This is hollycarb22's Pink Wedding!

Hello Everyone,

Ok, I need some help. My FH is African-American and I am Caucasian. (We are not getting married until 2010 when I am done with nursing school but I would be SO relieved to have this part of the wedding figured out sooner rather than later).

As Marcus and I are "color blind" we are discovering we have not thought about a lot of things, one of which his sister recently brought up:

All of my bridesmaids, with the exception of one lighter-skinned half Caucasian, half African-American woman are white and his groomsmen are just the opposite, including the exception of one lighter skinned African-American man. We picked people close to us to be in our wedding (none of his family is in my party and none of my family is in his) and never gave skin color a thought. However, the very good point his sister made is that we will look divided on our wedding day instead of united. I asked her to be in the wedding party but she politely declined, as she feels "too old". He has a few nieces and I have two brothers and two nephews. My brothers do not feel offended nor did they expect Marcus to ask them to be in the wedding and Marcus and I did not feel like they had to be in the wedding just because they are my brothers. My nephews are too little to care one way or another, lol :-)

So, any suggestions ANYONE has would be greatly appreciated. Marcus’s sister suggested that perhaps we have his nieces hand out programs or should we just add a couple junior bridesmaids and groomsmen to the wedding?

Also, now I’m freaked out about overlooking other important aspects of the wedding. We’ve thought about the food and music already, and even though we don’t go to church we have the same religion, phew so I think we’re okay there as well. Am I missing anything else?

Wow, sorry for the very long-winded “question” and thank you all in advance for ANY help you can offer:-)

Holly