This is jnikkist's Chocolate Wedding!

I have missed you all soo much!!!! It has been a long few months: My daughter got into her 1st car accident and mees her car up petty bad, I loss my job..Ok loss is not the right word " I WAS LAID OFF"...like that sounds better, and I failed 2 of my classes and had to take them over again.....What does all of that have in common? MONEY THAT WAS TO GO ON THE WEDDING!!!

But Im ok and this is goin to work. I have always been cheap sooo Lets see how much I can get for soo little. I have soo much still to do. OH DID I TELL YOU my daughter is graduating this summer and I have a godson on the way this spring...and what does that equal MORE MONEY....this is now becomin funny.

SO he is my list of things to do this month:
PICK MY DRESS AND ORDER IT
That thought just made me sleepy...I need a nap....I will try to finish my list later...THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT I LOOK ON THE SITE EVERYDAY and become alittle envy to see how much all of you have done and how happy everyone is (for the most part..give or take a rant or too)...LOL

I have my girls dresses..YEAH!!!! and I think they like them. But I think thats all I have done. Im soo not into planning I know what I like and what I want but I cant get into it. I still wish we could go to the church and just do it

OOOHHH and did I tell you that the church only holds 175....and we cant agree on music and people keep tellin me that I have to curl my hair I hate curling my hair..the way it smells and feels..YUCK...I like it when The King put his hands thru my hair but these people dont care. Oh yeah and I want feathers and they tell me no or they turn their nose up at it. I dont know how this turn into a vent but you all I got..LOL

I think I have him on my side about having people eat before we get there.

OK I FEEL BETTER!!!! THANKS

Hey ladies!!!

Here we go again me wantin to chang the world ..ok maybe not the world but the way we do things....

The reception....

LET THEM EAT BEFORE WE GET THERE

I know I know...."you cant do that"...but why not?
Most brides say the cant eat or dont enjoy the food soooo why should the guest have to wait for us to get there?
I was thinkin...after the wedding the wedding party can do the pictures, the guest can go to the hall and eat dinner...have the lady put the wedding party's plate to the side....and we can get the party started when we come in. We can have stations of finger foods during the dancing part..

So what ya think Think my mother will disown me???

I found a hall...over a month ago....gave her a deposit...and SHE JUST CASHED THE CHECK two days ago....almost a MONTH....who does that ???? no more checks for her...chashier's only.....YUCK

OK I FEEL BETTER!!!!

THANKS FOR LETTIN ME YELL

Hey ladies!!!! and how are you doin??? LOL..

Ok here we go did anyone order their dress online and if so which site and how was is??? I have fallin in love with a dress but Im cheap and to spend $4,000 on a dress to wear for a few hours and then to be put in a box makes no sense TO ME....let me say that again makes no sense TO ME!!!! You all have been very kind to me and I dont want any hate mail...BIG SMILE

So for those who have done this online Please help out a cheap bride....Or just say Hi!!!!

I found a trainer and the best part its FREE!!!! She is great!!! she did everything pictures measurment bp and heart...and 20 min into the workout, I passed out..LOL...my fault didnt eat before I went.

We have a personal trainer program at the school so this is part of her gradeand its her last quarter.

She gave me ideas on what to eat and how to eat.

The goal is 25lbs before the wedding.....8lbs by Dec....WISH ME LUCK

Get To Know Us
How long did you date before you got engaged?
unofficial 15yrs....officialy 4yrs

-Did you get the ring you wanted?
YES... a year before he ask me I seen a pearl and feel in love with it...I told my best friend that if he every ask her to go and pick out my ring let him know I want a pearl

-Was the proposal a complete surprise?
YES!!! took me 2days to realize he was serious

-Do you wish you had a bigger/smaller diamond? If so How big or small?
No diamond...AND I WOULD NOT CHANGE IT FOR ANYTHING

-Did you cry when he proposed?
nope...didnt cry until a month later...

-Was the proposal romantic or creative?
neither...he woke me up out my sleep and I told him he was just dreamin and to go back to sleep...

-Where do you want to go for your honeymoon?
anywhere

-Are you buying his wedding band for him?
no his is picky and wants to get it himself

-Have you gone over your original wedding budget?
Not yet

-What day of the year will your wedding be?
Sept 3,11

-What kind of weather?
late summer

-Inside or outside?
inside

-Church/justice of the peace/other?
The Coolest Pastor I know...hes my mommies best friend and her pastor

-How many people will be there?
250 more or less

-Time of day?
4-5ish

-Any kind of theme?
vintage I love the fashion and the shape of real women and he loves the music of the 50's-70's

-How many bridesmaids? Who would they be?
1 maid of honor-my daughter, matron -my sister
3 bridesmaid a cousin and my bff (lefty and righty)

-What kind of cake/what will it look like?
2 tier simple...yellow cake w/buttercream

-Where will you have the reception?
A hall

-What kind of dress will you have/color/material?
ivory lace long or a short white one

-What kind of flowers in your bouquet?
no flowers

-How will you wear your hair?
flat

-Who will be important to be there?
Friends, family

-Will the reception be big or small?
Medium

-What will the groom wear?
brown or cream

-How long on Honeymoon?
3-4days

-How old will you and the groom be?
I wil be 36 and he will be 35

-How long will you be engaged before you get married?
2 years

-Live together before or wait till married?
already living together

-Take a long time to plan the wedding or will it be simple?
Simple but alot of planning to do

-Will you do it yourself or with family or hire someone to plan the wedding?
We'll be doing it ourselves.

-Will you write your own vows or use something pre-made?
a little bit of both

I want to have this wedding be about me and him....So Im looking at doing some diy...but what do you do 1st???

I dont want flowers...
I love pearls
and his last name is King and I love the royal thing

Help you all have done sooo much just not sure what would last in a box for 331 days??

THANK YOU!!! YOU LADIES ARE THE BEST!!!!!

I need some energy....I have none...I just want to sleep.... I must loose at least 15lbs.

I had a issue with food back in the day. Lets just say I weighed 95-110lbs up until I was 25 then I started to gain...and gain some more and some more.

I dont eat PROBLEM #1
I dont workout PROBLEM #2
I have no energy to get off my butt and do anything #3

I come to you with a need for energy!!!! LOL

This is my second...and I have been fighting with myself about what I can do and what i shouldnt do...This was not a problem when we were goin to Jamaica...Now that we are stayin in town what to do? Do I invit family ( I have a very large fam and so does he....we also live in a small town were EVERYONE know everybody...and did I mention that our cousin are married to each other and his aunt is my mommy's best friend..) I know crazy....but thats not all ... He wants to include both my fathers , bio and step, by having them walk me down...NOW my bio father didnt come to my first because he said he had more pride then to share a day like that with someone else...My step dad has been in my life since I was 9yrs I could not see him not being there..and my dad is my dad not really there but hes my dad...I want my daughter, 17, to walk me down... But Carlos want them to do it...Not sure how to explain this to him...

So if anyone has any idea OR for those who are marring the SOUL MATE this time what are some of your issue you seam to be having even if its just within yourself??