just got divorced herself around that time. It was kind of a hard time so I'm not mad at her at all for what she did. She and I are ok again. She doesn't support my decision to stay engaged to him, but she said she respects it. The wedding may be postponed though. The only reason I am forgiving him is because when we talked today he did not deny anything. He told me the whole truth and he swore that it happened one time and it was a mistake. I believe him. I just dontthink that I can marry him right now. I still love him but I just can't see this clearing up over night. We are going to have to work very hard to get back to where we were. He is not even mad at her for telling me the truth he says he feel like it's a relief that i know because says he loves me and did not want to lie to me. He and this girl had some history that I won't get into. The story is too long. The only reason my friend knows is because she knew this girl that he messed around with 2 years ago and this girl confirmed it with her. Then my FH confirmed it with me after my friend told me the truth yesterday. To think I would probably not have known this if I hadn't asked her to be my MOH! It scares me to think about it. I have not been able to sleep or cry. I just really think I will feel better if I can just cry. I don't think it has hit me yet. I am sitting here and it feels unreal that for 2 years I didn't know anything happened. Even if it was just one time. It still happened and I didn't know and we have been engaged all this time doing so many things and making plans and preparations. And all this time that lie has been there. Well as of right now there is no wedding happening in October for me. My dress will be arriving in a few months, but I may sell it anyway. I bought a few other things, but I just will have to sell that stuff too or give it all away. The money means nothing! My happiness and being sure of my life is what matters. When we do get married, I do not want to keep these plans, this theme, that dress, or anything to remind of what started. I want to start fresh. That is what we will need, a fresh start. I will be here to support the other brides if it is not too painful for me. You all have great posts and cute ideas. I am happy for all of you. Keep us in your thoughts please. |
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06/29/2012
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My Fear...
My wedding is in October of this year. It is outdoors and in a forest area of a state park in Georgia. It tends to rain a lot in September and October in Georgia. It didn't rain much last year, but the years before last it did rain quite a bit, so much so that one year it actually flooded here! My fear is that it may rain on my wedding and all of the plans and money spent on this immaculate outdoor dream Twilight Theme wedding will be all to waste because of the rain.
My question is should I go ahead and give in and get a few wedding tents for the wedding or even plan to get married instead at a state park, at a venue where we can do it outdoors if it's nice, and quickly move it indoors if it begins to rain? It kind of messes up the whole vision I had, but at least with the tents, we can still be outside and be under shelter. We can even decorate it nice inside with gothic themes and vampiric ice sculptures and tree centerpieces even. It's good to prepare. So I need help in deciding if we should go ahead and get married in the state park and set up several tents, just in case. Or if we should go ahead book a venue that allows an indoor and outdoor wedding and reception? I can't decide...help? |
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06/18/2012
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Bridesmaids
MOH Drama... but she found her dress!
As previously mentioned a few blogs ago I had a best friend who I had asked to be my one bridesmaid/maid of honor. There will not be a large wedding party. We are only doing a MOH and BM. Well, the first person I asked was my best friend and a good friend of mine since childhood. That did not work out, so I asked a girlfriend that I felt was trustworthy to be my MOH. She was a little shocked that I asked her, but she has been good and loyal since I asked her. She found a dress over the weekend that I gladly approve of. She thought it was strange that a MOH would wear black, but that's our main color so she found this one on Ximplle. It's cute, simple, and was affordable for her. I did offer to buy her dress for her, but she refused saying it was her job to help me, not the other way around. She is so sweet!
