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Hey Ladies!!! So here is another article/blog that I read and I found it to be VERY interesting...sometimes when we have an idea of marriage we only imagine the days of wedded bliss, but what about when things don't go according to plan...and our spouse does the most unthinkable thing...what do we do then...do we leave and forfeit the vows that we made to GOD or do we stay and deal with the hurt, pain, and learn to forgive...fighting for our marriage regardless of what our families think...after all it's only about what GOd says aboutus anyway right??? Well, that's a snapshot into my head. We have to learn to deal with things the way God would have us to deal with them...Just some food for thought...
Enough of my rambling ;-)
Here's the article/BLOG POST:Hard-core Honor
By Abby Kelly on July 10, 2012
Marriage is made of promises, from the inaugural seconds of the union between a man and woman.
I, Sinner 1, promise to be true to you, Sinner 2, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
I took some liberties with the vows, but they are nonetheless true of anyone who has ever taken the marriage vow.
Typically, the honeymoon follows where it’s relatively easy to keep those promises. Just two weeks ago, I returned from my little sister’s wedding. She and her husband have been dating for more than seven years. They have kept and broken promises to each other. They have forgiven and overcome bitterness. But as she and I sat on the floor in her living room, just days before she was to take those vows, this sinner felt an urgent need to share with her what I am finding to be the secret to promise keeping.
The secret is one five-letter word hidden in the middle of the marriage vows. Honor. According to Dictionary.com, honor means: honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions. Despite the culture’s clamor for equality, showing honor requires nothing of the sort. My vow to honor my husband is binding on me even if he breaks his vow.
This is a hard pill to swallow and one that many Christians contend. But I offer you two Biblical precedents.
First Samuel 25, tells the story of Abigail. Abigail was married to Nabal, a man the Scripture describes as, “crude, mean, wicked and ill-tempered.” Ultimately, Nabal’s stingy and unjust behavior cost him his life. However, Abigail behaved honorably toward both her husband and those he had offended. We don’t know anything about the earlier years of their marriage, but it’s doubtful that Nabal had ever treated her with honor.
Hosea is the sad story of one man’s marriage to an unfaithful woman. Hosea obeyed the Lord and married a woman who was never faithful to him. In fact, on more than one occasion, God sent Hosea to redeem Gomer from the trouble her promiscuity had gotten her into.
And the Lord said to me, ‘Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the Lord loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins” (Hosea 3:1).
These stories tell of the obedient lives of two people who loved God and kept their vows to honor their mates, even when they were not treated with honor. But the verse in Hosea introduces the greatest story of love in the face of dishonor.
God loves us even when we are disobedient. “…but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Whether you are preparing to take your marriage vows, or took them years ago, maintain your obedience to Christ.
Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:1-2).
We understand that we will face dishonor and unfairness in life, but we generally believe that our spouse should be exception; Our husband or wife should be one person who always honors us, brings us joy, and makes us happy. But when two sinners wed, that can never be the case. A Bible study teacher once stopped me in my tracks with her comment,
"God gave you a spouse to make you holy, not to make you happy.”
I TAKE NO CREDIT FOR THE ARTICLE WRITTEN IT WAS TAKEN FROM: http://www.startmarriageright.com/2012/07/hard-core-honor/