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Why dont brides leave comments?

hey babe,
i know what you mean!
i feel like that too lately....
i don't know why it's been a lot quieter on here over the last couple of weeks...but take heart hun
right now, i'm digesting your recent posts, trying to come up with some ideas 4 you.... i am sure it will all work out 4 you
xoxo

I know what you mean, especially when something you really need advice on, and it says you have had like 50 views, but then only like one or two comments. I guess maybe we are all just really busy...but I try to find the time to leave as many comments as possible.

sometimes i read them but i really don't have anything to say!!  or at least not anything productive!!!

What happen is that many times you just don't know what to say or how to help, but all of us relate in many ways as we are all here in the same situation.
I thnk that the stress and drama you are experiencing is sort of expected at the point were you are.
I am sure everything will work out just fine.

Sometimes, I don't feel like I'd say anything that hasn't already been said 3 times. It also probably depends on when you post. I've posted things and received no comments and I think it might be because of the time I posted. It seems like we all tend to post at the same time and then the posts move down so quickly that it gets skipped over. At least that's what I'm going to keep telling myself!

I know what you mean!  So I just do me and try to said something, if it just that nice!

Hello, I hadn't been on in a while.  My reason for not being on is I have alot going on in my personal life.  But that doesnt stop me from logging on and looking at everyone else's post.  I guess it helps to hold on to the little happiness that i have left by reading everyone's joys.  Thus is the reason for lack of post.  I've learned though not to take it so personal.  That is my advice to you.  Just continue to post and make someone else's day brighter.

THANKS LADIES : ) ITS FUNNY HOW A POST ABOUT LEAVING NO COMMENTS GETS LOTS OF COMMENTS LOL (((HUGS)))

Thank you so much for current comment in my post...I really didnt get a lot of comments either.  I think its because I posted my question at 10 at night or at 1 in the morning.  But Yea...I get so many visits but no love for me either...and my visitor count is off too, but thats not what I care about. I had over hundred readers and only 4 comments:(.  I show love when I can to others, but no love back.  My posts are usually informative, so maybe thats why...but thats a great idea isnt so hard to write:).  Not bitter about it, just sad...lol.

I agree--how can 59 people read your post and no one has anything to say?  thats why i try to always post...because I know that I like it---the last couple days however I've been really busy at work, working late, so when I get home I'm not always on the computer--but since I'm an addict here I still like to read the posts but don't always have time to post or I think about what I should post.  I don't really have time right now to post--but since it was obviously bothering you I had to chime in.  Hang in there!  I planned on getting home tonight and catching up on what I have missed lately--as well as posting on a few of your blogs.  :-)  Keep your head up and just keep blogging--obviously people enjoy reading your blog if they are visiting your site.  :-)

mrswilliams2b is right though BUT if someones post makes you happy...it would be nice to tell that bride that they made you happy to read their posts...but I get just reading is like reading a article...just happy to read it...or regretted it:).

I totally agree I have several posts with no comments it's kinda like ok if you view and read it just humor me lol!  We should all try to leave at least one comment on everything whether it's productive or not who knows it might help more than people thinks.  I for one feel better when I get a comment about stuff just because I know at least somebody is paying attention to stuff I post and cares enough to leave a comment.

I know what you mean!!! Even when i "ask a question" and actually need help...i seem to get the least amount of comments! I usually comment on posts unless i have nothing nice to say. I almost wrote a blog about this too!

::sorry::  I try to make a point when I'm logged on to at least say something & acknowledge the post.  Any time that I refrain from commenting, is when my .2cents is irrelevant, or if I feel that I can't offer real or helpful advice to that person.  I'd rather say nothing at all than to fake the funk.  It's so ironic though that the posts about no comments tend to gather the most comments, lol.

Anyway, hugs to you for your bad day, & I'm off to read the previous post.........;0

Ohhhh, I totally know what you mean!!  I know you're having a tough day, but since we can all relate here, I think this is why we sometimes get zero (or maybe just one) responses (well, I am only going to list a few reasons):

1.) Sometimes non-members simply Google or make their way out of keyword searches, stumble upon our post(s) & then realize it isn't exactly what they were looking for.  Hence the zero comments, & reason to why we see all these "visits", but no comments.

2.) Like MrsWilliams mentioned, sometimes in the midst of this planning, there is personal heartache, setbacks, & discouragement.  Some of us come on here simply out of relief, addiction to the site, curiousity, or whatever reasons we may have.  Sometimes it's nice to keep your passions thru another bride.  With that being said, I don't think we tend to be rude, we just simply move to the next post.

3.) When we think about it, we are really ALL guilty for not commenting at some point in time.  I mean, I see alot of brides really contribute alot to so many posts, but if we all really posted on every single post, then the comments would be in the hundreds.  There are alot of brides/visitors here, & the most we can generally get on a good day averages about 10-20.  

4.) Some brides seem to relate better to other brides.  Some of us have personal relationships with other members, email, call, etc..if you dont have a certain closeness, you can sometimes tendd to shy away from the "touchy" posts that really require advice.  It's pretty easy to comment on how someone saved money or did a DIY something.  You either like the thing or you dont, so you comment.  

I really think we all try to do our fair share, but if we don't I hope that your frustration is a wake up call for all of us.  We probably could all do better.  Obviously we love you, as your counts are huge, & your bio is in the main profile under your color category.  So, I hope that you haven't taken lack of posts personally any longer.  If you want a good laugh, just come visit my blog.  I have hardly anything, lol...

