Who makes you stress the most on planning your wedding? - For me its my mom..she's driving me CRAZY! - ILOVEANDREW24's Pink Wedding by Color Blog

so you don't have a monster-in-law, you just have a monster :-) I would say that you need to tell her that this is a very special experience for you & could be for her if she would just let go of her control that she wants to have & just support you. Don't let her get you down. This is your wedding, your future, your life. Plan the wedding of your dreams! I just wouldn't even include her in anything until she'd agree to be pleasant. Don't worry, it will all work out. My FMIL is the one with all the opinions in my planning. She is very opinionated & has very different taste than me. No matter how much I try to explain what I like/am buying, she just doesn't get it & keeps telling everyone my colors are chocolate & light pink when that's NOT what they are! It's like she think's I'm gonna change if she just keeps harrassing me about it. She also thinks that I absolutely have to have a cascading bouquet & I don't like those. It's just little things, but it does really get annoying. Best of luck in all your planning! I'm just trying to do most everything on my own & have fun doing it.

ph my god. That is terrible. Stand up to her for sure. I know thats easier said than done. That makes me mad though. Wedding are enough stress without putting up with that!!

Good Luck!!

Hey girl! I'm sorry you are so stressed! I am too, it seems that the closer it gets to the wedding the more annoying everyone is getting! For example, my grandma (who I love more then anything) told my mom that she HATES the engagement photos FH and I had done by our wedding photographer. She does not want him shooting our wedding. Even though we love him, he's awesome, and actually one of the most talented and expensive photographers in our area! My FMIL is coming down from Canada a week and a half before the wedding and she has asked me to save some of my DIY projects for her when she gets down! Talk about stress! And she asks like everyday, seriously. My FH won't lift a finger to help me. My mom is a major procrastinator. No need to say anything else about that! And even my guests are driving me crazy!! I have a list of 5 people that are going to let me know if they are attending 1 week before the wedding!! #s are due 2 weeks before!! uggghhhh!! Isn't wedding planning fun?! Ok that was my vent of the day! Thanks! Good luck, I hope everything get's better! :)

wow, i think are moms might actually be the exact same person. my mom has done everything you have mentioned above. i posted a couple of blogs the other day (one is about calling of the wedding and just eloping, which i didn't want to do, and the other is about how i delt with the situation). check it out and see if it could help resolve your issue. good luck. your wedding is just that your wedding. do what makes you happy. all of us girls on here are there if you ever need any help. hold on, stay strong, and make your day everything you've ever dreamed it to be

No one stresses me out about the wedding, but myself. My parents are paying for half, and they are very supportive, and don't force anything onto me. When my parents got married, my grandmother did exactly what your mom is doing to you. It become my grandmother's wedding, because everything was the way SHE wanted it to be, so my mom tells me she will support whatever I plan, because her mother didn't support her. It sounds like your mother is trying to re-live her own wedding, and is forcing ideas down your throat. For one, your fiance is paying for the wedding, not your mother. If your mother insists on something in particular, that you had not anticipated in your budget, then tell her SHE can pay for it. The people paying for the wedding have the say on wedding plans, so if your mother is not contributing she should only have a bit of say when it comes to the guestlist, to ensure all your closest relatives are invited. As far as her wanting to make her own invitation, that's just crazy. I think you should speak to your father and tell him that you need his help in sitting down with your mother and telling her that her behaviour is really upsetting you, and that you don't feel like this is your wedding anymore. If she doesn't comply, then you may need to shut her out of your plans, and just go ahead and book things and do your DIY projects with your wedding party's help.

So sorry to hear about the situation you're in...but I would do what some of the other brides suggested...leave her out of the planning for a little while and don't share as much with her, and then if she still wants to be involved and can behave in a more civilized manner, then if she really wants things to be HER way, then she can pay for them. If not, then she can only make minor suggestions, but she will have to understand that if she's not paying, then she won't be able to have the final say in making any of the decisions...only YOU and your FH will!!

As for my wedding, my dad causes the most stress...especially when it comes to anything money related!! My fiance and I are responsible for paying for half of our wedding, and my parents are supposed to be helping with the other half...but my dad is a little reluctant to hand over any money right now because of the economy being the way it is and because he says that he doesn't see that my fiance and I are financially stable enough on our own right now...so basically he told me last week that he's not even sure if we will still be able to get married in May unless he sees that we have "proven" to him that we are ready to be married financially!! Well I don't now how long it's gonna take to prove it to him, but if we are still getting married in May then there's alot of things that we need to be buying or ordering for the wedding, and then figuring out who we will book for certain things like the bakery, DJ, etc, and they all need to be paid a deposit to hold the wedding date for us. So it's kinda hard to do all of this if he's not helping to provide his half of the money for our wedding and now we don't even know if it'll still be in May or not...but we've already had to push the date back twice so we really aren't looking forward to having to move it again!! So let me just say....AAAAAHHHHHH....(*pulling my hair out right now* lol)...so I know how you feel about having a family member that stresses you out while you're trying to plan your wedding!!

I would have to say my mother stresses me out the most. She sometimes tries to take over some of my ideas & it drives me nuts. I love my mom & she is helping me tremendously but some of the ideas that i want for my wedding she either shoots down or points out other ideas instead. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I understand...at the start of my planning I had it on both ends my mom didn't like my choice of menu, my FMIL thinks I have too many on my court, one didn't like the date, one didn't like the place....blah blah blah... I told them both that I understand that MY choices might make MY WEDDING a little harder for ME but its what I want. We all sat down and My FH and I told them that these are OUR dreams for OUR wedding and that this is how its going to be, we are planning to do this only once in our lives and we dont want to look back thinking what if we did this diffrent. Hope this helped and dont stress do what makes you and your hubby happy.

Oh wow it sounds like someone thinks this is her day. You are either going to have to take her to the side and explain how much stress you are under and how much the way she is acting is really hurtful to you. If you dont have this out with her now you will have a nervous breakdown as you will let it go and the little things will build up and up until there will be one thing that happens that makes the whole thing blow up. You dont want her pulling any stunts or acting like this on your day so you need to nip this in the bud. This is meant to be you and your FH day and your wedding you are meant to be happy and more importantly she and everyone else who loves you is meant to be happy for you and there for you regardless. If you dont want to approach her have you any family members who would?

Sorry to hear of such uneccessary stress. MOM NEEDS A TIME OUT! Unfortunately me and my mother had the worst falling out 2 years ago on MOTHER'S DAY. This has been going on since I was 14 years old. I am now 41, and enough is enough. I know you don't want to hurt mother's feelings, but this is YOUR WEDDING! Since she wants everything her way..She needs to throw her own soiree, get together, function, or whatever. This is your wedding..If you just take over the planning and not consoling with her it keeps less stress on you and your day. I bet you she'll show up to the nuptials...If not, enjoy you and his day. Shell eventually will come around.