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Is anybody else sick of the rude comments?? or the no comments???

DEFENETLY !!! I had some girl kinda insult me and I really had to keep myself together to not say anything back. In normal life I would, but I`m not on here for drama.... I wish she would have kept it to herself.... No need for stuff like that on here...I`m so with you on that :)

I keep seeing posts about rude comments but I haven't seen any! I had one awhile back & just ignored it but I guess I've been lucky. Hopefully you guys dont get anymore. I think WBC should delete people if they're leaving negative feedback all the time...we need positive advice only!! :)

I guess the problem in part is that when you ask for opinions you need to be aware you will not always love the feedback that you get... sometimes it is meant purely as constructive criticism, and this is ok, when it becomes blatantly rude then it is not. Remember that you are putting stuff out for the whole world to see!! You can't possibly expect everyone to be puppies and kittens and rainbows. I lurk a LOT and I have not seen much negative stuff on here.

ive only ever had one negative, and i was like whaaaaaa and then laughed it off. Just ignore it girl, and the best bit on your own post.. YOU CAN DELETE IT!

I agree with Tanya (again!)
You cant expect postive comments from everyone, but that doesnt mean that people should be flat out rude!
I wont lie, I posted a boarderline "rude" comment just before commenting on this post this morning! But it was with good reason, sometimes you just have to tell someone to tone it down and enough is enough!
However!!!! 99% of the time I post very lovely little comments, because I love wedding stuff so much, everything is beautiful to me!!!

I think this is so hard. Sometimes people's comments come across rude when written and not how they were intended. But if someone was rude intentionally, that's so unnecessary. It could be feedback that is supposed to help just not delivered well? I don't think I've had this issue but I'm so sorry you have. :(

i agree with some of the other ladies there is a difference between rude and i don't like the idea and some may find the later rude no matter what. but when you put it ur there be prepared to get feedback you may not like

Ya I get the no comment thing but I haven't really experienced any rude commenting. Some brides have blogged about some really serious things and I've given my honest opinion. Maybe I come across as being rude, I didn't think so, but negative feedback doesn't necessarily equal rudeness. I agree with Tashasita that maybe it's all in the delivery? It's really hard to communicate emotion on here.

I just had one this morning for the first time.  I was a bit taken aback, but replied that I didn't understand why she would post something negative on my topic...

We have to remember though that everyone is different...  I don't understand why someone feels a need to be a negative nelly, but I know that they may just be going through a bad day themselves which prompted their negativity...  who knows!  So my tactic is to leave my reply a little while, then go in and delete the post...  Simple as pressing a button or two!

And, HUGS to you for being brave enough to point this out without calling anyone specific out!  Good job!

I actually just flagged the offending brides blog, as she has a post bashing all of WBC now.  That is usually how I deal with offending posters.

That's awesome that you did that camyam73. I didn't see the offending bride's post until after I commented on jamieleigh12's post.

I havent had any rude comments but thats terrible! just ignore them. People need to follow the rule if you have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all!

I've only had one negative comment so far, but i agree don't say anything if it's only negative : P

Ok...now I'm confused, it's kind of a catch 22.  There have been SOOOO many posts about people NOT, getting feedback or comments, then...when it's NOT what the bride wants to hear on their blogs....it's don't leave comments if you have nothing nice to say.  I'm like...what do people do.  We hear complaints about "hit and runs" and 1000 views but no comments..well, that may be because someone has nothing nice to say, cause if they say what they really want to say, then it's considered "rude" when they are probablly just leaving their honest opion.

Me personally, I've never left a mean comment, but come on ladies...we all big girls...everything ain't always what you want to hear, and things are not always nice...even on here...that's just life.

So, I say pay it no mind.  I don't  care what people say, and if somebody does post something "rude" on my blog, I would probably delete or ingnore it....it's really just that simple, don't take it persnal.

Hey guys...  just a note...  the offending bride has had her account deleted from WBC.  Her behaviour was out of line...  no way her posts were anything but rude and angry.  I am all for expressing yourself, but when it becomes to the oiny where your only goal is to hurt and abuse someone, then it's time to say enough is enough.

Well it's good it's good that bride got deleted.  There is no reason for somebody to be flat out rude.

I haven't noticed this at all :( so sorry you guys are experiencing angry brides!! You're getting married people (this is for the angry folks) so why are you so mad? lol!

