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lol wow, she sounds like a mature one. Honestly, ignore it. Hes marrying YOU, and she sounds CRAZY and immaturre. I know how irritating and unsettling it can be but shes not going to get him so I wouldnt worry. He loves you and is marrying you TWENTY FOUR!! days!! :D

Whoa, she is definitely a Keeper, huh? lol. That is just really annoying. And yes very immature. I think just staying out of it and ignoring her little game she is playing would be the best revenge and also the best way to keep her out. She really wants a reaction out of you and talk about major jealousy!

Wow. I am sooo sorry this is happening to you. Keep your chin up, and just IGNORE HER!!!! I know that is way harder said than done. Take a day off and go to a spa or something to clear your head and get back to being focused on marrying the man you love and who LOVES YOU!!! I think she is jelous that you got what she wanted. Good luck!!

Well, I wouldn't just leave it at that and not email her back lol... Maybe to make her stop, is to have Jeff email her and tell her how happy he is being with you... And that being with you is the best thing that ever happened... And this is the final reply to any emails. And to leave you both alone... Hopefully she won't be a wedding crasher...

What a BITCH! I think your best bet is to ignore her she seems a little loopy don't let her ruin your day or add to the stress of your planning. shes just jelous you have him she can't :P

P.S. cute pic:)

You got him and she wants him. No worries he will be your husband.
Find your strength in him and you will both be fine,

As for her...well she will always be lonely and desperate and may never have the honor of having another mans name.

I agree with everyone else! That is very immature of her. She wants your man; don't let her discourage you because before long you will be Mrs. Jeff! Now let her LOL that!

She's just a pathetic, immature person who can't get over the fact that he wants to be with someone other than her. She's just desperate to get him back. Sad isn't it? Don't worry about it. You've done what you needed to do. Just concentrate on the wedding and being married to the man that you love. You've already "won" because he's marrying you =)

She's just jelous...If I were you I would've send her an email in caps LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOOLOLOLOLOLO IM KEEP HIM ....UR NOT lol

Yikes! Yeah, preyty immature. Both of you should block her email address, talk to his mom, maybe she could drop her on face book. Give a picture of her to the security at your wedding if you have it- just in case. Then go on loving life and pretend this never hapened.

OMG dont even say she might show up at the wedding... i really hope she has no idea where it is.... i dont think she knows where my parents live.....everyone start praying that she doesnt show up.... i dont think i could handle that.........

Just wanted to say thanks too for all the girls who gave advice....and its nice to hear that i am not only one other than jeff that sees this as a problem... and lets hope she doesnt show up at the wedding lol....

OMG.....this is so similar to what I am going thru. My fiance's ex-wife is doing similar sh*t to us. My best advice to you is just to ignore her and her childish ways and just know that he loves you and not her. That is why he is marring you!!!

We almost had the same situation lol One of my fiance's ex's found out from his cousin that we were getting married & she stole his cell number off his cousin's called ID and started calling him from a blocked number..Then she kept leaving voicemails begging him to call her. He broke up with her along time ago for a reason!! She was crazy. lol
So.....Long story short he changed his number and she obviously doesn't have any way to get a hold of him now thank God!

I am really sorry about your situation. Don't worry about her she just made herself look like an ass that's all. Don't let her ruin your plans.

Okay...i think you might need security at your wedding..just incase.

I agree that you should block her, but if she is sending you messages with "lol" on it, she is bitch crazy and willing to do anything!! And we don't want to KILL her if she crashes your ceremony or reception(because if that was me i would try to choke the life out of her)

by the way, how did she get your email?
Crazy!!!!!

Looks like jealousy with a healthy serving of crazy is showing up in your life. I have dealt with similar, and I would just try to ignore her and not take it out on your man. He can't help it she's a loon. But above all don't let her drag you down!

She got my email because a long time ago jeff and i added her to my facebook because wewanted to see how she wa, not realizing how crazy she was for jeff(we figured she was over him)... well over a year went by of us never talking....i forgot she was even on there then about 1 week ago now (well when i did this post lol) she started emailing us with all this shit.....but she is now blocked and hasnt found a way to contact us yet.... thank god!!!! now just pray she doesnt know where my parents live(thats where the wedding is lol)

she is the reason I will still have a job in the future!!!!!!. I LOVE MENTAL HEALTH!!! LOLOL...

stupid people say stupid things lol.

Wow i cant believe someone would go to that level to get someone back they should know they cant have. Good luck with it and hopefully she doesnt show up at the wedding

P.S Congrats on the wedding you must be getting excited! it will be here sooner than you know

First off Congrats on your upcoming wedding. I read all of the posts and don't want to duplicate what the gals have said, but wanted to say that if the wedding is at a private residence that works in your favor. Your parents have the right to call the police and ask that she be removed from their property. Give her pic to your brothers or uncles, their protective side will kick in and you won't have any problems. I am glad that it appears the drama is over, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

oh, i feel your pain, i had to deal with the same situation, the ex-girlfriend is always popping up to family houses because she says she is friends with his family, well so what, pop up when we aint here.....i would say the best thing for him to do is to cut her off, i mean he can't do it completely b.c they have a child but other than issues with the child, there is no reason to deal with her, and tell her life goes on, so go find a husband for yourself, Jeff is taken...........jealousy is rearing its ugly head.

Oh they dont have a child together, she has no ties to him what so ever...... now he does have a child with another woman(and me of course lol) and i would never stop her from talking to him, but this crazy woman has no reason to contact him, they havent talked in 3 years!.....

thanks again ladies for all the advice, i always love hearing your opinions

Gees, i feel kind of bad for bringing up the idea of her showing up on the big day. Don't worry - even if you don't have security, just let one of the bigger guys know about her. She would have to be REALLY crazy to show anyways. There's too big a risk for her to look like a complete psycho in front of everyone there.

She's a loser and is seriously envious of you right now. Ignore it, she's immature. She clearly has way too much spare time if she's e-harassing people. Have her emails sent straight to "junk" where they belong. He chose you, so no doubts about it - you won his heart, be happy; the wedding planning is stress enough gurl!

The best revenge is happiness. People like her can't stand seeing others happy, and unfortunately, will go out of their way to try to ruin that happiness. I think that all involved (you, your fiance, his mother, etc) need to cut ties and all contact with her. She is taking the "you don't know what you've got until it's gone" a little to the extreme (psycho). Don't let her KNOW that any of this has bothered you...it's what she wants. If that doesn't work; call me, I'll come there and take care of it for you...LOL