She was the best choice. I really understand now that a true friend/best friend will really be there with you and not make up stupid excuses not to. When I finally did get to speak with the first person I asked to be my MOH she didn't even apologize for her rude and down right mean behavior towards me. I told her how hurt I was, and she put all of the blame on me. She did express how she truly feels by saying that she thinks that I am selfish to be getting married soon and to ask her to be my MOH while I knew she was having a hard time living with her mother and trying to raise her child on her own. She said that asking her to be MOH was really an inconsiderate thing to do to her. She said that she feels like I need more time to think about if I really want to marry this man who she has known for as long as I've known him which is over three years now, and she never seemed to have a problem with him until we got engaged. And she feels like the reason I need to wait to marry him is because he is still trying to work his way up in life as far as his job and that he doesn't seem to meet me at that level economically. She feels he isn't worth it. It's all B.S. I understand that she has had two failed marriages and hasn't had much luck with love, but this is my first and hopefully only marriage. I'm not rushing into things like she may have in the past. And I'm in love and I'm pretty sure about how I want to spend my future with my FH. Now, I know who really cares and who really is supportive of me. I'm very thankful for this realization. Otherwise, I may have had more troubles with this girl than I could have possibly imagined. It's crazy how planning a wedding can fetch out the ugly truth. So glad I saw it sooner rather than later. Thank you, Shelia for being a true friend and my MOH. I thank God for you. |
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06/14/2012
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Wedding Planner
Caramel & Red Chocolate Fountains
Red chocolate! Like blood...hehe We want to get a chocolate fountain and we found a place that rents chocolate fountains. I have no idea where to get red chocolate or even how to get chocolate to turn red, but it's a perfect idea for our wedding. We would have two fountains because a family member is allergic to chocolate. We are going to also have a caramel fountain with apples and candy to dip into it. The chocolate fountain would have marshmallows and strawberries to dip in. Just another addition to our Twilight theme wedding. FH was very excited when I told him the idea about the red chocolate to go in our fountain.
What do you think, ladies? |
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06/09/2012
 bella-and-jacob |
Engagement
What do you say?
Only 125 more days to go and wow is it going by fast!
I'm happy to say that I have found a new MOH. Though she is not the person I originally wanted (refer to last blog) she is a nice person and is very reliable and loyal to me and FH. Our guests are a little thrown off by me and FH Twilight Theme. They think that it's just my obsession, but really it's me and Jake's love for the story that has invoked our theme. He and I watched the movies, liked it, then read the books together. We read all of them together and finished them together....literally. It may seem weird and shocking to some, but we have always seen ourselves as Bella and Jacob. He is the strong type. He likes to work out, we go jogging together in the evenings, and he takes good care of me, but also let's me have my space when I need it. He is not overbearing nor is he over protective. He is a great listener, sensitive, and ruggedly handsome. When Jake proposed to me we were at a jazz festival in Peidmont Park. I hear so many girls say that they feel it coming, but I had no idea it was coming. We didn't even talk about it before! it was joked about but no one didn't really bring up the subject in a serious way. He got down on one knee and hugged me around my waist. I had a glass of wine in my hand and so a little of the wine dripped on his head. He laughed and said: "that's the kind of rain I like", I laughed and then he just looked up at me and said "I have something to ask you" I'm like: "what?" he said: "I want to know if you think i'm good enough" me: "for what?" him: "to marry" me: "what?" him: "marry me? seriously, man. Marry me?" me: "what?" He pulled out a shiny white gold solitaire diamond ring. him: "Come on!" he laughed I hugged him and kissed him...i guess I never really said yes, but I let him put the ring on my finger. He picked me up off of the ground and we kissed. I'm so ready for 125 days to be here! lol |
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06/06/2012
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Bridesmaids
Why must everything be so dramatic?
Girls, I've come to accept that drama simply comes with wedding planning. But why must everything be so damn dramatic?
