We also spent a lot of time thinking about how to best remember my dad who passed away 4 1/2 years ago.
We decided that we will have a memory tree, shown in the first picture- which will have a picture of my dad, and the grandparents my FH and I have lost.
Beside the tree, we will also have a memory candle for my dad. We will be printing a short poem on vellum paper to wrap around the candle, as pictured in the second. Nature and the outdoors was very important to him which is part of the reason why we are trying to incorporate it in our wedding day.
As well, we have named our tables after lakes in Algonquin park which was his favourite place in the world. The table names will be pictures of each lake.
I'm also going to attach a bouquet photo charm to my bouquet so he can be there with me as I walk down the aisle.
For my something old, I am going to sew in an old button from his shirt (one I have saved which he wore to my highschool graduation and we picked out together) into the inside of my gown. I got that idea from a website, and thought it was fabulous.
In the program we're writing a little something about remembering him. I don't want to completely break down on my wedding day so I've asked that the priest and my mother do not mention him in our ceremony or speeches.. I know most people do and it would be nice, but I know I would just start bawling and I want the day to be a happy one!
Many people suggested doing a donation as a favor to the Canadian Cancer Society or having the kissing game be that people make a donation for us to kiss, but I decided that on this day, I don't want to remember cancer or how he died. I want to remember him and his life, what was important to him. Cancer already got too much of him.
To remember Joe's grandmother whom he was very close to, we are incorporating a butterfly or two into our day.. we think we're going to put a fake one in our apple green colour (sold at Michaels in the spring) on our memory tree. His whole family thinks of her when they see a butterfly.. I forget the back story now, I believed she loved them, collected things with butterflys and then on her funeral day there was a butterfly that landed on someones shoulder. So it has significance.
Hope this helps someone out there!
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