As previously mentioned a few blogs ago I had a best friend who I had asked to be my one bridesmaid/maid of honor. There will not be a large wedding party. We are only doing a MOH and BM. Well, the first person I asked was my best friend and a good friend of mine since childhood. That did not work out, so I asked a girlfriend that I felt was trustworthy to be my MOH. She was a little shocked that I asked her, but she has been good and loyal since I asked her. She found a dress over the weekend that I gladly approve of. She thought it was strange that a MOH would wear black, but that's our main color so she found this one on Ximplle. It's cute, simple, and was affordable for her. I did offer to buy her dress for her, but she refused saying it was her job to help me, not the other way around. She is so sweet!
She was the best choice. I really understand now that a true friend/best friend will really be there with you and not make up stupid excuses not to. When I finally did get to speak with the first person I asked to be my MOH she didn't even apologize for her rude and down right mean behavior towards me. I told her how hurt I was, and she put all of the blame on me.
She did express how she truly feels by saying that she thinks that I am selfish to be getting married soon and to ask her to be my MOH while I knew she was having a hard time living with her mother and trying to raise her child on her own. She said that asking her to be MOH was really an inconsiderate thing to do to her. She said that she feels like I need more time to think about if I really want to marry this man who she has known for as long as I've known him which is over three years now, and she never seemed to have a problem with him until we got engaged. And she feels like the reason I need to wait to marry him is because he is still trying to work his way up in life as far as his job and that he doesn't seem to meet me at that level economically. She feels he isn't worth it.
It's all B.S.
I understand that she has had two failed marriages and hasn't had much luck with love, but this is my first and hopefully only marriage. I'm not rushing into things like she may have in the past. And I'm in love and I'm pretty sure about how I want to spend my future with my FH. Now, I know who really cares and who really is supportive of me. I'm very thankful for this realization. Otherwise, I may have had more troubles with this girl than I could have possibly imagined. It's crazy how planning a wedding can fetch out the ugly truth. So glad I saw it sooner rather than later.
Thank you, Shelia for being a true friend and my MOH. I thank God for you.