Sorry girls. Maybe I should clarify. I didn't mean to cause such an up roar. I only got one rude comment and brushed it off. But I have seen a few brides on here leaving just plain nasty comments! It's not about how the message is delivered! When you say things like "lame" or "That's ugly" or "Ya I don't like that at all" I'm sorry that does not fly with me! It's one thing to leave suggestions, but to straight out tell somebody how much their project sucks is another. I get the whole trying to leave feedback, but not when it's that rude. That crap pisses me off, and there is no need for it on WBC!!!

HAHAHA! The girl that got deleted was the one I was talking about OMG!

I know Jamieleigh...  It just saddens me a bit though...  obviously she was under stress (drinking and blogging???  wowsa)...  she left a bit of a mean comment on my post about bridesmaids dresses, saying essentially that she hated it...  I feel bad for her that she is not enjoying her planning process, and that she obviously did not find the support she needed here at WBC...  but that does not mean WBC should look the other way...  I think they did the right thing, but IT still makes me a little sad.

Where have I been?! I didn't even see any of the drama with this chick that got deleted! I feel like I missed out lol. I'm glad she got deleted, she obviously didnt need to be here.

My mistake, no member deletion, just some posts deleted...  but here's hoping that she finds her happy place!  That's what I would love to see.

Wow, really? I haven't seen any lately? I remember there would be little cat fight comments back in the day, but nothing recently. Sorry you have experienced this horrible abuse.  I agree with you 100%.

Agreed. this is... and I've said this before.. why I steered away from "theknot.com"  Alot of the girls on there are flat out like.. "um, that's tacky, are you nuts.. how ugly is that?"  I was shocked.  A bunch of haters drinking to much hateraid for breakfast if you ask me :)  I feel like there are times when I read a post and don't comment just b/c I don't really have anything to add. Sometimes I'm not on here for 2 days, and by the time I see a post one of my fave girls posted, they have 20 comments and it's so talked out.. that I feel like me commenting will be like "yah, what she said!" hahahah  But I usually always post and I'm positive.  What's the point in being negative.  It just hurts the brides feelings and then makes you look b****y to other brides!  Things are not bad or ugly, they're just different depending on people's taste.  And if a certain bride continues to post stuff I don't like... I UNfave them.  I've done it twice :) haha  No haters on my blog! lol get out of here! hahahah (I just laughed typing that and my coworkers are like.. what are you grinning about??) ha!

For every 100 REALLY supportive and nice comments there is always the one rude one. Try not to let it get you down and focus your energy more on all of the WBC brides who love ya and are here for you!

who was the rude girl? or should i say WHO WAS THE RUDE GIRL? catch my drift hahaha. am i on the right track?!?!?!

@babygirlnaenae You are so sweet! You are one of the brides who comments me the most and  I love all your feedback! I totally get what you are saying about leaving a comment and sometimes you have nothing to add to the other 20 comments that were left! haha! Thanks for being one of those brides who makes WBC fun, and my fave place to be for wedding ideas!! You rock girl!

@ deneanrae Oh you got it girl! HAHAHA!

I agree! WBC is a blogsite to inspire other brides and help them with wedding decisions!  That is the reason I decided to goin.I have made several wbc friends and feel that other brides are like family, I love to inspire and encourage others. I took the WBC vow to always inspire,encourage and leave positive comments. Ladies lets all remember to encourage and uplift others. I LOVE W.B.C. It makes me sad to hear that my WBC  ladies had to experience this!
With love in Christ Jesus,
Darlene

I honestly can't believe why anyone would want to leave negative or rude comments. There are no excuses for that. BUT then again the show BRIDEZILLA comes to mind and I can see why there would be some bitchy brides out there. If you are having a bad day bride stay the heck off people's blogs!!! Go express your negativity somewhere else. No one deserves to have anything but positive feed back. Constructive criticism or whatever you call it is only ok if it's helpful and delivered in a nice way. If I don't like something I don't say it, I tell them my thoughts on other options etc. Yes we are all big girls and have our big girl panties on but that doesn't mean we need to put up with other peoples shit.
Treat others how you would want to be treated, isn't that the golden rule??? Would you want someone to post something crappy and rude on your post that you so vulnerably put out there for others to read. Heck no unless you are a masochist!
Don't condone peoples bad behaviors. If someone posts something rude on my page i'm going to be the bigger person and say please don't post on my site again unless you have something nice to say. I get so excited to come one here and to hear that other people are getting bitchy comments makes me so mad.
I did read someones absurd comment on another brides site about marrying her husband and I was down right pissed for that poor bride. Imagine the balls of someone telling someone else why would you marry that guy?!!
Brides get a grip on your emotions and put your horns away, this is supposed to be a FUN site and a helpful one. If you think that your post might be construed as rude don't post it. Read what you type before sending it ladies!!
MWAH!!!!