P.S.  All will work out regarding your reception.  Usually there is always some crazy mishappening right before a great blessing!  Hang in there.

aw.  you need a hug.  (((hug!!!)))

oh my gosh well you sure got allot on this one...lol I did a post like this to and that was the most comments I got in any post...lol

I understand. I feel the same way. I hate leaving a post and not getting feedback. If I didn't want feedback, I would just post it on my blogspot that I haven't told anyone about! You aren't the ony one feeling this way, believe me! Breathe and release.

I totally agree!  I used to come on here all the time looking/hoping for responses only to get nothing... which has totally turned me off from the site.  I think you are pretty much the only person who comments on a regular basis.  lol thats why I stopped coming on here as often.  I'll write a post like once every week or two weeks now.

I'll admit, there's a few posts that I've read simply for the shock factor of them- i have nothing nice or encouraging to say about whatever it is, so it's better to just say nothing at all. Other times, the post is too long & I don't have the attention span to read it all at that moment. It does irk me when I see I've had 70 views on a post but no one's left a comment though.

I don't always comment, but usually it's because my boss is walking by my desk or something... LOL!! I do agree that it really sucks when you put up a post & get 1 comment, or even worse...NONE!! I'm gonna try to make a point of saying at least something from now on... After all, that's what I would want people to do with my posts!

Hi.  How can you tell if people have read your post but have not commented?

See I am commenting...and back from.....well hiding. Laughs.  My mood and your just might match. We both need a holiday from our weddings.

I noticed that I usually only get 1-2 comments on almost all of my posts (boo hoo!) P.S. YOU are almost always one of the brides that leaves me a comments THANKS! haha I do leave you comments too...(we have the destination wedding/reception at a later date thing in common)

If I don't always leave comments to people it's usually for the same reason as eponine923 said-I read posts thinking I'll comment them later cause my boss could walk in at any moment (haha I can't help it I'm addicted to this site!) Then when I check later at night if I get online the post is usually gone off the recent posts.

I know right???? I suppose I am guilty myself......my reason is that my computer is a POS and it takes FOREVER to navigate on here, and half the time while I'm posting a comment it goes to another scree and I loose it all! I think I have a virus.....(computer virus, that is) HUGS!

I know what you mean!  I think sometimes other brides have the mindset that if it doesnt affect them or help them in any way it doesn't matter to them--so why post.  I try to at least write something every post that I read.  Granted, I know all of us are busy, but I still try because I know the feeling of really needing some fellow brides advice and getting 1 or 2 comments out of ALL the brides on here!  Sometimes I just feel like not posting anything anymore.

like everyone else said sometimes I'm either not sure what to say, or everyone else has already said it and I don't want someone thinking 'duhh thats already been said 10 times', haha.

I know the feeling!!

I have no family or friends here where I live at.
I'm planning my wedding alone and when I need
help or need an advice I post it here.
But most of the time nobody comments so its sad
sometimes. You can check my blog and see.

I understand that we all are really busy , maybe its that...

sometimes when I'm going to comment , somebody else already wrote what I was going to write so, thats another reason.

and thanks for your comments in my blog ;)

When I don't comment, it's usually because I either don't see the post, don't have anything productive to say, or just don't have time to post. I am in the middle of nursing school, am a youth leader, coach cheerleading, am interviewing for a job on Monday, am a daughter, fiancee, and friend, and am somehow trying to plan a wedding in the midst of all of this. I don't always have the time or energy to think up a reply. I do try to comment on as many posts as possible though, and I love reading through the posts when I have time. :)

Hey, on an up and up note, I'm slowly coming around. So some of you will begin to see me posting on your blogs.  BTW - you're getting married on my daughter's birthday. She'll be two.  Wish you peace love and happiness. :-)

Thanks for leaving that comment for me!  All is well, but lots to do!  Craziness..I can't believe you'll be married in a matter of days!!  Wooohooo:)

I do understand your frustration. Most of the time I comment if I view a post, and sometimes I'll go back to that post to read other comments and I think that adds another num to the counter so that may raise your number too. I do think the right post at the right time gets the most though because I'm a bit of a night owl and if I really need help with something I'll wait and post earlier  because I know i'll never get a resonse lol. Cheer up  though and hey look at the comments on this one haha

I think for me sometimes I don't have something constructive to say or something looked interesting so was checking it out... usually I try to leave a comment but a lot of the time someone has summed up what I would have said 100 times better than I would have said.  :)
(I saw your one post there about something where I was going to say something and then I erased it because whatever I was typing probably just sounded stupid).
we love hearing what you have to say.

You are one of the few brides that ever comments on my posts. I'm not even sure anyone reads my blog, it's more for me than anyone else really. Sort of like a timeline of my wedding planning to look  back on. But it is fun to see what others have to say. Thanks for commenting on my blog!

I'm ok with brides looking and not leaving comments. I would rather have someone look at my post and not like what I have posted, and not leave a comment , than for someone to leave a nasty one. Those girls on the knot are nasty. Everyone is really nice. I do appreciate what comments I do receive though.

I feel that way if you posted a question and need some answers.  But for posting your ideas, I think that is up to the person who is reading the post.  Just in case they don't like what you posted and you dont get stuck with a rude comment.

Amen to that!

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