littlelady93's Pink wedding

I'm glad for this post! I have been debating this since we got engaged. I am not a fan of this at all. I find it in poor taste to ask guests for money. HOWEVER, and that's a big HOWEVER, both in my ethnic background and in the African American tradition(at least on my Fiances side) this is very popular and done at every wedding we've been to. I never see people cringe at the thought of giving a dollar to dance with the bride and groom there's just something I don't feel right about asking guests to dance with me.

My fiance is dead locked on doing this....and as much as I'm not thrilled with this idea I might have to compromise and do it since he thinks it will be fun. And it might be fun I've never been on the receiving end only on the giving so I don't know if other brides feel like this too.

I've been thinking of either donating the money or saying it will go towards our future childs college tuition....

I'm curious about other people's responses so please ladies post your thoughts.

I personally wanted to do it....but my Fiancé refused! He thinks it's too much like "prostitution"...lol:)! I totally disagree but if my man doesn't like the Idea of having his Bride dancing with others for money....well I gotta respect that!

Too bad...he's so Old School...!!!

We were thinking about having a Fund Raising Engagement Party before the wedding. A sorta Game Night...where people pay to play Poker, Black Jack...or to particiape into draws. This way....they already have the intention of helping us financially while having fun and while celebrating our engagement.

i am absolutly going to do this!!! my best friend got married last july and she did it and it was so much fun! They did there first dance and then right after that ended the dj annouced the money dance and everyone lined up to dance with them it got everyone up out of their seats and got the party started! Not to mention they made $485 to take on their honeymoon! i think its a great and fun idea!

i have no idea what this is... do you get to keep your clothes on? sounds like stripping to me! ;) lol

my parents have been intent on me doing this before the day i even met matthew.  my godmother did it at her wedding and ever since then my parents thought it was the coolest thing *puts head down in shame.* so yeah i'll be doing the money dance as long as matt does it for the ladies...we're going to look so stupid but knowing us we'll probably be tipsy enough to dance with the bartenders and enjoy the idea of being poked with sharp pins...

Thanks ladies... :) You ave been helpful.. I think we are going to decide to do this & see what happens lol

Just to add my two cents....
Scott and I are still on the fence. Well, I'm not. I'm going to do it, but Scott might not.
We're not going to have people put the money somewhere on us though, we're going to have them put it into a envelope or something! I don't want pins in my wedding dress except for when the seamstress is putting it in through the waist!!

Every wedding I've been to has had some form of this. Once, they just passed a bucket around during the dance and I didn't like that. Half the fun is the people coming up to cut in (and give you more money!) I think it's a fun way to help cover the alcohol and food you've provided and it's optional. If they don't feel compelled to donate money they don't get up to dance, no pressure

Thank you so much for your advice by the way :). I'm in the same situation, I'm portuguese and we have a tradition where you send around the brides show and guests put money in it. My fiance thinks it's tacky and although my side of the family will think it's normal he thinks his Irish family (who are making up more than 65 percent of the guests) won't like it. We're still figuring out a compromise but I say go for it if it's something you want to do or a tradition, it's your day :).

I've seen it done where the MOH collects the money in an apron.  My cousin did this, but all the money collected went toward a local charity in her recently deceased father's name.  So, maybe if you feel bad about "taking money" make it a fun dance for a good cause!

We live in Hawaii and every single wedding you go to here has the money dance. It's like a given you don't even have to announce it the guest will just start comming up on there own. It's done during your first dance and it's also a way for your guest to give the bride and grom there blessings. So we don't even need to think about it, it will just happen, can't kill a tradition.Have fun.

I have also been debating having a dollar dance. I wasnt going to do it because I thought that it might be tacky and I was afraid no one would come up and dance with us. However, my friend got married last summer and she did a dollar dance and she said that it was really nice to get to dance with people you might not have been able to talk to because of so many people being at her wedding! So now we are going to do the dollar dance to be able to hopefully talk to everyone!!!

I don't think it's tacky..it's a tradition here in hawaii.. it's done when the bride and groom have their first dance together. the guests come up and put money on them.it's a blessing for the bride and groom..i know for sure we'll be doing that for our wedding. :)
have fun!

We are doing it.... for two reasons 1) its tradition --at least everyone whos been married in our familiy has done it & 2) It's always really fun<33

We are not doing the money dance. My fiance hates to dance for onr. For two he feels its tacky to ask for money after most have already bought a wedding gift. And the third reason is because him and my mom have a rocky relationship and he says if she comes to dance with him he would have to give her .75 cents in change hahahah!! But I personally love the dance but it just doesn't fit us as a couple. i say go for it and have fun!

we wanted to do the money dance at our reception since its in both of our cultures traditions, but i'm unsure of how to tell friends & family a/b it.. most of his family knows a/b it but mine, i dont think have even heard of it... i wanted to put a card in the invitation envelope kind of explaining it but not sure how to word it..