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Hey Ladies!!! So here is another article/blog that I read and I found it to be VERY interesting...sometimes when we have an idea of marriage we only imagine the days of wedded bliss, but what about when things don't go according to plan...and our spouse does the most unthinkable thing...what do we do then...do we leave and forfeit the vows that we made to GOD or do we stay and deal with the hurt, pain, and learn to forgive...fighting for our marriage regardless of what our families think...after all it's only about what GOd says aboutus anyway right??? Well, that's a snapshot into my head. We have to learn to deal with things the way God would have us to deal with them...Just some food for thought...
Enough of my rambling ;-)

Here's the article/BLOG POST:Hard-core Honor
By Abby Kelly on July 10, 2012



Marriage is made of promises, from the inaugural seconds of the union between a man and woman.

I, Sinner 1, promise to be true to you, Sinner 2, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
I took some liberties with the vows, but they are nonetheless true of anyone who has ever taken the marriage vow.

Typically, the honeymoon follows where it’s relatively easy to keep those promises. Just two weeks ago, I returned from my little sister’s wedding. She and her husband have been dating for more than seven years. They have kept and broken promises to each other. They have forgiven and overcome bitterness. But as she and I sat on the floor in her living room, just days before she was to take those vows, this sinner felt an urgent need to share with her what I am finding to be the secret to promise keeping.

The secret is one five-letter word hidden in the middle of the marriage vows. Honor. According to Dictionary.com, honor means: honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions. Despite the culture’s clamor for equality, showing honor requires nothing of the sort. My vow to honor my husband is binding on me even if he breaks his vow.

This is a hard pill to swallow and one that many Christians contend. But I offer you two Biblical precedents.

First Samuel 25, tells the story of Abigail. Abigail was married to Nabal, a man the Scripture describes as, “crude, mean, wicked and ill-tempered.” Ultimately, Nabal’s stingy and unjust behavior cost him his life. However, Abigail behaved honorably toward both her husband and those he had offended. We don’t know anything about the earlier years of their marriage, but it’s doubtful that Nabal had ever treated her with honor.

Hosea is the sad story of one man’s marriage to an unfaithful woman. Hosea obeyed the Lord and married a woman who was never faithful to him. In fact, on more than one occasion, God sent Hosea to redeem Gomer from the trouble her promiscuity had gotten her into.

And the Lord said to me, ‘Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the Lord loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins” (Hosea 3:1).
These stories tell of the obedient lives of two people who loved God and kept their vows to honor their mates, even when they were not treated with honor. But the verse in Hosea introduces the greatest story of love in the face of dishonor.

God loves us even when we are disobedient. “…but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

Whether you are preparing to take your marriage vows, or took them years ago, maintain your obedience to Christ.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:1-2).
We understand that we will face dishonor and unfairness in life, but we generally believe that our spouse should be exception; Our husband or wife should be one person who always honors us, brings us joy, and makes us happy. But when two sinners wed, that can never be the case. A Bible study teacher once stopped me in my tracks with her comment,

"God gave you a spouse to make you holy, not to make you happy.”

I TAKE NO CREDIT FOR THE ARTICLE WRITTEN IT WAS TAKEN FROM: http://www.startmarriageright.com/2012/07/hard-core-honor/

Hey Ladies! So this is something that I read and thought..."Hey I should share this information" ...It's about becoming intimate companions and I thought it was a good short read that had some substance so here it is...
Thirteen Decisions that Help a Couple
Become Intimate Companions

• I will lock the escape hatch and throw away the key
• I will be intentional
• I will make our relationship a priority
• I will revisit my expectations
• I will champion you
• I will nurture my private life
• I will be responsible and reliable
• I will be honest
• I will connect with you
• I will reveal myself to you
• I will allow you to influence me
• I will work through issues with you
• I will forgive

(Tips came from GrowthTrac Marriage Minutes)

I'm looking for some wedding ceremony music...does anyone have any ideas??? I really like the un-traditional violin sound of Miri Ben Ari I ran across her the other day when I searched for music, however I am having a hard time finding music that I can actually use....do any of you ladies happen to know of any other artists who make music such as this or music like I am asking for. I'm having a kind of hard time finding music that's not secular to play at my ceremony and reception(I do want to dance even though we won't be playing hip-hop/ r&b music;reason being me and my fiance do not listen to that style of music and we are choosing not to play it at our wedding however it's hard finding an alternative that doesn't sound like we are "at church" (lol)
Are any of you ladies having or have had the same difficulty as me and willing to help me out please do :-) I would really appreciate it.

Is anyone else feeling a little neglected in the planning process? I mean besides my mom, my fiance', and wedding planner noone seems available to help me! Am I being sensitive or are my feelings justified??? I don't think I'm having a BRIDEZILLA moment however I would like someone to seem like they care...what about you ladies???

Let me start by saying God always amazes me! So my hunny and I just found out where we were going on our honeymoon; the trip has been gifted to us by my cousin.
Growing up this was my little-big cousin lol! We did everything together she's practically my sister...EVERY family vacations that my mother dad and sisters and I went on she was always invited as my guest. She was my best friend :-) I The wonderful memories of childhood!
It was right after the New Year at my Aunties house for a Sunday brunch and all of my cousins were sitting and talking wedding talk and out of nowhere she my "cousin sister"says I want to do something for you for your wedding but I don't know what yet...and a few minutes later she says;"I know; I'll pay for your honeymoon it will be a surprise location" I was like ARE YOU SERIOUS! THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH! I could go one forever about how this went and how much God continues to blow my mind but I'll make this short and sweet and share the location with you...after telling us that we needed to make sure we had passports and that they were legitimate we found out where we are heading for our first trip as not only husband and wife but our first trip EVER together! Drum roll please...lol we are heading to St. Kitts & Nevis for our honeymoon! What are romantic place to spend with the man that God has blessed me with! I am super excited!!! And very grateful and thankful for ALL of the things that God is doing.

After changing my mind what felt like a hundred times I have finally decided on dresses for the lovely ladies in my wedding party. At first my heart was set on having pink dresses but after I couldn't find a suitable dress that flattered each body type I FINALLY found one...in purple which now makes my colors concord purple, silver, grey, and diamond white. These dresses are beautiful to me and if i were a bridesmaid in my wedding I would want to wear ANY ONE of these dresses! What do you ladies think?

After months of searching I finally found the one! It's just perfect it's something that I never knew I wanted. I found it while out dress shopping with my mother and my sisters and as soon as I stepped out I knew it was the one! They were all in tears lol It's ordered and now I'm just waiting for it to come in; I can't wait for my dress to be safe at home with me! I'm super excited about and I can't wait for my future hubby to see me in it! It's just perfect for our evening candle lit ceremony.