04/26/2011
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Feeling sick about wedding costs..

Ok.. as it is getting closer.. all the payments are starting to roll out. And I'm beginning to seriously feel ill about how much we are paying for this day!!
What was I thinking???
I mean, I'm going to love it, it's going to be beautiful... but who do I think I am? Why did I need to pick this venue which is costing us a small fortune?

Ugh.. we have approx 90 guests... and we're doing an open bar, so that right there costs a pretty penny. And we're doing it at a venue that I need to pay a fee to put up a big white tent for the reception, so that's another big cost that I wouldn't have if I chose a different venue.
I LOVE MY VENUE...but I HATE the costs.

My fiance would kill me if he knew I was feeling this way... as it took a lot of convincing for me to get him on board with what we're spending.

I know it's too late to do anything about it now.. with less than 2 months to go.. there is nothing we can cut or change..if anything it's just getting slowly bigger :S

We're spending approx $25,000 - including the honeymoon. I hear that's about average in our area..but it's just SO much money. We already own our first house..and we're not having kids right away, so the debt we will end up with will be paid off quick enough and isn't being taken away from any other major life plans right now..but it just feels silly sometimes.

Just starting to feel the 'pinch' as it gets closer...anyone else feeling regrets?
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mzcantey's Purple wedding
mzcantey
 |  Charlottesville, VA, USA  |  04/26/2011  | 
I'm no where near being close to the wedding date but I worry about the cost for a one day event. I ask myself sometimes is it for us or is it for everyone else. My budget is not even close to yours but you don't want to regret not doing it the way you wanted it. Don't worry, I'm sure it will work out fine!! Good luck sweetie!
nandd2011's Blue wedding
nandd2011
 |  Waterloo, ON, Canada  |  04/26/2011  | 
I hear ya darlin! I try to tell myself you only get married once but some days I think its crazy and feel like eloping!
soon2bshep's Black wedding
soon2bshep
 |  Boynton beach, FL, USA  |  04/26/2011  | 
It is your big day and enjoy it. Remember this is is the biggest and best party you will ever throw, so do it big and exactly how you want it. With the remaining things you have left do to...just look for the best prices and shop around.

This feeling will eventually pass....Happy Planning!
yuandmi's Blue wedding
yuandmi
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  04/26/2011  | 
First of all, you DO have a beautiful venue. I wish I knew about it before I booked mine :)
Second of all, for our area I think it's average price for a decent wedding. Especially, if you're doing open bar. We are doing open bar for 5 hrs, and I know how much it costs per plate.
It is a lot to pay, but eventually looking back at your day, I believe you won't remember the cost, but how beautiful your venue was, how great your cake looked, how beautiful you felt in your wedding dress. It's well worth it.
kellys's Blue wedding
kellys
 |  Oshawa, ON, Canada  |  04/26/2011  | 
thanks girls...
soon2bshep - that is exactly how i look at it, its the best party we'll ever throw, so why not have it exactly how i want it! and really, we've all heard of people spending a lot more, so i try and remember that as well..

yandmi - we're doing a 5 hour open bar as well, so ya, its not cheap, and add in the cost for our tent rental, and it kills us more than another venue may have been..but you're right, we chose this venue because its beautiful and we will remember it forever.. my fiance wanted a 'wow' factor with the venue,and i think we have it.. but its also a 'wow' on the purse strings, haha

..i will keep trying to put myself in check... its too late to do anything about it..and we agreed upon this budget at one point.. i mean it did start at $15,000, but once we picked this venue it quickly went up..haha
laurie88's Orange wedding
laurie88
 |  Westminster, MD, USA  |  04/26/2011  | 
OMG! yes!! When I first started planning I was super excited, but now as the day gets closer I'm getting sick about how much money this costs. I mean I know you only get married once and I keep trying to remind myself but HOLY S*** I never realized we would spend this much! and now that I'm finding ways to cut costs FH keeps adding people to the guest list and saying-well we already spent this much, what's another thousand. I'm getting nervous though, we still have about $9,000 in payments to make in 3 months. We started with a budget of $20,000. and we're looking more like $40,000 now with honeymoon costs and everything.. BLECKKK! I really wish we would have went to an island and got married by ourselves(especially with the way everyone is acting about us spending this much) but really it's to late now! and I'm really getting sick with all the other costs I didn't even consider. Our flight tickets alone are almost $1700!! We aren't doing anything on credit though, paying cash but still.. we could have put this money towards the new house we are building. Def. having regrets.. but I know the day with be beautiful and I know a bride isn't supposed to get wasted on her wedding day but I CAN PROMISE YOU my open bar won't go to waste!!
daphne47's Pink wedding
daphne47
 |  Salem, OR, USA  |  04/26/2011  | 
I have had friends spend that much on their weddings! What's done is done girly - and just enjoy your day! You only do this once and chances are you won't have another party this large- so just enjoy all your visions coming to life!!

We are spending around 6k- and I'm doing quite a bit of fancy things- no caterers, or dj's although it would be fun won't work into this equation. Same thing with open bar. That is a pretty penny but everyone will remember this day- and so will you!!!

I hope you have an amazing photos and videos to remember it by!:)
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