I've had this best friend since childhood. She and I grew up together. We're almost like sisters. I've been there for her through everything. I was the MOH in her first and second wedding. I was there for her when she had her kid and even threw the surprise baby shower for her! So now, when I need her, she is no where to be found. Jake and I are only going to have one MOH and one Best Man. We don't want t huge wedding party, so no groomsmen and no bridesmaids. Just the Maid of Honor and the Best Man. The only person I could think of was my best friend from childhood. There is no one else. So I asked her if she would do me the honor of being my MOH. She says to me that she had been holding back her true feelings about my fiance for a long time and that the past two years we have been together she was hoping we would not get engaged. When I asked her why would she say that she said that she doesn't like the fact that he has been married before. She herself has been married twice and divorced twice. So I didn't get why she would say that. She said it's because I have never been married before and she feels like I should marry someone who has never been married before too. What the hell does that have to do with anything? Then she goes on to say that she doesn't think that he is good enough for me because we have different kinds of careers. I am a large business owner and my FH is a chef for a small business restaurant. She feels like he isn't going to live up to the standards. This is coming from a person who does nothing! She does not have a job, she lives with her mother, and has a child and we are best friends. So I asked her since we are best friends and she doesn't live as I do, does that mean we should not be friends? She starts crying and says she can't talk to me because I hurt her feelings and I'm selfish and inconsiderate. Did I miss something? I was so confused and hurt by all of this. I suddenly have no best friend, no MOH, and I'm confused about how all of this happened. Everything seemed fine until I asked her to be my MOH and I showed her the picture of my wedding dress. She just started crying and saying all of these cruel things. It was so unbelievably dramatic. I let her say everything she wanted to say, and the moment I make a point and argue what she's saying she gets mad and gives up on our friendship. I don't understand :( |
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06/04/2012
 maria karin |
Wedding Dress
I found it!
I'm so happy to say that I found my dress in New York today! I'm on vacation with FH in NY. I had no idea before I left home that I'd find my dress while on vacation.
It is a Maria Karin dress. It's from 2011 collection. I know it's older, but I really loved the way it looks on me and it has the colors I wanted in the dress. I have not found my shoes or veil yet, but this is definitely my dress. FH loves me in it! As soon as he saw me he started to get tears in his eyes. At that moment I knew this was my dress. The only frustrating thing about it is I have to wait about 2 months for it to arrive where I live in GA. I want my dress now! LOL I love my dress!!! |
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05/29/2012
 puzzled |
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Where is the love? Comments? Support?
Good morning WBC ladies! First I want to say thanks to the ladies who support each other on here. The comments, suggestions, ideas, support, and love is really great. But I was wondering if anyone feels like I do with about the lack of comments and support.
It just seems strange to check on your blog and see that there has been like 50 views and 0 comments, or one comment. Especially if you've asked a question seeking some kind of support from other brides that you support. I comment on other brides and try my best to support and help out, but it doesn't matter how much I comment others, I just don't feel the support back. Sorry for the b&*!chy rant but was just wondering if others were feeling how I feel too. |
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05/23/2012
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Inspiration Board
Twilight Theme Apples
As we are prepping for the wedding this Fall we came across a few new ideas for the outdoor part of the wedding.
We did decide to add a tent, just to put the food under and a few tables. There could be rain, but we doubt it. It's good to be prepared for that. As place cards we would like to have apples with the names of each of the people who are to sit at the tables professionally inscribed in them. We know a person who can do really nice Calligraphy. It would give it a very personal touch. The lanterns could be old fashioned and lit with incandescent lights. These are just a few ideas. I'd like to have it all outdoors, but an elegant wedding tent wouldn't hurt. What do you ladies think? There's still more ideas Jake and I are going over, but the apples stood out the most with these. Thanks for your honesty. |
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05/21/2012
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Wedding Dress
Bianco e Nero or Vera Wang?
I love Bianco e Nero and I love Vera Wang. I'm undecided on a wedding dress right now. It has been narrowed down to two dresses. I started out with having to decide from about 40 different dresses and a decision could not be made.
Two dresses stand out the most. I love the Bianco e Nero Mori dress because of that hint of black in it. That dress with the Philip Treacy for Valentino shoes would look great. Then, that Vera Wang White dress and shoes caught me by surprise. The wedding colors are black and white with just a little red. I just can't decide. Help? |
hoitytoitygaudybride27
| 7 | months since wedding |
Darlene
Jake
Oct 13, 2012
Forest,
Georgia,
United States
Forest
Outdoors
P&K Photography
Black
Our wedding is Twilight Theme. It's going to be outdoors and surrounded by trees. It's in the heart of the Fall season. We hope the weather will permit us to enjoy the outdoors and the Fall down in the South. We love the colors of Fall. Our colors are black, white, and rusty red.
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