jennainterna's Pink wedding


08/08/2008
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Wedding Dress
Got my lace bolero, wish I didn't have to wear it:(
I got my lace bolero in the mail last week. I ordered it from ebay, and with shipping it cost $40 which is a steal. Shipped fast. Thing is, I'm really not looking forward to wearing it. My family is conservative, and believes that modesty in the church for the ceremony is the respectful thing do. I get it, I totally get it, and I'm going to do it to make them happy, but that doesn't mean I have to be thrilled about it. It's just a disappointment because the first time my FH sees me in my dress walking down the aisle, I'll be wearing this lace bolero that doesn't really go with my style of dress. I guess I just had pictured my walk down the aisle differently. I know many other brides who've gotten married in the catholic church and wore strapless, but their uncle probably wasn't the officiating monsignor.

I haven't tried on the dress with my bolero yet, and I guess I'm putting it off because I'm worried about how it will turn out. I just don't want to absoultely hate it. I really have no other options.
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amcs76
 |  Whitby, ON, Canada  |  08/08/2008
Why wear it if you don't want to? I understand that you are concerned how your family feels, but it is your wedding, and you are a grown adult, and you can make that decision for yourself. It's one of those things if you do it, and when you get your photos of the ceremony, that's all you will be able to focus on is how you had to wear this bolero.
gratefulbride
 |  Atlanta, GA, United states  |  08/08/2008
Do you really have to wear it then?  Was there another option to just get a dress you liked with straps or sleeves?  I love that style bolero, but if you hate it, it may show as youre walking down the aisle, because you should be comfortable.  I hope you can do what your heart feels in the end, while still being respectful to your loved ones.  You may end up really liking it when you see yourself in it?  Can you take it off at the reception?
tamaragb
 |  Carmel, NY, United states  |  08/08/2008
i think it is very pretty!!!!
jennainterna
 |  -, -  |  08/10/2008
Thanks for the input everyone. I wish it were that easy, but in my case I think the appropriate and drama-free decision is just to wear it. As much as I'd rather not, it's just for the ceremony which will total about 30 minutes. It's not that I don't like the bolero....I think it's quite cute...I just never pictured myself wearing one down the aisle. Oh well!
lydostinkpot
 |  Long beach, MS, United states  |  08/17/2008
You should do what you want. It is your wedding, not your families..they already had their day to dress however they would like. I am catholic  and I am already getting the conservative speech too, but you know what? I already told my family how i feel. Plus, your wedding is in august isn't it? It gets hot.

Just respectfully tell your family how you feel.
Mercy
 |  Tracy, CA, United states  |  11/08/2008
The bride is a gift to God, and her spouse. The bolero lace jacket is only a reflection of the modesty within her heart no one can make you wear it but you can offer it as a gift to God rather than for yourself.
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