12/03/2009
me and the ex-BM
me and the ex-BM
   

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OMG... You'll never believe what my MOH did!

So the day after Thnxgiving, after work, less than a week before my bday (which is today btw) my MOH called me.

Here's how the convo went...

Me: Hi.
Her: I am graciously withdrawing from the wedding.
Me: ...
Her: I just don't feel like we're close anymore.
Me: ...
Her: I'll still come to the wedding.
Me: ...
Her: I just wouldn't feel comfortable.
Me: ... I wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable...
Her: Please don't let your mom be mad at me.
Me: ...
Her: K. Thnx. Bye.

So the silver lining, I guess, is that I have one less bouquet to make. All the other bridesmaids have been great and really supportive, btw.

And now, I feel like there's nothing about the wedding that could possibly ruffle me. I'm like, I got this. I told FH that there could be a hurricane (which is a statistical impossibility since we live FAR from the ocean) and I still would be like, whatever.
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futurewright's Blue wedding
futurewright
 |  Rochester, NY, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
Good for you! That convo is similar to one I had except she didn't respect me enough to call she just texted. You want the people who truly care about you to be there for you. Good luck and Happy Planning.
mrspatton2b's Red wedding
mrspatton2b
 |  Baton rouge, LA, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
Wow, thats crazy! Well, I now believe it when everyone would say to me that you will definitely find out who your real friends are when you decide to get married and TRY to include them in your planning......Im glad you see it the way I see it: the wedding will go on with or without whoever...... lol! Happy planning and good luck with everything. :-)
debs356c's White wedding
debs356c
 |  East alton, IL, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
Well good for her for at least admitting it. Instead I had to basically fire one of mine because she couldnt even attend my shower. ugh.
babygirlnaenae's Black wedding
babygirlnaenae
 |  Canonsburg, PA, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
I lost two of my "close" friends during this process as well... I really like the way you're looking at it.. I feel the same.. in my opinion.. i'm weeding out the drama before it happens on my wedding day.. I blogged about it too if you wanna check it out..lol  People are always quick to point the finger, instead of looking at their own actions and trying to figure out why things happen.  Like your friend always talking about herself.. god forbid she realized that was why she doesn't know you well.. grr dumb girls irritate me... haha  Way to be optimistic :)
unpredictablebride's Black wedding
unpredictablebride
 |  Harvey, IL, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
Good for you girl!!
AND>>>>>>>>>

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cherry268's Chocolate wedding
cherry268
 |  Ponchatoula, LA, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
That sucks.  Hopefully your other girls will take up whatever responsibilities she was supposed to fulfill.  Good luck girl!
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17ANGIE23
 |  Township of washington, NJ, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
I totally dislike ignorant ppl. like her.  You know what she did you the biggest Fav. one less problem you have to worry about. Just make a W with your thumb and index finger and say "WHATEVER".  

HAPPY PLANNING:-)
hamptonsbabe's Orange wedding
hamptonsbabe
 |  Edison, NJ, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
You have reached a good place...where not much can shake you up anymore.

I'm really sorry to hear that she opted out.  But, better now than later.

Only the best and may only that come your way!
fijipearl's Red wedding
fijipearl
 |  Arlington, TX, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
consider it a Blessing. Any1 who isn't for you is against you. she's probably hating. Love her from a distance. I actually don't have any wedding party...I AM THE WEDDING PARTY!  LOL! sorry, that's the LEO in me.
smr789's Green wedding
smr789
 |  Winnipeg, MB, Canada  |  12/03/2009  | 
I think this is a good thing. This way if she didnt tell you, then she may have been a terrible MOH and would have caused you more stress. This way its out of the way and now you can focus on everyone else that IS willing to help you!
mrssayer's Purple wedding
mrssayer
 |  Winnipeg, MB, Canada  |  12/03/2009  | 
I can't believe you handled this so maturely! Good for both of you!
jjrenee85's Pink wedding
jjrenee85
 |  Schererville, IN, USA  |  12/03/2009  | 
I love all of you girls. You are all made of awesome.  Your comments made my day.  And thanks everyone for the kind words.  It's shocking to me how many of us are going through this same situation.
tashasita's Purple wedding
tashasita
 |  Maple, ON, Canada  |  12/04/2009  | 
You handled that so well and are looking at  your outlook on this is amazing! :) And you're right, you got this and it doesn't matter. :) I love your outlook, totally inspiring.
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